Too Busy for Old Dad and Mom
When was the last time you talked to your old Dad regarding your car engine? or asking Mom if she could help you out or watch you bake an old favorite bread that she taught you?
Perhaps we feel we have done the best thing after giving them medicines and taking them to the doctor, or leaving them lunch on the table. Are we too busy to spend more time for old Dad and Mom?
Asking ourselves this question might help us realize it's never late to spend time with them. If we value our time then we would love to know how old Dad and mom would value even a few minutes of that time as treasure they would keep in their hearts forever.
We're Busy & We're Ignoring Their Needs
I believe love will help us better understand our old parents during their twilight years. When they get older and weak, here comes the most important thing in our lives -- loving our old parents, and making them feel loved during what is probably the hardest time of their lives.
We may, of course, give them what they want, or hire someone to take care of them so we can attend to what we want. But we are simply ignoring their feelings and needs, and this basically shows that we are not being loving to ourselves and our parents. I tend to agree that we cannot possibly feel worthy and valuable within ourselves when we are ignoring our old parents' needs.
Fellow hubber Mike has listed 10 signs old Dad and Mom needs help at home. I'm guilty of some :=)...though.
What Do Old Parents Really Need
Just a little of our time.
If we could only hear them pray then we would realize how they patiently wished for our touch, our presence -- us beside them even for a few moments a day.
They want us to let them know we love them and that we are there for them. It sounds so simple yet it is so hard for us to do. Understanding their wishes and desires allows us to better honor our parents.
The gift of love is the one they'll treasure the most, and even if we tell Dad and Mom we love them, still finding ways to get the point across is what they needed. Conversation with them nurtures warm feelings.
Dad & Mom Wants Us Beside Them
We're All They Need to Make Them Feel Fulfilled and Happy
Let's Make Them Feel Important
Let's celebrate their birthdays merrier, more traditional but memorable. Let's make anniversaries perfect to bring back the old sweet younger times of their lives, and of course, make them feel very important people in our own personal occasions.
Let's talk to them, bring and cook them their favorite food, allow their grand kids to spend time with them, bring them along on short relaxing trips or even to movies (if they would agree), take a walk with them, dine with them, surprise them with little gifts to make them laugh. If they feel loved, they will be very happy.
These special times will stay with them as sweet memories. We will harvest a joy that we would cherish for the rest of our lives when we see them happy in their old age. There will come a day when you wish you could still hear their voice. If you cherish these moments, the memories will comfort you one day.
Words of Wisdom
- Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother
A Commandment with a Promise
A Letter from Mom and Dad
Comments
Thank you so much for adding my hub. I finally did figure out how to link and added two of yours. Yes, much fun figuring out the capsules. I've even figured out how to fix my computer this week. I must say there is plenty of interesting and useful information on HubPages. Thank you again, too!
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You're very much welcome wwolfs. You too must've all the fun discovering how to use the capsules. Thanks for the linking, I already had your "Skin Care at Ninety" linked to my "Well-Nourished Skin!"
Thank you again and cheers!
Tonipet - Thank you so much for your lovely comment. You are such a nice person and I am very happy to have met you.
I'm still learning how to do some of things on these hubs. I just recently figured out how to do the photo capsule. After I read about how to link another hub I will add your article to my skin care hub.
I've been in trucking quite awhile now and overall it really hasn't been bad. I'm sure I have a few stories though. Old boys and young boys have always opened doors for me so I have always been respected as a female. For the most part, there are truly many hard working truck drivers out there that are good people.
Well, thank you so much for the blessings and many blessings to you, too. I do hope you are feeling better.
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Wwolfs, you are among the most fortunate daughters to have stayed beside your old parents during what probably the hardest moments for them. Thank you for sharing that to us, it's no wonder why there's something in you that makes you an extraordinary woman. Your giving back and helping them was a manifestation of how your parents have raised you to someone that you are now. I'm sure you have taken much of the load off of their shoulders.
Thank you also for finding this work of mine as a great job. I too wish others can see it as this might be of help. I wish you all the blessings a child could ever have and it's so nice knowing you. I couldn't imagine what you have to go through to finally conquer even the man's world of trucks! :-)
You're an inspiration wwolfs. Keep up and sending you blessings your way everyday and every minute you're down the road! Apologies for this late reply, I was hit with colds and the hardest cough I think, lol. Thanks for the vote!
Oh, this is really a beautiful hub! The video is great and so true. Such a mystery of life that it brings you right back to the beginning. I really like that, " A Letter From Mom and Dad". Thank you for reminding me of my last days with my mother and father. They were always there for me and I could only do the same for them. I did help out at different times to take care of them. My parents were both sick at the same time and it wasn't always an easy job to do. I was with my mother the night she passed away. The night before my father died he kept trying to tell me something but I could not understand him. He seemed upset and I often wonder what he wanted me to know. I wish I could have been bedside when he died but I had no idea it would be that night. I always feel really bad about that, too.
So many do dump their parents in nursing homes and have no idea what they are missing by not spending some time with them in the end. That is time that goes by fast and then you're left to never hear their voice or see them again. Life really feels different when your parents are gone.
It's true in some cases it is probably necessary to put someone in a nursing home but many are left there and never receive a visit. That is truly sad. You really did a great job on this and need to repost it so others can see it again.
Voted up and awesome!
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Hello.
Thank you for your warm thoughts marymac47. You are very right. What would fill in the emptiness in the hearts of every old Mom and Dad in any "home" is a time for visit, a time for chat and laughter. It sure would make them feel so much loved in a way.
Two of your words brought wisdom "come visit".... enough to touch the hearts of many. I hope many of us will find the very special way to make the elderly in nursing homes feel that joy. You were among those who've made some of them very happy Mary, your touch and care...and God will bless you for doing that. Thank you.
What a caring, thoughtful Hub! I have worked in nursing homes and also, private duty. Sooo many of our elderly are just 'dumped'! Having to put a loved one in a 'home' is sometimes a necessity,but come visit!! My tiy abd you parents have a blessed life!
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What a very nice Mom you have. Her perfect love has made you thoughtful that you are today and she's lucky to have you. Thanks for sharing that Ms. Louise. Let's wish that more children around the world will give the same honor and respect to old parents. All the best to you and your aging parents.
This is a beautiful hub. I too care very deeply about the care for our elderly among us. My mom cared for her mom for the last 15 years of her life. Now my parents are aging more quickly than I would like and I want to honor and respect them too.
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Thank you gmwilliams. Old people truly deserve humane kindness. Thanks for the great wisdom. More power to you!
This is such a beautiful hub. Old people have souls and humanity and it is up to us to love them and treat them with humaneness and kindness.
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