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Baby Wearing Criticism
No, I don't want your criticism. I want to raise my children the way I see fit, regardless of what anyone else thinks about it. Sure, I appreciate giving and receiving helpful tips, but please don't criticize.
Yes I wear my baby, often. He was born 8 weeks early and he has colic. It's comforting for him to be in the wrap. And you know what, I like him in there. I enjoy being able to be close to him while getting things done around my home. He is not spoiled. He does not like to be put down, this is true. But that does NOT make him spoiled. If he cries, it's because he needs me. Not because he's manipulative. He doesn't know what that is yet. Will I continue to "wear' my baby? Absolutely!!!! I'm even considering getting my toddler into a carrier. One child on my front and one child on my back!
Why not? Babies are only babies for so long. They won't always want to cuddle with you. If by their mother or father holding them, they find peace and comfort, why deny them that? I admit, I would love to be able to put him down sometimes. But my sole job right now is ensuring his comfort and happiness. It's not about me, or you or Suzie down the street. Truthfully, I purchased my baby wraps for my toddler; Not for him to use, but so that I would have free hands when the baby was born to be there for him. Because he needs me too. Just this evening I had our newborn in the baby wrap and my toddler on my hip. And you know what..? It felt awesome to be able to be there for both of them at the same time.
So while I may be ridiculed for how I choose to mother my sons, I will continue to do what I feel is what they need. And I wouldn't change a thing. You know, if I always put my baby down to do housework, how could we bond? We couldn't. And I would regret that. So before you verbally criticize someone for "baby wearing", choose your words wisely because momma bears are not a force to be reckoned with.