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Teens: Working Things Out With Your Family
Giving In A Relationship
Many times when there are upheavals with people in our lives it involves teenagers. Things change with this age group all of the time. At this point in a person's life you never know what is going to come up.
First of all, when it's a family member that throws a boomerang from your vantage point out into the world what can you do? It's family! Should that matter? Somehow it does. Still. What do you do?
After the boomerang comes back to hit you in the face it feels like you have no recourse but to cease contact with the aforementioned person, but you have to put the ball back in their court so to speak. Once they realize that you are no longer making overtures toward them they will have no recourse but to reach out to you, or to ignore you.
If they contact you then maybe you'll work things out. If they don't I guess you'll have your answer as to how they feel about you. What then? It's hurtful. It's devastating. It changes your whole world. It's like what are you going to do now? How do you go to family gatherings? Do you skip them? The thing is that you can't control other people. You can only govern your own behavior.
If holding a grudge or avoiding situations because of a teenager in your life isn't for you, you may have to try and solve the problem with the person.. How do you do that? It's not easy. First you have to get over yourself if you can. Then you have to reach out in some way. Maybe you could send a note, a text, and email, or a card. You could just let them know that this tiff isn't going to fly since you have so many occasions and people in common. You don't know they may have a change of heart if you present yourself well. Be diplomatic.