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Grandmas? Do girls think they'll be Grandmas when they grow up?
What little girl doesn't love dolls? What little girl doesn't love babies? Are girls born to be Grandmas or do they grow up to become Grandmas? They are born to be many things but are they born to be Grandmas? In many cases "Grandmahood" is unavoidable, it comes with the territory if you have children. There are different Grandma names, like GG, Nana, Gramma, Mamaw, Gram...no matter the name its still Grandma.
Are little girls are born to be mothers? Put a boy toddler and a girl toddler in a room full of toys and let them choose their own. The girls will go for the dolls and kitchen stuff while the boys head straight for the cars and trucks. Of course this doesn't happen 100% of the time. As a little girl I preferred a gun and holster over a doll and I know boys who prefer kitchen stuff over trucks, but generally they seem to pick the toys we think they will. Nature?
Little Girls Growing Up
Little girls love their dolls. They carry them by the neck or hair everywhere they go. They throw them into carriages and sometimes carry them by one foot but they also cuddle them and feed and burp them doing what they see Mommy do. It seems girls are trained to be mothers from birth without any actual training, could it be in their genes? When little girls become teenagers they often find they are in need of funds and turn to babysitting. I believe babysitting is boot camp for motherhood and babysitting adventures stay with you throughout your life. You get to watch other people’s children and find out what these children are really like when their parents are not at home. Everyone knows children will test a babysitter’s patience in every way humanly possible just to see how much they can get away with. All you have to do is read the Dennis the Menace comic strip to find out what one child can do to a babysitter! In spite of it all, it is a learning experience.
Girls soon grow out of babysitting and start more seriously dating boys. This period of trial and error leads them to the man of their dreams, hopefully. The wedding planning is another trial but this time it is a trail of the family bonds, most noticeably the parents of the bride and the bride. Wedding planning can try the nerves of even people with nerves of steel. All brides are beautiful and while not all weddings go off without a hitch, the weddings are beautiful too. Having come this far it often happens that shortly after the honeymoon an announcement is made that a baby is on the way. This is not always the course these events follow, but for the sake of argument we will keep it that way in this article.
Now comes the Grandma part. When you had your first baby you held the little stranger and your heart nearly burst. Instantly this strange, funny looking baby was the most important person in your life. Whether you had one or six, each one generated the same reaction of awe and never ending love. While they were growing up you had your moments of doubt as to their purpose, was it to torment you or bring you joy? However, you both survived childhood and the pre-teen and teen years. You may have some scars but they only better prepare you for what is to come. When they got married, no one was good enough and you were afraid of being the dreaded mother-in-law, but once mention is made of an impending grandchild all of that disappears. Your son or daughter-in-law is now your son or daughter and your baby is having a baby!
There is no Grandma training. You worry, can I love this little baby like I did my own? Will it love me? Not to worry, love appears when the baby does. This baby becomes the most beautiful, wonderful baby you’ve ever seen. You love it beyond understanding right from the start and the best is yet to come. It doesn’t matter if you have one or ten, each grandchild causes the same reaction. You carry enough pictures of this baby to weigh down a small boat.
Benefits to being a Grandma
This marvelous little baby doesn’t live with you. You can visit it and cuddle it and when it gets cranky or tired you return it. You don’t have to stay up all night for teething or gas. You only have minimal diaper changes when the baby comes to visit and no laundry or bottles to wash. This isn’t so bad at all. Then the baby starts to grow and notice its surroundings it starts to recognize you and smiles when it sees you. This is wonderful, you are a special person to this little dynamo. Then the miraculous day comes when the baby says “Bamma” (which is baby talk for Grandma.) Now the fun begins. You can play with the baby and teach it really cool things. You can buy the baby anything you want, and it all goes home with the baby! Soon Bamma turns to Grandma. Now we’re cooking. The baby knows Grandma has a soft spot. You can spoil the baby and just tell your children, this is what Grandma’s do. This precious little baby looks like your side of the family, at least you think so. This baby is the smartest baby and you get to brag about your grandchild! Whether the baby lives down the street or across the country, you carry those precious grandchild pictures and show them to everyone and anyone whether they’re interested or not. After all, this is your grandchild. If you’re lucky you form a close bond with your grandchild. You bore your friends and anyone else who will look with picture after picture. As your grandchild grows you spend more time with your grandchild. You’re not the old gray haired grandma of long ago, but a younger more vibrant grandma. You take your grandchild for walks and to the zoo. You get to babysit and it’s not boot camp anymore. When your grandchild stops being a baby and starts to be a child, you can ride bikes with your grandchild and maybe even roller skate. And yet, when your grandchild misbehaves, just say, Mommy wouldn’t like that. You don’t want to be the bad guy.You can defend their bad behavior too, just say to your adult child, "I remember when you were this age, you did such and such."
There's No One Quite Like Grandma
You need to start paying attention to the new games and technology gadgets so your grandchild will think you’re hip and you're Grandma! You need to know what’s playing in the movies and what’s in and what’s not. You need to always tell your grandchild how wonderful their parents are and that their parents are always right, even when you don't agree with their decisions. You need to be part mother and part Grandmother to your wonderful grandchild always remembering this is your grandchild, not your child. Your child is now the parent, sometimes a hard pill to swallow but one that will lead to harmony between you and your adult child. Look in the mirror - yes, that is you, not only grown up but a Grandma!
Do girls grow up to be Grandmas?
So how did this happen? How did you become a Grandma? It is the natural course of events when you have a daughter, or a son, who has children. Do all girls grow up to be Grandmas? Of course not, nothing is absolute. I would imagine research of some kind would show the majority of girls do grow up to be Grandmas, with or without training. The nice thing about it is it comes naturally and it is something you will enjoy for the rest of your life! So, do girls grow up to be Grandmas? Most of the time the answer is yes!
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