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Being a Mother With Migraines
I am a proud mother of two boys and I love them very much. My boys are my life but at times there are things that I can't do or I try to do and I can't because my migraines decide to take over. There are days when I feel that I am not the best mother I can be because I am always dealing with this unbearable pain.
Chronic Migraine sufferer
I am a mother of two and I suffer from Chronic Migraines. Sometimes my migraines can keep me from being happy and enjoying my life, but lately, I have decided to take my life back and spend time with my family. I am tired of hurting and being in pain but I need to be there for my boys and my husband. I know my boys are smart and very observant so they know when I am hurting but at times they tend to not understand why I have to lay down early or try and sleep.
They hate seeing me cry and in pain so they try to cheer me up by letting me watch them play the game or letting me join their gameplay. I try not to cry but when they see me then they go back and tell hubby so I am having to explain what is wrong with me while my eyes are full of tears. He tries so hard to help me but he knows that he can't do anything about it so I just tell him to let me rest instead because I can go into a panic attack and have to take my other medication as well.
I hate suffering like this because when the boys want to play I can't join them because I am not feeling very well. Yes, this is a pain that you can't see but don't judge a mother or father that is out and about trying to smile and be joyful because you never know what they are going through in their everyday life.
I hurt but I get up to do laundry and make sure that everyone in the house has food to eat no matter what I am going through.
I am at the point in my life to where I just deal with the pain and take my boys to the park. I tend to take medication when I get home so that I can relax and get some rest. If I am hurting I do a little bit of yoga and then I try and take the boys to the park or out to eat especially when we are trying to do something together.
The love being around me and when they can't be next to me they are not happy campers. I try and ensure that they both get to spend time with me as the day gets shorter because they have school during the day. There are a lot of things that we do at home together even if I am in pain.
We play video games when they get home from school and after they do their homework. When I am in pain I still take a controller in hand and play with them because I know that they love playing video games with me and they want my help on the hard parts. I might be feeling bad but when I am helping my boys some of my pain is not even there.
Arts and Crafts
When they see me coloring in one of my adult coloring books they want to color too. We actually end up doing some arts and crafts so that they could make me some little coloring pages and a few little stick figures. They love making me something that says "Feel Better soon" on it and they love saying "I love you, mommy" I love seeing these little pictures because that really makes me feel a little better and it shows that they understand what mommy is going through.
When it comes to being a mommy with Chronic migraines it is hard but I try and make the most of it. My boys won't be little forever so I have to make sure that I spend a lot of time with them and ensure that they know mommy loves them more than anything.
Their dad/my husband understands what I am going through a little bit and he is always telling me to lay down and get better but sometimes I am just up and walking around for nothing because sleeping is not in my category. The pain can just put me in panic attack mode or in a non-sleep mode.
My boys make everything better for me and I am so thankful to have them and my husband in my life right now.