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Mommy's Lessons Learned - Seasons of Life - Looking for the Rainbow
Seasons of Life - Looking for the Rainbow
Its been quite some time since I’ve been inspired to write and even though I’m in the process of doing it now, it feels very foreign to me. This year has been a difficult one financially,culminating a month and a half ago with my husband losing his job of 16 years. We are both going through a whirlwind of emotions, one day feeling hopeful and the next filled with sadness and discouragement. During this time period I’ve tried my very best to be positive and hold it together for my children’s sake but that has proven to be a daunting task. When talking with my kids, it has been so hard to explain and put into simple words (while trying not to shatter their sense of security), the concept of rent and bills being due, food getting low and hopes running out.
I’ve been able to spare them the details of standing in a line that wrapped around a city block in order to apply for government assistance for food and healthcare. The sadness and despair I witnessed in the eyes of the men, women, dozens of children and infants on that line is something I will never forget. I was taken aback by the sheer number of people there, being hit so hard by this new reality we now find ourselves in. In my mind there is the constant echo of the words I’ve heard spoken on the news and various talk shows many times…. In an instant your entire life can change and be completely turned upside down. The worse part is knowing that there isn’t a darn thing you can do to change it.
So now we find ourselves trying to survive and living daily with this new “normal”. Fortunately I personally have been blessed by connections I've made on pages focusing on positive thoughts, prayers and gratitude on Facebook of all places. Every morning I start my day with my morning coffee and skim these pages finding dozens of sources of inspiration, support and hope that carries me through that particular day. This definitely has been a day to day struggle, learning to let go of things I can't control and being grateful for the things that truly are the ones that matter, like my family's health and just leaning on the fact that we have each other. Taking the time to evaluate daily the gifts in life that can never be lost to being unemployed or dealing with a rough patch in our lives has shown me so much, revealing to me how fortunate I am even while caught in this dark time. My children are both healthy, wonderful students, caring, understanding and sensitive girls. My husband is a constant supporter, making me feel loved and appreciated. The friends I've made through Facebook have blessed me with well wishes filled with encouragement and prayers leaving me totally amazed and believing in the overall goodness around us, demonstrating to me that no matter where you find yourself in the world, what you may be going through in life, we can all take a moment to lift one another up joined together by similar experiences.
Of course being not only human but a mother as well, I catch myself every so often letting slivers of despair break through my appreciation for the small stuff. Thankfully, with the help of the uplifting connections I've made, I sincerely believe we'll be able to make it through this cold, hard season of life. My sincerest wish being that we'll come out of it stronger, armed with the knowledge that today or hopefully tomorrow could be the day when things improve not only for us but for other families that are going through difficult times as well.
I strongly encourage anyone who needs an infusion of positivity in their lives or just want to step back and take some time to take a personal accounting of the truly great gifts in life....love, family, friendship, parenthood and belonging to the bigger community of humankind, to take a look at some of the following Facebook pages. They have truly been a godsend in my life.
Changes New Beginnings Everyone Starts Somewhere
Positive and Inspirational Quotes
Happy and Free to be ME
These Small Candles
"In moments of discouragement, defeat, or even despair, there are always certain things to cling to. Little things usually: remembered laughter, the face of a sleeping child, a tree in the wind - in fact, any reminder of something deeply felt or dearly loved. No man is so poor as not to have many of these small candles. When they are lighted, darkness goes away - and a touch of wonder remains."
These Small Candles - tombstone inscription in Britain