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Updated on April 21, 2015

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I was listening to a guy on one of those Christian family radio stations, he was warning parents of a moment of silence that was about to take place worldwide. I thought what could be so bad about a moment of silence, and then he went on to explain that it was a moment of silence against the dangers of bullying. I was still confused, because standing against bullying is, A okay in my book. Then, he says it’s in protest for the LGBT community and will be done in public schools.

Okay, still don’t have any issue with this I just feel it should not be inclusive only to LGBT I think bullying of any sort to any group is wrong period. I would have personally have broaden the message, but hey it’s their prerogative right? Any good and strong protest against an injustice is always born out of some type injustice or wrong doing on the part of some towards someone being made to feel defenseless, because of systematic inadequacies unaddressed by officials. To be quite honest it could have been a moment where Christians and the LGBT could have stood side by side and said it will not be tolerated regardless of one’s preference, religion belief, race, creed, etc.

Bullying is wrong and should not be tolerated period. But once again hey everyone has their own prerogative. I thought to myself now if they are spending this much time and energy focused on squashing a movement couldn’t their efforts be utilized in a more constructive manner in something that will help and aid both parties beneficially. I thought before you focus on that which divides you let’s find common ground, recognizing there is strength in numbers, and fight for love, respect, and greater understanding. If you for a moment turn your attention to an issue which is great such as the safety of our children, you will find a cause needing your immediate attention.

That issue is simply put as the safety and overall well-being of our children. I was disturbed to learn via my 17 year old sister that her Algebra teacher was fired a little before Spring Break because of alleged sexual misconduct with several young female students. When I tell you I turned 50 shades of angry, that is describing it lightly. Where was our parental notification? This school district literally sends out voice mails and phone calls for the simplest and minuet of things. We get calls for student’s awards days, which we also receive letters for; we get calls for early release, school cancellation, picture day, etc. But has it slipped the mind of the district to notify us that an alleged sexual predator has slipped the confines of your fortress???!!! No!!!

I have this issue of safety come up time and time again, but in the manner of speaking as parents are endangering their children, but parking on the side of the building and walking their child to the inside and hopping back in the car. What was said was they were parking on the side and letting their children walk by themselves, which was totally false. With the rise of teachers being prosecuted nationwide and especially in South Carolina, one would think the background checks would be more thoroughly down and there were psyche evaluations in?

What parent would to try to cause hard to their children if they are worth their salt?! So, parents are not notified and the irony in this case is the class has not had a teacher in that class since before April 5 and just this week received a qualified teacher and 75 percent of the students are failing. Why? Parents were not notified of this either, I will assume that this was not as important. Now they have changed their policies as far as picking your child up. They have decided that doctors, dentists, therapy, and all other appointments come secondary to their supposed quality of education. They have proposed times in which a parent is to come to pick up their child and if you do not come at those times they say you cannot get your child. Teachers are complaining that it disrupts their lecture time.

So, the five seconds its takes to tell my child to come to the office with their books interrupts your quality education right??? Do they take into account this county no longer has a hospital as a of April 20th and so some of these appointments are out of town and have to be made at the availability of the health care professional. That is not understood nor is it attempted to be comprehended, but what should I expect from a poor performing school and district. This school is a part of an F school district and the school itself received a C. I was also informed of a snake problem, a threat of shooting and school shooting attempt, a pest (RAT) problem via the child. So, I wonder where are the priorities of these officials that are running this school and this district. IS SOMEONE asleep at the WHEEL? Why is this district being run like a Mickey Mouse operation at best? If you attend the school board meeting you would understand! The behavior of supposed professionals is much less than desirable and leaves a lot to be desired. If I could only draw I would have quite a cartoon for you to enjoy.

During their debates of the district issues the loudest in the room successes. All I can say to that is something my great grandmother used to say, “An empty wagon makes a lot of noise.” Attention to detail and the meeting of deadlines is just a dream during their meetings. They don’t even remember what topics are to be discussed so it comes off as lost souls trying a make a point that is irrelevant to the point at hand. I am sure there are some intelligent board members, however, they are drowned out by other loud mouths with their own agendas and order is a thing of the past. Making your point is more important than making a difference for the children. It is sad at best. So, I ask again, where are the priorities of these supposed leaders?

They are intermingled tightly with their agendas, where the kids pay the price, for that is evident in the test scores and their yearly grades. Sometimes as parents, as activists, as community members we must band together not to attack and mutilate one another’s agendas, because that which unites us is much greater than that which divides us. One thing we can all agree own is we are parents at the end of the day and we are to protect the interest of our children and hold those accountable when needed who threaten to hurt, demean, or dehumanize the spirit of our children. We have to stand in the gap for our children, until they are mature enough and old enough to stand into the gap for themselves. You can bring about greater change, when we work together, instead being a small hit, let’s TKO the issues that matter most to us all as one and that is the safety of our children.

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    • brittvan22 profile image

      brittvan22 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Thank you Akriti Mattu!

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      Akriti Mattu 3 years ago from Shimla, India

      Nicely put.

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      brittvan22 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Thank you, I agree with you 100%! I am definitely going to have to bridge that gap, because we can't afford for so many to fall within the crack of blunders made on the part of administers. Just recent during an after school program a child was felt on the bus while sleeping and woke up and watched downtown when a passerby saw him at age 5 wander and called police. The drive and one of the others were charged, but to me it hints that not just an issue with those two charged, but a systematic problem.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      A most excellent article. We simply cannot rely on schools to get it right. They are what they are and that is not an end all to the problems in society and with raising children. Step up when needed with the school, but focus mainly on our child to fill the gap between home and school.

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      brittvan22 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Thanks for your comment. Yes it was focus on your family and they were urging parents to pull their kids out that day. They were upset about violating their rights as Christians in the public school system. They also suggested finding a good Christian school to send your kids to. If only great teachers were in such short supply. Most teachers are overworked and unpaid and there is a new generation that are only in it to pay off their student loans. If you teach for three years your student loan is paid off. Sadly the kids are the ones that suffer in the end.

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      Lori Colbo 3 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      Great rant. I think we are all concerned about public education. I have several teacher friends of the public school system and they are amazing and go well beyond and above. But there are many not so good, and outright have no business being a teacher. But as you point out, it's the philosophy and carelessness of school districts. They hold their little public meetings where parents come and air their concerns and precious little gets done, and sometimes they are quite arrogant. This has become the norm for our society too.

      You started off with the anti bullying thing. On the surface I agree with your thoughts, but I'd love to hear the whole thing that was said. Was this Focus on the Family?

      I agree with someone else about running for school office. And I love your grandmother's saying. We need more sensible people in this world like our grandparents.

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      brittvan22 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      It was awesome!! Needs to be more teachers like her. And my those responses were so heart breaking.

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      RBJ33 3 years ago

      Go for it !!!!

      Here, one of the teachers had her students complete this sentence - "I wish my teacher knew . . . ." It went viral with the answers - very revealing.

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      brittvan22 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      I haven't thought about it I always try to assess the issues speak the necessary officials and see if change happens. In this school district I just may have to, because I found they are more concerned with their own self-serving agendas then the positive matriculation of our children. I also think there should be something in place such as an on call therapist to resolve teacher/principal student issues. They are trained to educate our children and the administrative should work with the teachers and not against them in this process. It truly takes a village to raise children and it starts at home and spreads abroad. I will definitely consider it.

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      RBJ33 3 years ago

      Hey brittvan - I'm with you. Our first school was founded 378 years ago. We've had 378 years to figure it out, and we can't seem to do it. Elementary school teachers should be one of the top five professions in this country.

      Why don't you run for the school board?


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