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A Mothers Grief - The loss of her Child - Includes Original Poem

Updated on January 17, 2017
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Walking the road of grief is hard work. Wading through heavy emotions can be lonely. Find encouragement in these true stories. Susan

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Mother's Day Grief

On Mother's Day, I was fully engaged with and enjoying my children and grandchildren. Suddenly, my thoughts went to Kelly.

What was she experiencing this Mothers Day? Kelly had just lost her second baby due to a genetic glitch. I could not wrap my head around this horrific loss and incomprehensible grief - A Mother's Day Grief.

This was to be Kelly's first Mothers Day celebration with baby Elijah, but instead, it was a tormenting memorial to another unthinkable and tragic loss.

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Pre-natal Appointment

Before I tell you about baby Elijah's short little life, let me take you back to Kelly's first full term pregnancy which ended with just a few precious moments with her angel baby.

When Kelly became pregnant with Aurora, her heart swelled with anticipation of the day she would swaddle her infant girl in her arms and revel in the joy of being her Mother.

The pregnancy seemed to be going well just as any regular pregnancy would.

As the weeks passed her heart was bursting with excitement and anticipation.

But when this exuberant Mother visited her Doctor, for her twelve-week checkup, she was not prepared for what he had to say.

As sad eyes greeted Kelly that day she felt her insides turn, her knees grow weak and the blood drain from her face.

Kelly noted her physician's drooping shoulder's and his hesitancy. He rubbed his head before speaking.

Kelly tried to hear what her Doctor was telling her but inside she was screaming NO, NO, NO, this cannot be true.

He said there was a genetic glitch. Kelly's head was spinning, she was suffocating in confusion. He explained that her pregnancy would most likely terminate before the baby was born.

Kelly's head was reeling, and she felt like her heart split into a thousand pieces. How could she face this unbelievable prognosis? The weeks dragged by, and the world seemed to stop for Kelly.

At her fifteen week checkup the Physician told Kelly that there was a very slight chance her baby girl might live through the birth; but if she did make it, her precious Aurora would die soon after.

He gave Kelly a choice; to abort her baby girl and avoid the pain of waiting, or she could continue the pregnancy to term.

This baby wouldn't live so why not spare herself the pain? ... but this was not an option for Kelly;

You see, she already loved her child within, and she resolved to go bravely through the rest of her pregnancy .. just for the chance to hold her and study her tiny face.

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Aurora's Beauty

Aurora Skye lived for about an hour before she took her last breath. Her mommy clung to her and hungrily studied each delicate feature and beautiful curve of her tiny face. It was a time of loss, anguish, grief and mourning like none she had ever known.

A memorial for little Aurora took place. I remember the fight I had within my heart; I did not want to face the pain of this brutal reality. I could not imagine how Kelly and Seth could get through it. As I walked into the greeting room, I lost all control.

My eyes fixed on an eloquent and stately bouquet of White Cali Lilly's; I knew they were Kelly's favorite flower, she carried them on her wedding day. On a white wooden display were tiny reminders of a little life no longer among us.

There was a delicate little infant dress, pastel stuffed toys, subtly hiding the pain behind their jolly faces, angel figurines prominently set amongst the items as a memorial to Aurora Skye. All of these mementos .. they were all supposed to be Aurora's! The tragedy was too great to bear.

Beautiful tributes took place during the service; one of the tributes was written by Kelly and Seth. I was amazed as I watched Seth stand before us and read it himself. This beautiful tribute held amazing, expressive and creative writing.

The love and devotion those words conveyed pulled back the curtain of their hearts to reveal the raw, pain-wracked grief of these precious parents. The memorial Seth read painted a vivid word picture with skill and great artistry.

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Loosing Elijah Praise

Later Kelly would, tragically, face another loss. It was the loss of her second child, an adorable baby boy, who had also acquired the genetic anomaly.

The hope of his future lay in awaiting new kidneys .. but in a tragic scheme of events, Elijah died before that hope was fulfilled.

Imagine the nurturing, loving and bonding that took place over those months. Picture the process of getting to know every line of your baby's face and laboring to memorize every cherished expression.

Envision Kelly and Seth treasuring and celebrating each and every milestone their baby boy reached with each passing month.

As they grew closer together as a family, the niggling fear of loosing Elijah Praise haunted any joyful moment they tried to capture.

They drank in his hugs, smiles, and sounds as they breathed in the unique scent of their baby boy .. there was no one like Elijah Praise.

As the time drew near for Elijah's hope of kidneys, an illness turned to tragedy, took place. In their effort to get him to the hospital, they rushed their little boy out the door but on the way to the car, Elijah made his way from Earth into Heaven. Though Seth worked desperately to bring him back, It was too late.

