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Mothering is for Everyone
Mothering is an ACTION
Mothering is an action meaning to nurture or to raise a child and or children while being a mother. We are reminded in the month of May to celebrate mothers with the observance of Mothers Day. I suppose we should and rightfully do, honor those that are mothers in the true sense of the word. They are given the title Mother, mommy, mom, mama…LOIS. And for a time in their lives, this becomes their identity almost devoid of any other. They are referred to and summoned by his mommy or her mommy or mama this and mama that...
I was one of those who wondered for so long, after being told it was doubtful I could have children when or would, I ever become a mom. I was at one point told, “you will not have children of your own, so why to bother, and you might as well get rid of the parts.” I may have even allowed this circumstance to define me as non-mother for a time. However, In my own way, I was mothering many children who were lost and alone, and in many ways, I was gifted to do so. Perhaps it was the deep desire to be a mother and to share that love that burned inside of me. Thankfully I believed my God is a mountain mover, I trusted and surrendered my status as a mother to Him. I like many know the loss of a child through miscarriage. I also know patience and years of waiting for God’s plan for one's life to be defined. I know many who have lost a child or for that matter lost a mother in this lifetime, always way before they were conceivably ready to. I have since that statement of, “you should get rid of your parts,” been gifted with two naturally born children, and motherhood is a feeling I know and cherish. As a mother of two beautiful miracles and yes they are both miracles, I realize the blessings that have been bestowed upon me.
I do not share these personal thoughts as a means of saying, how lucky I am or how amazing it is to be a mom(although it is of course), but rather to impress upon us all, that mothering is a gift anyone can have and be an integral part of. I want to send a shout out to those who have taken the time to share with others in a nurturing way. Every mentor, every case worker, youth leader, teacher, single parent or grandparent raising a child or for that matter those caring for anyone, an older adult, or even little furry critters.
To nurture, to be loved and cared for, this is the art of raising the world, or for lack of a better word, the art of mothering. I recall a time working with at-risk youth in the juvenile court systems, many of those kids had no one they could essentially call "mother". They were often raising themselves along with any sibling that fell in line with them. Even at a young age as a young adult, I began to feel the urge to protect and nurture those that were lost and left to fend for themselves. If we think about it, young men and woman at war seek out this same need-based nurturing, and some soldier though not identified rises to the occasion and watches after the ducklings so to speak. In every hive there is Queen Bee, in every colony, there is a Queen Ant. So it goes in every circumstance there is the ability to nurture and love. Therefore, all of us, male and or female can be mothering. To be a mother and the action of mothering are two very different things. I suppose the most important is the action. We can all take action and mother the world that is in grave danger of being lost. We can show love as love has been shown to us or as we would like it to be shown. We can all be mothering and make this world a better place. All we have to do is nurture and love, as you would love yourself, unconditionally and without fail. Our Father in heaven gave us the gift of mothers, but more importantly, He gave us the gift and the action of mothering. So God bless everyone on Mothers Day and let's take action and get mothering.
Peace in your Stages
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