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New Stay At Home Mom

Updated on February 26, 2013

I graduated high school in 2000 and ever since graduation I have been employed with the same company. Every morning for the past 12+ years I've traveled to the same location where some great friendships have been made. I even met my fiance there.

This company and the positions I held there allowed me to save for and purchase my first brand new vehicle, and the 2 vehicles since, my first home and has certainly helped with my love of fashion and... SHOES!

Since my Son was born in July of 2012 my fiance and I have had a few extra expenses including child care. Child care is always very important and if and when families have to make the decision of where to send your little darling(s), the cost should not at all be an expense that is spared.

Our little guy has been in daycare since he was 6 weeks old. After a few concerns were expressed we really liked the establishment we had chosen. Great care, great location and even more important, our little darling really liked it.

After 6 months of sending him to daycare, my fiance and I made the decision that my staying home would be more financially beneficial to our household than continuing the weekly cost of daycare. The care was great but it was SO expensive. Good Lord! I was certainly in the wrong business.

Since I've been home I've been able to spend some quality time with my little man. He's starting to crawl, wave, clap, say Dada and he's cutting his first tooth. All of which I can't imagine someone else experiencing instead of me. I never thought I would be a stay at home Mom and also never thought about how or when these developmental breakthroughs would take place. Now that I'm watching him grow I can't imagine how I would have felt receiving this information from someone else. The teacher in his room would send a picture of him during the day at least once per week. Now I think about how the weekly picture or text could have been he's talking or crawling and how jealous I would have felt not being there to experience it for myself.

I completely understand that not all people have an opportunity to stay home with their children. Now that I have it I wish this for everyone. My relationship with my now 7 month old has really developed over the past few weeks.

He's now on a better eating and sleeping schedule, he's becoming stronger physically and is now attempting to tackle crawling and standing. It may the time I'm spending with him working on these things or it may be that he's at the age where these things begin naturally. I like to think it's because he now has my undivided attention.

I do fear, however, that he is now lacking the interaction among his peers. We were out shopping yesterday and we heard the cries of another child. He appeared to be frantic about finding where and who this sadness was coming from. He looked so worried.

If and when I find a profession that will be more financially beneficial for our home, I will gladly accept but in the mean time I LOVE that I don’t have to drop him off, I LOVE my time with him and I LOVE that I can spend my all of my time helping him and watching him grow.

He’s only going to be this age once.


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      hair bender 5 years ago

      I am soooo glad that you are able to be a stay at home mommy! He will only be little for a small time and like you said, it would be horrible to miss the first walk, the first tooth, the first word. I admire you!!!

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      needadvice1981 5 years ago

      Congratulations on your little one. Is there anything more precious than a baby?

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      Julie 5 years ago

      We just had our little one about 3 months ago, and this is the first time I've ever really been a stay at home mom, like you. Like you, we weighed the costs of things like child care, plus, I had wanted to nurse exclusively. I have been doing it....but, it's definitely a full time job! As a registered nurse, my profession just didn't allow for nursing. I know that some women, in certain professions, may be able to do it, but it really just wasn't possible where I worked. I do also love being home with my newborn. HubPages is the perfect opportunity! Thanks for the great hub!