Kelly and Seth felt blindsided and crushed. They had lost their precious Aurora, and now Elijah was gone too. The two grieved like most cannot even come close to comprehending.

The funeral for Elijah filled with many caring people who had stood beside this family and prayed with them on their, all too brief, inconceivable journey.

A video (Actual Video Posted Below) starring their baby boy, Elijah Praise, brought his little life right into the room .. in living color. People were weeping all around me as we watched poignant moments in this brave little boy's life.

The video portrayed such precious memories. At one point, in the video, we watched as the faces of mommy and Elijah Praise filled the screen. We listened as Kelly sang to her baby boy, her one and only child .. the horrendous emotions and pain coursing through the room were palpable. We were all witness to so much love and intimacy between the three they called family.

Throughout the video there were songs which ripped open the vulnerable parts of my heart; the tears were flowing as I sought to control the sobs. We mourned and grieved the loss of Elijah Praise and his short lived life. ..... The funeral service was a gut wrenching shake-up of what we call reality.

In the dark days that followed, grief over the loss of their baby girl and baby boy consumed Kelly and Seth.

Elijah Praise

Faith to Believe

As the days turned into weeks and weeks into months, Kelly had some hard decisions to make. Should she try again and have her heart lain vulnerable and bare; subject to being ripped apart again or should she let go of her dream of being a Mother?

When most would have regressed into the fear of such torturous pain (understandably so) Kelly went forward in Faith believing she could bear a healthy child.

Amazingly Kelly's desire to be a Mother came to be. Today Kelly has a healthy little cherub baby boy and a healthy beautiful baby girl. I can't tell you how much I admire her for her courage and her refusal to give up on hope.

It is to Kelly I have written and dedicated this Mother's Day Poem of bereavement and loss.

Kelly's Favorite Flower
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Mother's Day Grief

Lord, a young woman, weeps on Mother's Day
In darkness, she sits numb and afraid

She longs for JOY from that empty room
Now it speaks only of death and the tomb

The distinct scents of her children persist
A constant reminder of a future missed

The passionate quest that once filled her breast
is buried with her children .. in the tomb it rests.

Memories keep racing through her mind
Such awful agony .. like no other kind

The pain so raw she can hardly bare
Oh dear God .. it just doesn't seem fair

Her babies' so completed her life
but now her heart is filled with strife

Lord today she needs a touch
from the hand of the Father who cares so much

Her hope rests in Heaven
where her soul will find joy
As she finally embraces
her baby girl and baby boy

Susan Jill Ream

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Hi Hannah, I cannot imagine it either - it was so painful to just be witness to such a loss. Kelly is very strong though she suffered immense grief she moved forward believing God for a child.

      Her living children are beautiful and so bright - how thankful I am that God blessed them.

      Thank you for the visit and kind comments - Have a wonderful day Hannah!

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      Hannah David Cini 2 years ago from Nottingham

      I can't imagine the pain of losing 2 babies and how strong this mother must be to make the brave decision to try again. I am so glad to hear she has now been blessed with healthy little ones.

      A beautiful poem and a great hub.

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Hi lisa, I agree, It is amazing how this couple moved forward when most would have given up. It does have a happy ending yet I know as a Mother, Kelly's babies are ever present in her heart and thoughts ... never forgotten.

      Appreciate your visit and your kind words.

      Blessings to you!

      Mekenzie

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Dear James, I agree with the sadness of this hub and also the beauty of a heart that would not give up. When other's feared for her she moved forward with a heart full of faith and hope. Her children are precious, beautiful and healthy .. a true miracle for sure.

      Thank you for reading and sharing your heart James. God Bless you!

      Mekenzie

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Dearest Audrey, My heart aches for you on this day of over-whelming grief. Tears roll down my face as I think of the excruciating loss you live with and wrestle with every day. MIssing your boy has left an incomprehensible hole in your heart. I read your hub a while back and I looked upon your boys very handsome face .. I wept for you then as I do today.

      Yes Audrey, you are positive and you are strong. You possess a wonderful heart that loves and cares deeply. I believe that in your strength as a Mother you gave your all to your son and he was surely blessed and secure in you as his Mother.

      There are no words to take the pain away, though I reach within and fight to find them, I wish there were but I know that only time and prayer and really knowing that some day you will see him again can soothe the pain in your Mother's heart.

      I am praying for you tonight dear Audrey.

      Love, Hugs, Tears and Deep Respect for you dearest Audrey, my friend and the blessed Mother of an irreplaceable son, your son, Todd.

