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No Bullies

Updated on March 3, 2016

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Now that my child is attending Elementary School I can’t help but be aware of the bullying that goes around, and as a parent can only be concerned about the affects this may have on my child. When I was growing up bullies were of course among us but I didn’t experience it until Junior High and never expected it to occur in Elementary schools.

My child had always loved attending school and looked forward to attending during kindergarten and 1st grade, but now that he was transferred to another school for the start of 2nd grade I see him changing emotionally and am concerned about him suffering from depression and needing medication to cope with the stresses he’s obviously been encountering since the start of the school year.

Months after school started his teacher sent home a note which referenced the constant bickering he and another boy in his class were having. At the time the teacher changed their seats and asked them to not speak to one another so they can avoid any conflicts. A month after that I received a call from the Vice Principal because both kids were pulled into her office for bickering in the cafeteria, which resulted with this other child giving my son the middle finger and my son reciprocating the gesture.

The Discussion

Upon speaking with the Vice Principal I quickly defended my child for I know for a fact he couldn’t have started it and it was confirmed by the lunch monitor that the other child had. At the time both children apologized to one another and I assumed it would be sorted out and the other child’s parents will ensure this kid does not disrespect another child in that matter again.

To my surprise it worked for a while but just last night my son said something to me that totally took me off guard and my defenses are now up and with good reason. As per my child this kid is still mocking and belittling him in school and his exact words were “I hate my school.” Coming from an eight year old this comment has to draw up some flags and so today I tried to reach out to the Vice Principal who was busy at the time I called and so was told she would call me back once free.

It is plainly obvious to both my husband and me that this child needs to be talked to once more and that the school has to do its duty of ensuring the “No Bullying” policy is enforced. The last thing I need is to have my child lose focus and be a statistic of depression due to bullying and as a parent I will do everything in my power to prevent it. Therefore, since I couldn’t reach the Vice Principal via phone I sent both she and my son’s teacher an email and after waiting a few hours received a call back.

Based on our conversation it was agreed that this child will not be placed in the same class with my son this fall when he goes on to third grade, and the Vice Principal assured me she will once again have both children come to her office for another discussion. Being a parent is difficult enough but when you have to also worry about your child being picked on and tormented it can be excruciating to say the least. You wish you could tell your child what to really tell this kid upon being picked on, but being Catholic prevents us from going that route, plus we have to continue to set the example that my child is now currently learning as he goes to communion classes once a week, and that is to be kind to others, love everyone and most of all forgive those who trespass against you.


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    • Jillian Barclay profile image

      Jillian Barclay 7 years ago from California, USA

      Another New Yorker! I am happy to meet you and read your hubs! Even though my children are grown, now I worry about my young grandchildren. Bullying can not be tolerated. Schools as well as the parents of bullies must be penalized if they do not implement corrective measures. Too many of our children are becoming victims of hate and it must stop! No one should have to suffer the humiliation and pain of being bullied! Our children are our gifts to the world and they should always be treated as such, with respect. As parents and grandparents, we have to stand united in our efforts to stop this behavior.

      Parents must demand that all schools begin to enforce a zero tolerance policy, whether it is second grade or high school. When that happens, these incidences will decrease because the parents of bullies will then have to become responsible for their children's education.

    • one2recognize2 profile image

      one2recognize2 7 years ago from New York

      Thanks stacies29 for stopping by and commenting. ;)

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      stacies29 7 years ago from Washington DC

      great hub

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      one2recognize2 7 years ago from New York

      Thanks msorenson I will try that for sure. =)

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      You can tell him what I tell my son all the time, that bullies are in pain, deep inside, and that they deserve compassion rather than anger. He will relate to that.