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Parental Influence on their Children
”Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.” ("Preteen-thru-teenage-parenting-action guide")
Fathers who actively participate in their children’s live have an incredible impact on how they do in their schooling. Fathers will push their children to do better if they are involved in their lives; some examples of this would be in schooling and sports. I know that this is especially true for me. My father always pushed me to do my very best at everything that I did.
When I was in coach’s pitch baseball as a little kid, my dad was my coach. He always pushed me to do better in every aspect of my life. In coach’s pitch he would drive me to practice early and pitch the balls, what seemed to me like, extremely fast so that I could learn how “not be afraid of the ball.” I was on the coach’s pitch team with my older brother for a year or two. Whenever we would go to the field to practice, my brother would complain about having to practice before practice and eventually give up and my dad would try to encourage him to keep going, but to no avail. I, on the other hand, would stay as long as my dad would throw the ball. I can remember the conversation as if it happened yesterday. My dad had been throwing the baseball a lot faster than anything we would see in a coach's pitch game, and my brother and I were getting tired of swinging and missing.
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"This isn't fun anymore, dad." my brother moaned after he swung his bat as fast as he could at a ball that had already passed him by. "My arms are getting tired, and nobody is even here for practice yet."
"If you want to do well at baseball, then you'll have to learn how to hit a fastball." My dad replied as he gathered up some baseball to pitch to me. My dad had me step up to the plate and get in my batting stance. "You ready, son?"
"I think so." I muttered as he launched a baseball through the strike zone at something close to a million miles per hour, or at least that’s what I thought at the time. "Whoa! That almost took my head off!"
"That was nowhere near your head." My dad retorted. "You have to get used to the ball, ad not be so afraid of it. You close your eyes every time you swing. The ball isn't going to hit you. You need to just face it head on and swing." My dad told me all of this as he was motioning for my brother to take a turn at the plate. "It's your turn, Tommy."
"I don't want to do this anymore." My brother stated defiantly. "It isn't fun."
"This is going to help your game tremendously if you just work on it some more." My dad pleaded.
"I just want some time to relax before everyone else gets here." My brother replied.
"Okay, do what you want. I can't make you want to get better. Timmy, do you want to keep going?" My dad questioned.
"Yeah, I want to get better." I stated.
"Good," My dad said cheerfully, "let's get started."
My dad encouraged me to put try and do my best in everything I did, and always made sure that I knew he was there to lend any kind of support that I would need. My dad has always been around to help me with my homework. In the third grade, I could always count on him to ask for my homework every night after supper, and check to see if I understood how to do the problems. If I didn’t understand how to do the problems he would find a pencil and paper, and demonstrate how to do a problem step by step. The more he showed me the more I learned. I was able to stay in the “smart” math classes all the way into high school.
My dad also saw to it that I had his support in sporting events and other extracurricular activities. He encouraged me to participate in wrestling, football, basketball, soccer, cross country, track, student council, drama, and yearbook. My dad was able to coach or advise me on almost every club or activity I participated in. The most memorable of all of the clubs or activities I’ve been in that he has helped me with would have to be wrestling. He personally drove me to every tournament, took time off work to watch me wrestle, and even taught me some moves. My dad helped me get the basics down by teaching me memory tricks and the fundamentals behind wrestling. I can still remember him telling me “If you stay off of your news you can give your legs more leverage to push your opponent around.” That was probably some of the best advice I had gotten in wrestling. It completely changed my wrestling style when I got that down. My wrestling improved greatly from his advice and I won the county tournament in 8th because of it.
If my dad had just taken me to practice a couple of minutes before it started, then I wouldn’t have had that kind of work ethic instilled in me as a child. The work ethic he instilled in me as a child led me to try and take harder classes going through elementary. The work ethic also made it possible for me to succeed at sports in middle school. The support my dad showed throughout my life is reflected in the accomplishments I have made thus far. He made it possible for me to accomplish all of this because my dad gave me the support I needed and the advice that helped me the most. If it wasn’t for his persistence for me to do my very best, then I might have given up early in coach’s pitch, taken the easy classes, not done any of the sports or activities I did, or even tried half of the stuff I have tried. My personality is completely based upon the work ethic my father instilled in me as a child, and without the way that he raised me I would probably be a completely undriven individual without any ambitions.
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"Parenting statistics." Preteen-thru-teenage-parenting-action guide. SBI, 2008. Web. 18 Aug 2012.< http://www.preteen-thru-teenage-parenting-action-guide.com/parenting-statistics.html>.