      Mekenzie

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      Lisa VanVorst 2 years ago from New Jersey

      This story really touched my heart. It was such a sad story, but I am glad those parents were finally able to have healthy children. Most women would have given up, but clearly Kelly and Seth did not. I am glad there was a happy ending to this sad story.

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      JamesPoppell 2 years ago

      I am unable to fathom the pain that Kelly endured, and probably will have to endure for the rest of her life. This hub is so sad, yet so beautiful. It is beautiful because she did not give up. She showed courage and faith to continue on and she now has two healthy, beautiful children. The poem was beautiful. Thank you for sharing Kelly's experience with us. Voted up.

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Dear Mekenzie

      I know I have been here twice and I don't want to intrude. But my grief for my son is over-whelming today. It's been 5 years since cancer entered his perfect body, having it's way with him until the sweet taste of death rescued him.

      I'm very glad you wrote this hub. You have brought compassion and support to those who need it.

      It's the 'missing' part that hurts so much. My tears flow endlessly. This is something I keep to myself and share with no one...until now.

      Yes, I am a positive and strong force. But that positive and strong women will suffer the pain of losing a child every second of every day.

      Much love to you and to all those who have lost a child. ~ Audrey

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      btrbell, thanks for caring and shedding a tear for the pain of this sweet couple. I too am amazed by their courage.

      Appreciate your visit - God Bless You!

      Mekenzie

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      Randi Benlulu 2 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      What a beautiful baby boy and amazing family he had. Still crying for them. I am amazed by their courage and so happy to see that they have 2 healthy children. Thank you for sharing this touching story.

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Thank you moonlake. It is amazing that she didn't give up in spite of all the odds - so blessed to witness her beautiful boy and girl living well and enjoying life as a family.

      Thanks for the vote up and visit!

      Mekenzie

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Paula, You have a heart like mine and it was out of this heart I wrote this hub. Your comment was especially touching because it revealed to me that my writing communicated what I worked so hard to portray.

      Your passion and compassion tells me alot about you. Kelly reads this page from time to time and I know she will be blessed by the way you have shared in her pain. Knowing that other people hurt with you is a great comfort to one who has suffered such an unbearable loss.

      As you have stated so prolifically, there is absolutely nothing as unbearable or soul-crushing as the loss of a child. Thank you for your heart of compassion dearone.

      Be Blessed!

      Mekenzie

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Phyllis, what an awesome perspective and absolutely true. Those babies were cherished and covered in love by the parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts. The courage and faith is a testimony to all of us .. Love never gives up!

      Thank you for the visit and insightful comment.

      Blessings!

      Mekenzie

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      The grief in my own heart drove me to write it out for Kelly. I agree with you .. this loss is like none other and it does change you forever.

      Thank you for sharing from your life and may God continue to use you as your write from a heart of compassion.

      Hugs!

      Mekenzie

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      moonlake 2 years ago from America

      How sad, but so happy she didn't give up. Beautiful hub voted up.

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      Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Susan....I must confess I hesitated to read this hub. And what I expected has surely happened......I am sobbing beyond control. Your story has ripped at my heart and I have such sorrow for this young couple, I can barely take a deep breath.

      The ending is of joy and fulfillment of their hopes and dreams .....how wonderful they have a son and daughter......I am in awe of Kelly's strength and tenacity.

      Nothing......absolutely nothing is..nor can ever be as unbearable and soul-crushing as the loss of a child........

      Peace, Paula

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      Phyllis Doyle Burns 2 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

      God has blessed them for giving life to the babes they lost, for letting those babies know true love and the gentle touch of loving parents, for their courage and faith. It is a heart-breaking story with joy for the babes they now have. Thank you for sharing this story.

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      It's not easy to write about this subject but you have done a beautiful job Mekenzie. I know first hand something about the heart break of losing a child. A loss like this changes your life forever. Thank you my friend and hugs to you.

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      Susan Ream 2 years ago from Michigan

      Hi word, Yes, it was an emotional and horrific experience for this sweet Mother. I was amazed that they never gave up - most would have. I'm glad you liked the poem - it came out of my own grief for Kelly.

      God has worked His healing power in her heart. Not that the pain is ever gone but she is living a full life now with her precious son and daughter who fill her heart with JOY.

      Thanks for your kind comments!

      Have a GREAT weekend!

      Mekenzie

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hello Mekenzie, This was very touching. It's an emotional reminder of how precious life is. I'm very happy to see that this couple never gave up, never lost faith. Some situations are meant for a time and some for a lifetime. We must always accept life as it comes and goes. I thank God daily for life as I continue to live. Some things we may never understand why they happen but God's knows what's best for us. The poem was wonderful. Thank you for sharing your family experience. I grief with you as life must go on.

