- Family and Parenting
My Best Achievement
"The best achievement in my life is to see the beauty of my children and grandchildren and to watch them live their perfect lives.
Other things are much easier to do and to acquire...they just come naturally to a person who has a merry heart."
Even when I was a child I had always been serious about life. I always questioned what make life meaningful.
I was 16 years old when I composed the poem "This Life of Mine" which has this following excerpts; "...This life of mine is given to me by God, I will use this to make the giver glad..."
The following questions became dominating thoughts over the years since time immemorial that I have been living my life consecrating to find their answers. These are the questions that linger on in my mind;
What makes life meaningful?
Is it money? Is it popularity? Is it education? Is it beauty and fashion? Is it health and sports? Is it material possession? Is it status quo or position in society or in the job in a prestigious company? Is it friendship, love and serious or intimate relationships? Or is it relationship of any type? Or is it spirituality or possessing certain supernatural powers?
I never had involved myself with the silly fads and the stupidity of the youth in my time. I was searching for something that could make my life beautiful, meaningful and a joy that persists; and I am not easy to please especially with foolishness and stupidity.
Now let me analyze each of the questions and the experiments I did about them into my life. It took years of trial and error and of living every phase of my life in finding this so-called meaningful life.
Let's take money first;
I would humbly say that I am one of those lucky ones who never make money my priority, which means that I never had worked for the sole purpose of raking plenty of money; but I always had money whenever a need for it arises.
Ironically, I had actually started working and earning money since I was 9 years old. Not that I realized that at the time. I am naturally creative; I was only 9 years old when I started sewing my own dresses in which in my Dad's excitement he bought me a sewing machine. Then I proceeded to create stuffed toys, dolls, animals and so forth. My Dad was a very effective advertising Manager for me; he told all his friends about my creative works so that what followed were orders for toys and lacy children and baby dresses. I enjoyed my arts so much and of course I felt pampered by my popularity. Money just come naturally to me and I didn't even realize that I already had plenty of it. What do I care about money when my Dad had plenty of it. He was a Landlord of 120 hectares of cultivated farmland with 20 tenants...to mention just one of my Dad's earning capacity.
I have had some money problems at times in the next phases of my life especially when I became the sole bread winner for my children at the time of my family break up when the father of my kids did not support us; but lack of money had never been a big issue in my life. I believe that financial difficulty at times is a necessary evil so that I will value money where it is due.
Hence money for me is out of question for a great achievement and a meaningful life; it's a given.
This is another given in my case; I have had more than enough of it since childhood, in my family, in my elementary years where I graduated Valedictorian, in High School where I had been accelerated to College as a University Scholar; I don't really have to elaborate on the details so that I can proceed to the next.
What about getting three Master's Degrees as a scholar in a prestigious University.
Beauty and fashion?
What about being chosen a University model?
Health and sports?
What about being Physical Education, Health, Sports and Music Teacher and Coach in High School?
What about possessing twelve various cars and trucks, house and lots, farmlands, etc.
Status quo or position in society or in the job?
What about teaching as a College Professor for more than 20 years and along with it being a Dean, a Regional Supervisor in the Department of Education Culture and Sports; to mention just a few.
What about being blessed by a best friend for 17 years through thick and thin? This is to mention just one best friend; I have five more who, even when we are apart remain my best friends.
What about being a Missionary for almost five years from age 15 to 19 where Godliness was the serious matter to discuss and live all throughout those years?
Serious and intimate relationships as in marriage?
What about having married for 18 years then married two more not mention other intimate relationships?
What about living in a foreign land for several years and roaming around almost every part of my own country. Living in 5-star hotels for vacation both leisure and business.
I may have all these material possessions, achievements, success in diversified areas in life but all these will pass.
The beauty and the perfect lives of my children will continue and will be passed on to the next and next generation; the values system that I had inculcated in them, not to mention my own blood that is in their veins will continue even when I had long passed away from this life.
This is what I consider my best achievement in life.