- Family and Parenting
Moms and Privacy
I never remember reading in the fine print on the Mom contract that said we would give up all forms of privacy - forever. When our children were babies we would willingly leave the door to the bathroom open (at least a crack) so that we could talk to them, reassure them that "Mommy was still here and available". (Maybe that was the beginning of our downfall?!) Then when they were toddlers we left the door open so we could "be there" if they needed us. (Really, would we have sprinted out of the bathroom with our drawers around our ankles? Seriously!)
But now that they've gotten older and more independent you would think (hope) they would leave you in peace. WRONG! You could sit in the same room with them for an hour and they wouldn't have two words to say to you. But the minute you leave the room to go to the bathroom, suddenly you are the most wanted person in the world! Maybe a light goes off when you go into the bathroom that lets them know you have left the room. Something like - "Danger, danger, Mom has left the room. You must track her down and ask her any question that could wait 20 minutes!"
A recent incident really brought my lack of privacy to the forefront for me. I was in the shower. You know the routine: the morning shower to help you wake up and be ready for the day. The second I turned the water off (the light must have gone on) my daughter opens the door and say - "Mom . . . can we leave for school early?" Hmmm . . . Now what would a mom who is trying to survive motherhood with humor say . . . "Ok sweetheart, let's go right now. I don't need clothes. I'm not getting out of the car." Or maybe . . . "Sure just let me grab a towel and we can be on our way." But I didn't use either of those lines. This was the 10-year-old and she hasn't let go enough to understand my humor - yet.
Even Fathers experience it!
"A new father quickly learns that his child invariably comes to the bathroom at precisely the times when he's in there, as if he needed company.
The only way for this father to be certain of bathroom privacy is to shave at the gas station."
- Bill Cosby
Cosby on Parenting
So as I struggle to find some privacy I welcome your suggestions on how you have found moments of privacy or how to keep them from bothering you when you go to the bathroom, please share them with us. We could all use help in this area!