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      Susan Ream 3 years ago from Michigan

      Dear arun, My heart hurts for you and the reality you are living in this inconceivable loss. As a Mother I know the deep devotion for our children and how they capture our hearts.

      I pray the pain will lessen in time and you will once again be able to breathe and find some joy .. in and for those important people still left here on earth.

      Grieving is hard work and there are no short cuts. I hope you will allow yourself time to heal knowing that your daughter would want you whole again .. just as you were when she was your little girl.

      May God draw you close and grant you peace dear mom.

      Mekenzie

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      arun from chandigarh(India) 3 years ago

      i also lost my beautiful daughter of 21 years in Oct 2012. This loss is unbearable. She is always in my thoughts 24X7. not able to live.

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      Susan Ream 3 years ago from Michigan

      Dear Night, I understand those tears as I have cried many tears for my dear young friends.

      Kelly really did appreciate my attempt to memorialize her babies. Such loss is hard to wrap ones head around.

      Their two living children are beautiful, extremely smart and sweet as can be. You can bet they get lots of love from their Mommy and Daddy.

      Thanks for your comment of tenderness and sensitivity!

      Mekenzie

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      K.A.E Grove 3 years ago from Australia

      a potent powerful read that brought tears to my eyes with every line that I read.

      A wonderful tribute to a mothers love and to the two lost angels no longer here.

      beautiful

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      Susan Ream 4 years ago from Michigan

      Vicki, I am privileged to meet one who ministers to those walking through the valley of grief. My friend was very blessed by this tribute ... and I thank God I could play a part in keeping the memory of her babies alive.

      I am now walking through some grief of my own - my sweet sister-in-law, a very active and healthy woman her whole life, was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer - it has devastated my brother. They live a few hours away and it's really hard not being there. My sister and I just put together a gift box to send.

      It's hard to process - especially for them. It's really rocked our world. Grieving is HARD work!

      Thank you for your visit and kind encouragement.

      God Bless YOU!

      Mekenzie

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      Vickiw 4 years ago

      Mekenzie, what an extraordinarily beautiful Hub. I am so glad to find you. I facilitate a bereavement support group every week, and this really resonates with me, and I am sure, with your friend. Absolutely beautiful writing, and a lovely poem.

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      Susan Ream 4 years ago from Michigan

      precious one, my heart breaks to hear of your great and tragic loss. May God hold you close as you do the very hard work of grieving. I know you are trying to be strong, but know it is okay to fall too. My dear mentor and friend once told me, "Fall if you must knowing that God's everlasting arms are beneath you."

      Sending Hugs and Prayers,

      Mekenzie

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      precious 4 years ago

      Add i lost my 12yr old son to cancer 2010 and again i lost my 3mthns baby girl 2013 its pain and im trying to be strong

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      Susan Ream 4 years ago from Michigan

      sharonchristy, I agree that only God can give one consolation when losing the ones you hold dearest. I believe that this is the greatest fear of most Mothers - the loss of a child.

      I am glad the poem touched your heart. I believe the words came straight from God's heart as I am not prone to writing poetry.

      Thank you for sharing your heart of compassion. Thank you for following me as well. I will be over to check out your hubpage.

      God Bless YOU!

      Mekenzie

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      Sharon Christy 4 years ago from India

      My dear friend, I am so sorry! Only God can give you consolation when you lose them you hold dearest, so full of maternal love and that poem made my eyes well up. So touching! I am very proud to follow you! Bless you!

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      Susan Ream 4 years ago from Michigan

      Anna, I have read your letter (hub) to your baby girl and was deeply moved. It was a gift from God that you recognized that God makes no mistakes and that her little life changed your life.

      I am glad they tried again too. In my mind I see her decision as miraculous and courageous. Who would want to put themselves in a position where there is the strong possibility of facing such agony once again?

      It was Faith and Hope in her God that resulted in conceiving and birthing 2 healthy children.

      God Bless you Anna and may He use your story as a balm of healing and faith.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Thank you for sharing this story. I also lost a baby girl. I am so glad that your friend made the decision to try again. Very nice article.

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      Susan Ream 4 years ago from Michigan

      Faith, yes beautiful little lives for sure. Many many people followed Kelly's journal during this time and cheered her on, praying for her each day.

      Appreciate your comment. It's all about HIS love is it not?

      God Bless YOU!

      Mekenzie

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Thank you for sharing your love for your friend in this manner. A beautiful poem for beautiful little lives. He heals!!! In His Love.

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      Susan Ream 4 years ago from Michigan

      Rosemary, yes it was difficult to write yet I felt led to put some thoughts, feelings and poetry about their little lives and their mommy's love into print. Kelly was very blessed by it and that is what I hoped for. She did not want people to forget her babies were here and that they were very precious.

