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Parenting Criticized

Updated on August 28, 2015

Baby Wearing Criticism

No, I don't want your criticism. I want to raise my children the way I see fit, regardless of what anyone else thinks about it. Sure, I appreciate giving and receiving helpful tips, but please don't criticize.

Yes I wear my baby, often. He was born 8 weeks early and he has colic. It's comforting for him to be in the wrap. And you know what, I like him in there. I enjoy being able to be close to him while getting things done around my home. He is not spoiled. He does not like to be put down, this is true. But that does NOT make him spoiled. If he cries, it's because he needs me. Not because he's manipulative. He doesn't know what that is yet. Will I continue to "wear' my baby? Absolutely!!!! I'm even considering getting my toddler into a carrier. One child on my front and one child on my back!

Why not? Babies are only babies for so long. They won't always want to cuddle with you. If by their mother or father holding them, they find peace and comfort, why deny them that? I admit, I would love to be able to put him down sometimes. But my sole job right now is ensuring his comfort and happiness. It's not about me, or you or Suzie down the street. Truthfully, I purchased my baby wraps for my toddler; Not for him to use, but so that I would have free hands when the baby was born to be there for him. Because he needs me too. Just this evening I had our newborn in the baby wrap and my toddler on my hip. And you know what..? It felt awesome to be able to be there for both of them at the same time.

So while I may be ridiculed for how I choose to mother my sons, I will continue to do what I feel is what they need. And I wouldn't change a thing. You know, if I always put my baby down to do housework, how could we bond? We couldn't. And I would regret that. So before you verbally criticize someone for "baby wearing", choose your words wisely because momma bears are not a force to be reckoned with.

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    • maggs224 profile image

      maggs224 

      14 months ago from Sunny Spain

      No one, not even the so called experts knows your child like you do. I think you are right to trust your instinct. As for being criticized it seems in life there is always someone around who wants to tell you you are not doing it right. So I am with you, do it your own way, you will not have so many things to regret in life that way.

      You look like you are doing a great job and you are right they are not babies for very long. What ever stage of life you are in live it to the full live in the moment.

      You cannot spoil a child by giving it too much love it won't be long before the child will let you know that they want to do things for themselves.

      I know when you try to appease those who are critical of everything you do, they will still find something else to criticise for.

    • MJStaysHome profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Jo 

      2 years ago from PA

      His head is supported. I think the issue is more about spoiling him where he needs to be held all of the time... :)

    • peachpurple profile image

      peachy 

      2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      Maybe you can hold your baby head when you wear him/her. I used to carry him/her too but I make sure to hold the head, might strain the neck. I also hate when my mom in law say this and that , how I care my babies

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