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Teaching Modesty, Modest Prom Dresses and Modest Clothing

Updated on August 15, 2011

Is Modesty An Issue For Today's Youth?

If you are uncertain as to the question posed, take a day and visit your local high school. Living in sunny Southern California, I am always amazed at how wearing so little clothing is acceptable as the fashion of today. More and more skin is shown as skirts, shirts, and shorts become smaller and smaller.

The pop culture and the entertainment industry have stretched the standards of dress to the limit. "Being in fashion" and "fitting in" are important issues that face our teens today, forcing them to even choose clothing that they themselves may feel uncomfortable with. Teaching modesty in dress, language and behavior in general is a challenge that all parents face.

Modest Prom Dresses can be found...

Are uniforms theanswer to modesty issues?

A school uniform is a way to address problems of modesty faced in our schools today.
A school uniform is a way to address problems of modesty faced in our schools today.

Dress codes and uniforms are helping address the issue of immodesty in our schools.

Modesty in dress is more than just a religious issue; it is a healthy choice in so many other ways as well. The manner in which one chooses to dress can be a distraction in the working place as well as in the school. Dress codes, which require more modest clothing, are becoming more popular with educators everywhere, especially in the private sector which is more easily mandated, to facilitate less focus on fashion and more focus on learning. More and more school districts are requiring uniforms to alleviate the problems of immodesty in the school.

Jason Evert - Why Modesty?

Modesty is becoming more fashionable.

Teaching that self respect is important in all aspects of life, Girls Gone Mild, is a new group to look for. Brooke White also radiates modesty.

Another reason for encouraging modesty in dress is out of self respect. The manner, in which we dress and attend to our personal grooming, sends off signals to the world around us. Our appearance identifies us with certain manners of behavior and creates expectations in those around us. Brooke White from American Idol for example stands out because of her modest dress standards, and becomes an example of modesty for the world to see.

Our appearance and their expectations may influence our own behavior. Teaching our youth to have a healthy level of self-worth can be one way to discourage immodesty in dress. Helping them to be happy with themselves can remove the desire to dress like someone or something they are not.

Finding Modest Clothing On line

Shopping for modest clothing is another issue altogether. In most cases fewer and fewer choices are available to meet the modesty standards you may find acceptable. Everyday wear is a challenge in itself, but with Prom season fast approaching the dilemma arises as to how you can help your teen find a modest dress, and WHERE can you look to actually find one. Until the "malls" and other stores make modesty more available, many good resources can be found on the internet.

Modest is hottest!

A beautiful modest prom dress makes for a comfortable evening.
A beautiful modest prom dress makes for a comfortable evening.

Modest is beautiful.

A modest prom dress can still be fashionable.
A modest prom dress can still be fashionable.

Ways to Dress Modestly by Jami Elsmore

  • Buy several long tank tops in different colors that you can tuck into your pants so your tummy won't show with a shorter shirt.

  • Sew a strip of fabric onto the bottom of shorter shirts.

  • If a shirt is mostly cotton, buy a size larger than you normally would so when you wash it, it won't be too tight or too short.

  • Buy long boy's shorts when they are available during the summer.

  • If the top part of a dress is immodest, consider cutting off the top and altering the dress to make a fancy skirt; then find a nice top to match.

  • Start shopping early for the prom and other special events so you won't be tempted to buy something immodest at the last minute.

Dressing modestly can be done!

Although dressing modestly is definitely a challenge for the world today, I know it can be done. As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, a Mormon, I believe that modesty is an important issue facing each of us. As members of the church we are given guidelines for our youth to follow in a pamphet called For the Strength of Youth.

Mormon Church views on modesty

A guide for all LDS members to follow regarding modesty.
A guide for all LDS members to follow regarding modesty.

It States:

"Immodest clothing includes short shorts and skirts, tight clothing, shirts that do not cover the stomach, and other revealing attire. Young women should wear clothing that covers the shoulder and avoid clothing that is low-cut in the front or the back or revealing in any other manner. Young men should also maintain modesty in their appearance. All should avoid extremes in clothing, appearance, and hairstyle. Always be neat and clean and avoid being sloppy or inappropriately casual in dress, grooming, and manners. Ask yourself, ‘Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I were in the Lord's presence?' "

President Gordon B. Hinckley Councils:

"Modesty in dress and manner will assist in protecting against temptation. It may be difficult to find modest clothing, but it can be found with enough effort. ... You can be attractive without being immodest. ... Draw some rigid parameters, a line in the sand, as it were, beyond which you will not go."

Modesty - A Guy's View

It is a parents responsibility to teach correct principles and be an example.

We can teach our teens to value themselves, and to feel comfortable with who they are. We can teach them to be "trend" setters and not "followers" in the fashions of today. Let's make a difference in the way the world dresses by dressing modestly ourselves and teaching our teens to follow in that pattern.

Oh, yeah... And Good Luck With That Prom Dress!


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