      Thank you for reading and leaving your kind comment.

      God Bless YOU!

      Mekenzie

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      Rosemary Sadler 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Your hub was in the sidebar as a related hub of one I was reading. This must have been so very hard to write.

      Kelly's story is just heart breaking, to lose not one but two babies must have been just devastating, She was so brave to try again and risk going through all that sorrow and pain again.

      My heart goes out to her and her husband.

      God bless

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Dear Sherbanoo, Oh, dear mom, you are so fresh in your grief. No, nothing can replace the child that you lost .. Your babygirl will forever be in your heart and mind. People who have never lost a child often do not understand this.

      Yes Kelly and Seth went through unimaginable pain. Today Kelly is very, very sick and she needs prayer. I'm sure she'd appreciate your prayers for her .. her two little ones need their mommy and she wants to be there for them.

      God Bless you and Hold you Close!

      Mekenzie

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      Sherbanoo 5 years ago

      I am a grieving mother as well. God has blessed me with my first born and he is praise the lord a happy and healthy little 2 year old boy.

      My daughter was born on 26th Jan 2012 and passed away 11th feb 2012 just 17 days later due to a blood infection that she was born with and which was not detected till it was too late.

      the doctors told us that if she had survived she wouldve been permanently brain damaged.

      i am sitting here now 2 weeks after her death. i thank god for giving me 1 healthy child at least.. but it doesn't take away the pain of losing her..

      i can imagine what this couple went through and twice at that!! make God give them both more strength and give their other 2 kids a long and happy life!

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      donnaisabella, yes dear lady it was painful for me to write, but nowhere near as painful as living it as Seth and Kelly did. Thank you for your Blessings - You are too kind!

      Mekenzie

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      Donaisabella 5 years ago from Fort Myers

      Oh thanks so much for sharing. I can imagine this was painful for you to write, but it must also bring some kind of healing. May God continue to bless you, Seth and Kelly.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Your welcomed ms ashlynn :)

      HUGS!

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      ashlynn 5 years ago

      thanks ms makenizie :)

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      My eyes welled up with tears reading this. Her only son .. I cannot begin to imagine the depth of pain she is in. I know he was well loved. If you ever want to inbox me feel free - it's under my picture on the right.

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      ashlynn 5 years ago

      hey mekenzi , im doing much better , not a day goes by that i dont think about him and my eyes fill with tears... i want him here in the body sooo badly but i know its not going to happen...but i am coping....my bro and i have different moms but i just want to be there and comfort her , she changed her number and my dad said he went to see her not too long ago and she was in bed,not eating..just in a bad state right now ...it was her only son...and he was hit by two cars on his way home from school not too far from home...he was the smartest boy i knew and im not saying that because he was my brother...in 7th grade he was on a 12th grade level in reading....made straight a's , good on the basketball team and loveeeeeed science. he would have made a great scientist...i could not wait to see him excel . ! goshhh ,he's going to be missed

      thanks ms mekenzie !

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      ashlynn, I am so very sorry for your loss dear girl. Yes you are right that there is no pain, for a mom, like that of losing her child. How are you doing? You explained that your brothers, Father and Mother are grieving but how are you?

      In regards to your Dad, it is my guess that, as the man of the house, your Dad feels that he has to hold it together for the rest of you. Men don't often allow themselves to cry or break down as they view it as 'weak' but it is not weak. I'm sure this loss is just as devastating to your Dad and I pray that, in his private moments, he is able to let the pain out and grieve.

      I will pray for your family .. there are no short cuts with grief - the only way to heal is to go through it though you think your heart will break .. Time heals, lots and lots of time, not completely as there will always be that ache for his presence, but it will become bearable. Give your Mom lots of hugs and tell you love her often.

      Hugs!

      Mekenzie

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      ashlynn 5 years ago

      Awww, this was really nice ! i lost my brother on december 15th, he'd just turned 16 exactly two weeks before...i watched his mom go through the most unbearable and extreme pain ever. to watch someone cry out the way she did is somting ou'll never forget and never want to witness. It's nothing you can do to help,nothing you can do to bring him back for her and yourself is just awful...it's very painful,i cant imagine being in her shoes...my dad kind of took it hard but no where near how my brothers mom took it,he broke down at the funeral but his not in the same condition she's in....his mom called my dad and asked "why do it seems you're not hurt or his death didn't bother you as much?" ...it's not that...he grieves privately and no one goes through pain like a mother losing a child...even a father .

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      The loss of a child is so heartbreaking. Stay close to this mom, if she is your friend, she needs to know she is not alone and that people are there for her. Grieving is hard work - it cannot be rushed, there are no short cuts. Thank you for sharing eileen!

