Oh, The Struggles of Potty Training My Toddler!
I knew we had missed a milestone, compared to some other 2-3 year olds, as we still were walking around in our size four diapers, and I didn't see an end in sight in the immediate future.
My son had been quite stubborn on the subject when we tried with the potty chair. But when I returned to the little toilet seat which I had originally bought, forced myself to take him in on regular intervals and sit him down, and had a few successes, he grew more comfortable being placed on it.
My initial tactics had been to ...............
Place his potty chair next to him and put him on it, with his response to scream and run away. (When I first tried in the bathroom, he adamantly hated it)
We used lots of library and Youtube videos, which he loved! We loved all the potty songs!
And flushing the toilet (nearly 10 times) was always fun! ( As well as using the whole roll of toilet paper)
And finally, realizing he would sit on the toilet with his toilet ring (not the potty chair) (I had originally only purchased this toilet ring, and without success, ran out and bought a potty chair as well, hoping maybe he would learn to use it with that)
Finally, realizing the success would only happen if I enforced this ritual as often as I, myself, would need to use the bathroom. I suppose I was envisioning a lightbulb going off in his head and him just telling me all of a sudden everytime he had to go. But no, I needed to be there every step of the way, essentially reminding him, because, quite frankly, I think he'd rather just prefer to continue using his diapers.
Overall, I've learned as a parent who has been slowly going at this, who can offer any advice to parents about to start the process with hopes of quicker success than myself, that one can.....
1) Be patient and reward success like when your child learned to walk. We were not disappointed when they fell, nor did we reprimand their inabilities. Our children are now able to take responsibility for themselves a bit more for the first time, and this is one of their opportunities to do so, yet we should try to always remain encouraging, rather then discouraged by their ability to take on this new skill.
2) Set more time aside throughout the day consistently to make it happen successfully. I was hoping he would start to tell me by now ( he just turned 3), but I find if I get in there first and jump the gun, I often can catch him at the right time
3) Accidents in undies and pants aren't so bad! They usually don't get on the floor that much with us, not that I encourage to allow that to happen, but it is a good way to transition from diapers ( and save costs), while you are around the house. It can be a training tool because it doesn't hold and they will need to be changed immediately, but it will provide a clear moment for discussion and reminders.