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Rights of a Mother
It's My Right
Does every American have the same rights? As a nation, we are fiercely protective of our rights. We feel like we have earned them and no one is going to take them away from us. Rarely do Americans give up a right without a fight.
- write letters to our representatives.
- make phone calls to their offices.
- post on social media.
- and do anything else we think will shed light on our the fact that we are going to lose a right.
We might not win, but it won't be for lack of effort.
Contrary to what most Americans believe, we don't have all of our rights all of the time. Let's look at some of our rights.
You have the right to
- yell "FIRE," but not in a crowded building.
- smoke tobacco, but not in most public buildings.
- drink alcohol, but not while you're driving.
It boils down to the fact that you don't have the right to infringe on someone else's rights. There are some rights afforded to some individuals and not others.
Women were the first group to protest by picketing the White House.
Mother's Day was created by Anna Jarvis to honor her mother in 1908. It was recognized as an official U.S. holiday in 1914. Later, Jarvis opposed holiday’s commercialization and spent the latter part of her life trying to remove it from the calendar.
Woodrow Wilson was the president who declared Mother's Day an official holiday.
The median age for first time mothers is 24.8 years. In 1970 the median age was 21.8 years.
In the 17th century, the average woman gave birth to 13 children.
There are 84 million moms in America.
Respectfully Bestowed Rights
The rights discussed in the previous paragraph are not afforded to those under the age of majority as recognized by their state of residence. Military personnel are afforded some privileges when in uniform that civilians don't receive. There are special parking places for clergyman at hospitals. There are designated parking places for people with special needs. Some shopping centers now have reserved parking spaces for expectant mothers or mothers with small children.
There are some rights that everyone should be afforded. Human beings should have the necessities of life--food, clothing, and shelter. They should have the right to live peacefully without fear of someone invading their home. People should have the right to be treated with dignity and respect. They should have the right to make their own decisions and be willing to accept the consequences that follow.
Everyone has some rights. Some have special rights. A few rights should be afforded to everyone.
Different Rights for Mothers
Just like the rights afforded to military personnel and people with special needs, mothers have special rights also. Somewhere in between contractions she received special rights. She has the right to be upset about a scratch less than a half inch in length on the delicate skin of her child. It's alright if she is concerned when her child's fever goes up to 99 degrees. She can cry more than her child when he falls. She can get mad at anyone that even hints something is wrong with her child.
Yes, becoming a mother affords lots of extra rights. But it takes away more rights than it gives. A couple of weeks ago a college student sat in my living room and tried to convince me that her mother was a victim of illegal drugs. She was telling me that her mother couldn't help taking illegal drugs. Her mother had begun taking illegal drugs to help with her legitimate illnesses. There were days the children came home from school to see the house torn completely apart because her mother was in a drug induced state and threw things around the house. There were days she couldn't get out of bed to care for the younger children, so the teenage daughter did it. Then Mom became addicted and now couldn't help her condition. Wrong answer!!
A mother doesn't have the right to become involved in anything that diminishes her capacity as a mother. During those contractions a woman accepts some responsibilities as well as rights. The role of Mother is not to be taken lightly. No woman should keep a child if she isn't willing to accept that responsibility. Just because she gives birth to a child doesn't make her a mother. If she doesn't want to be a mother, she shouldn't accept the role. Once the role has been accepted, she doesn't have the right to place herself in any situation that compromises her judgement.
A mother doesn't have the right to drink so much she is unable to make decisions in the best interest of her children. She doesn't have the right to engage in dangerous behavior that places her children's security at risk. Life threatening sports and activities should be placed on hold until the children are old enough to care for themselves. Skydiving is probably not the best choice of hobbies for mothers of small children.
Mother's Right to Health
When a woman accepts the role of mother, taking care of her health becomes a responsibility. It is in the best interest of the children that their mother be physically and emotionally fit to care for them and make decisions concerning their lives. She doesn't have the right to neglect her health.
She certainly doesn't have the right to introduce mind altering and possible life threatening substances into her body. That includes illegal drugs, alcohol, or too many prescription drugs. If it distorts her judgement or ability to make a decision, it shouldn't be in her body. Her mind must be clear to guard against dangers for the children.
Who is She?
When a woman becomes a mother, she is no longer an individual with the right to do as she pleases with her time, talent, body, or mind. She is a fiduciary for her children. That means she puts their interest above her own.
She is the cook who plans and prepares meals that nourish little bodies as they grow.
She is the chauffeur who drives the children to activities that will encourage their physical, mental, and emotional growth.
She is the cheerleader who encourages the children so their self-esteem blossoms as they believe they can accomplish any task.
She is the disciplinarian who extinguishes inappropriate behavior before it becomes a life-changing habit.
She is the tutor who stays up late to reteach information not understood in school.
She is the fashion consultant who determines appropriate apparel for the occasion.
She is the one who loves when her children's behavior isn't lovable.
She is the one who understands when no one else does.
She is the nurse who stays up all night with a sick child.
There is so much talk in this country about rights. Human rights, gay rights, mother's rights, and on and on and on. What about the baby's rights? He or she didn't asked to be conceived. He wasn't consulted. He was forced into existence by the collision two microscopic organisms. Now that he is participating party in life, he should have the right to expect food, clothing, shelter, love, and protection. The rights require that his or her mother be in control of her faculties.
When a mother decides to indulge her craving for mind altering drugs, she takes away the child's rights of love and protection. No one has the right to place a child in harms way. A mother should love and protect her child at all times. She needs to be in a clear state of mind and always mindful of the child's safety.
Mothers Should: Stand up for the child. Stand behind their child. Stand for their child. So that their child Stands tall.