      Mekenzie

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      eileen wilson 5 years ago

      borrowing for a mom i know, who is still struggling...my heart just breaks for her...they lost their home and bizness trying to save him from the horrible Cancer beast, and had to move after such a loss. Thank you for penning this so beautifully.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Dear Grace, I am sorry to know you have lived this type of loss. It is a loss like none other. Actually, I did not plan to write this, the thoughts and words were swimming in my brain, so I sat down and gave them release.

      Kelly is experiencing some health problems at this time and we sure would appreciate prayers for her. Her children are beautiful and doing very well.

      Thanks for your comment!

      Blessings!

      Mekenzie

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      Harpers Grace 5 years ago

      I know this loss all too well. How amazing of you to write this.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Dear One2recognise2, Thank you for your very sweet words of encouragement. I hope that your friend finds hope through Kelly and Seth's story. The loss of a child is a pain like none other - I am glad she has you as her friend!

      God Bless You!

      Mekenzie

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      one2recognize2 5 years ago from New York

      Hi Mekenzie, this hub was truly heartfelt and I commend you for doing such a great job. My friend lost her baby the day she brought her home and I believe it was due to the same thing that plagued Kelly's two precious ones.

      I will be sure to share this hub with her and thank you so very much for submitting her story and poem it was truly a wonderful tribute. God bless you.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Carole, Nice to have you visit my hub. This was an extremely heartfelt and agonizing hub to write. Writing this did bless Kelly and she so appreciated another avenue to share her children's short life story.

      God Bless!

      Mekenzie

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      Carole Anzolletti 5 years ago from The Phantom Queen's Labyrinth

      Beautiful, Awesome...you are blessed. :)

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Yes Will, very tragic indeed.

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      WillSteinmetz 5 years ago

      Losing them is really tragic.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Coolca, I agree with you. The loss of a child just does not compute .. the pain is agonizing. Currently praying for another sweet family whose child has been given a week to 3 months to live. The agony and grief is gut wrenching.

      I pray the family comes through as strong as Seth and Kelly have. They are stronger today than when they lost their first child. That doesn't happen often as the statistics for divorce are extremely high with the loss of a child. God continues to be their solace and their trust in Him has brought them peace. God uses them to challenge and encourage many people.

      Mekenzie

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      coolcajunguy 5 years ago from Kenner

      Mother's and Father's are not supposed to lay there children to rest. It is suppose to be the other way around. I am 56 years old and this story has brought tears to my eyes. That little bundle of joy will someday again be reunited with his loving mom and dad. May God bless and keep them safe.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Jennifer, I know the feeling .. there is nothing we can say that will help the pain. I am glad that your niece Prissy was surrounded by family and love as damian passed from this life to the glories of Heaven.

      I am sure your niece feels the love you have for her .. Our heart's shine through our eyes. I pray that Prissy will heal and find strength to go on and hopefully have another baby to hold. Damian will always be her first and a treasure no one else will replace.

      Thank you for stopping by and sharing Damian's and Prissy's story.

      Blessings!

      Mekenzie

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      Jennifer 5 years ago

      my niece "prissy" lost her baby at the age of 18 he was only 4 1/2 days old but made a lasting impression on us all. We knew only 3 months into her pregnancy that he wouldn't make it and thought it would only be a few hours at most. He lived 4 1/2 days to come home and to hold out hand and to cry and he was on hospice. he never ate...and he was so beautiful. All the family was with him from the beginning until the end. His name was Damian Woodrow Fuller, and I am 28 years old and have 5 children of my own whom were all healthy and to see my 18 year old niece going through this broke my heart knowing that nothing i could ever say or ever do would help her. But I love her and she had so much courage and strength that you could only imagine. alot stronger than me.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Dotty, to look into your sweet baby girl's face and to hope desperately that she will live; only to face empty arms is excruciating pain. Oh dear Dotty, know that your baby is in Heaven .. though your heart aches to embrace her, know that she lives on in a place where there are no more tears or heartache. If you need a friend as you work through the hardest days of grief, feel free to email me.

      Sending love to you dear Mom,

      Mekenzie

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      Dotty 5 years ago

      I too lost my baby three months ago. she was a week old and never made it out of the NICU. She came a month early and her lungs were too week to support her. Its the most painful experience in life.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Thank you sweet Sky - I need to stop by your hubs and see what you are up to these days. I've been away from the hubs for a while now and must say I miss my friends!

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      Sky321 5 years ago from Canada

      A beautiful and painful hub. God bless you Mekenzie as you continue to bless others.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      Candace, Only a Mother who has been there can truly know the grief you have born and the ache in your heart. I went to your website and found that you are using your pain to help other's work through their own grief.

      I am blessed to hear that my poem touched your heart. Thank you for leaving your comment and may God continue to heal your heart and use your life to inspire many.

      God Bless and Keep you!

      Mekenzie

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      Candace Barr 5 years ago

      This has me in tears. We lost our baby boy Gavin last December at only 10 weeks old. After a totally healthy pregnancy, he was born with a very rare brain malformation. He spent some time at home, but due to awful seizures, much of his short life was spent in the hospital. It is so painful to not just lose a child, but one you have held, fed, snuggled and loved. We also have a healthy 8 year old and I thank God for him every single day. We do not know if we will try for more children - genetics could not give us a certain answer .. they don't think it was genetic (no findings) but can't be 100% sure. Anyway, it's heartbreaking and your poem really touched me. I identify with every line.

      I wrote a blog post about healing and overcoming loss - it's geared towards professionals (as that's my business) but is also very personal about the emotions I experienced.

      Here is the link if anyone is interested -

      http://strategicexecutiveconnections.com/how-devas...

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      God Bless you dear N.E. Wright!

      Mekenzie

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      N.E. Wright 5 years ago from Bronx, NY

      I will share again, because people really do need to know.

      Take Care,

      N.E.

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      Susan Ream 5 years ago from Michigan

      You now have touched my heart dear N.E. It is touched at the realization that the message got through. The depth of pain involved in loss is very hard to put into words; especially that of a child. Kelly wants people to know about her precious baby's and she will be honored by your comment.

      God bless you for your heart of caring.

      Mekenzie

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      N.E. Wright 5 years ago from Bronx, NY

      Hello Mekenie,

      I am trying not cry.

      This beautiful, yet sad, poem truly touched my heart. I loved the back ground story you laid out about Kelly, and adored the poem.

      I shared it on my Face-Book page, and I will send it to my other followers.

      Thank you so much for sharing.

      Take Care,

      N.E.

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      Annette, I am so sorry for your loss. I am a Grandma too and just the thought of loosing one of my grandchildren makes me feel faint.

      Your anger is understandable ... grieving brings out much anger that must be worked through .. HARD WORK! My perspective comes from one who totally trusts that God is good. I totally believe what God tells me in His word. The story of King David tells me that the baby goes right to heaven. Here is part of the story from the Bible: "David therefore sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground. And the elders of his house stood beside him, to raise him from the ground, but he would not, nor did he eat food with them. On the seventh day the child died. And the servants of David were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, “Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke to him, and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him the child is dead? He may do himself some harm.” But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, “Is the child dead?” They said, “He is dead.” Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate. Then his servants said to him, “What is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive; but when the child died, you arose and ate food.” He said, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, ‘Who knows whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.”” II Samuel 12:16-32

      Heaven is a real place .. your sweet Marley is with God and he will never face the trials and tribulations you and I do here on earth.

      I will pray for you Annette as you work through your grief. How is your child, who lost the baby, doing? You may inbox me if you'd like to.

      Warm Hugs!

      Mekenzie

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      Annette 6 years ago

      I am so angry at God for taking my little Grandson Marley. I am trying to believe that Marley has eternal life and that I will see him again one day. But it is so hard. If God is good why did he take an innocent child/ Why is he punishing me?

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      jjmyles, Yes it does leave a huge agonizing hole. Thanks for the read and your comments - Kelly and Seth are amazing!

      Mekenzie

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      jjmyles 6 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      The loss of a child leaves an agonizing hole in a parents heart that only God can heal. This is an amazing hub.

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      You will see them again dear By Grace. I am sorry that you had to go through the grief of loosing three little ones .. WOW, that had to be Soooo HARD. I am glad this poem touched your heart and that God assured you that they await you in Heaven.

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a part of your story here.

      God Bless You sweet Friend!

      Mekenzie

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      By Grace 7 6 years ago

      I was very touched by this hub, and your poem really moved me too. I suffered three miscarriages before I had my two children.

      I tell you this only because like you have intimated in your comments (Kelly's little deposits in Heaven) God gave me the same revelation that one day I would see the children and that revelation gave me a great deal of comfort.

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      Skye, Kelly's husband Seth is a CLOSE family friend. His mom is one of my BEST friends in the World! When I first met Kelly .. I just loved her instantly. Kelly and Seth's lives are a real testament of God's LOVE.

      Your poor dear sister and husband. I cannot imagine the pain they must feel .. and the rest of the family too. Incredible LOSS! I pray they find their way to the heart of God and that He applies the Balm of love and healing as ONLY He possesses.

      I am touched that you would pray for Kelly and Seth. Kelly has this hubsite and she will be blessed to read this too.

      My sweet skye, life is incredibly tough isn't it. So hard to watch those we love face incredible horrid pain. As you always say .. God takes care of His kids.

      You are going to LOVE being a Grandma.. and you'll play a vital role in that babies life .. with all of the kindness and love in your heart. I have 10 grandkids .. They all came so close together and they're growing up as one big fun-filled family .. These 8 grandaughters and the last 2 .. gandsons bring me more JOY than most anything else on Earth.

      Thanks for the kind words .. I LOVE your heart Sista!

      Mekenzie

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      skye2day 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      Mekenzie You are one of the most selfless women I know. Really to write this in honor of your loving friend takes great courage, that comes from the Lord. He shines on you sweet gem. The feelings writing this must have been gut wenching and healing to say the least. May our Lord Bless Kelly and her family with long happy lives. God is good. The good news is she will be with them one day. That is the most awesome promise.

      My sisters stepson took his life July 09. 25 years old. He suffered Bi Polar. Her husband is trying so hard to piece it together. They have gone through a pain I can not imagine. Lord keep our children out of harms way. I have prayed for your Friends Kelly and Seth. God can turn ALL things for good. May God Bless you 100 fold for sharing this story. It makes me feel grateful but sad. Kelly and Seth have great faith. Praise the Lord.

      My baby daughter is having a baby in October. She is 20 years old. My Frost grandchild. I am beside myself.

      I love your writing because it flows with the sweet tender spirit God made you to be. Keep on sweet gem, there is much to do for our Lord. Many Blessings today and always.

      Love ya sista. (-:

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      I know that you know that kind of pain dear friend. It is so heartbreaking for those who know and love Kelly and Seth. They are quite the strong couple of Faith ... I have seen your strength too and stand in awe. Kelly's little deposits in Heaven are never ever forgotten. Thanks for the kind words.

      Blessings!

      Mekenzie

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      DustinsMom 6 years ago from USA

      Oh my. This is very sad. My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a child. A wonderful tribute to your friend.

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      Susan Ream 7 years ago from Michigan

      I want people to hear from someone who knows... Your resources are also wonderful. Thanks KCC you are a blessing!

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      KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

      Thank you for adding links to my hubs, Mekenzie. I have added links back to yours as well. :)

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      Susan Ream 7 years ago from Michigan

      Happy New Years to you too AEvans! Kelly now pours herself into her two little ones but never a day goes by that she does not remember the two deposits in Heaven. The family visits their graves, they go on remembrance walks to release balloons to the sky and visit the hospital where the caregivers walked part of their journey with love and compassion. Quite a family. Thanks dear for stopping by again and give your little guy a hug... you and he are blessed.

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      Julianna 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Mekenzie: We adopted our son my heart goes out to the person that this poem was meant for, it certainly is beautiful! I had to come back and read it again. Happy New Year! :)

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      Julianna 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Perfect! Absolutely perfect and so touching , again it touched my heart and sould. He is absolutely precious! ::::::::)

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      Susan Ream 7 years ago from Michigan

      Thanks for sharing Steph, Imagine carrying a baby in your womb, feeling its life within you, only to have it die. To even contemplate the loss of a child sends waves of grief through me. My heart goes out to those striving to cope with the loss of a child. What I have learned from other mom's who have lost a child is that the pain never leaves. That child is always a part of them and there is an empty spot that is never filled - even many, many years later. I think that a good friend will allow them to talk about their loss as long and as much as they need to. You don't just 'get over it' and it is cruel to say or expect it.

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      Stephanie Hicks 7 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      My favorite cousin's wife had a stillborn baby girl about 3 years ago. Totally heartbreaking. They now have an adorable baby boy, yet the loss is still profound. As a mom of 4, I cannot imagine the grief and sadness!

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      Susan Ream 7 years ago from Michigan

      Thank YOU KCC for sharing your loss on your own hubpage "How Do You Overcome Loosing a Child." The craftmanship of words made the emotions come off the page and tore at my heart. You have offerered some great coping options and resources. I have listed KCC's Link Above. Bless you dear one!

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      KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

      What a wonderful poem for your friend. How incredibly difficult it must have been (and still is) for her to lose two children. Thanks for sharing Mekenzie.

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      Susan Ream 7 years ago from Michigan

      The story is so sad! Kelly lost 2 babies due to a genetic glitch. One baby girl lived only hours in the hospital as the family stood by. The other was a boy who died when he was about one year old (very, very sad experience) before he could get new kidneys. She now has a Boy and a Girl who are totally healthy.

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      Julianna 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Oh how precious and this has made me cry, it certainly pulled on my heartstrings. :)

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