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Parenting Your Grandchild

Updated on January 14, 2019

Family Matters

My husband and I are grandparents who are parenting one of our grand daughters. Our reasons for doing this are mainly mental health / substance abuse issues, which have created a need for a safe haven for our grand daughter. A choice we are happy to provide, as her safety and stability are paramount in our eyes. There are many grandparents that are taking care of their grandchildren, and this hub is dedicated to all of them. Family matters, and we do what we have to, when we have to, because we love.


"Empty Nesting" not in our future.

The phase of life that many refer to as "empty nesting" was a short lived experience for us. I can't quite remember, but I think it was approximately 3 or 4 months. For the past 5 years, we have had our grand daughter living with us pretty much all of the time. There have been a few times when she was not with us, and during those times she was always on our minds and hearts.

We try to keep our rose colored glasses handy, to look through as we take things day by day. We have learned that laughing at ourselves can really save our sanity. There are challenges that parenting grandparents face that we did not have to deal with when we were caring for our own children. Here is a lighter side a sometimes heavy task.

1) Our age, it isn't slowing down, lol. We may want it to, even threaten it at times, but it continues on its uninterrupted journey, completely uninfluenced by our desires.

2) Where did all these aches and pains come from???? When did my body start sounding like a haunted house when I move? All those creaks, cracks, and pops. Never mind that I have have way more body parts now than I did when I was younger, because there are places hurting that I know I never had before.

3) Energy.... Where did it go? How come I can hear my pillow calling me to bed at 7:30 now? What happened to the ability to stay up half the night and keep going the next day?

4) Patience and tolerance, I used to have them, nothing bothered me. Now I think they have retired, lol. Not really, but it is harder to take things in stride now that we are older. I think I'm getting crotchety and set in my ways. Oh!! Heaven forbid!! Well at least I haven't started collecting cats yet. However, lately there has been an old stray that comes by to say hi when we are out back on the deck, do you suppose it's a sign of things to come?

5) Surviving the teen years again?? We barely got out with our minds intact last time. How are we going to handle that? I guess we will have to resign ourselves to the fact that our grandchild is worth the trade of our sanity. Truthfully though, I am hoping it won't be too bad, she is a wonderful child. We have settled into a nice comfortable routine and developed a mutual respect that I think will weather us through most of the struggles we face in the upcoming years. At least we will be working on them together.


Not so Light Sometimes.

I know that I have poked fun at a serious situation, and made light of some heavy burdens. I do so only to offer a whimsical perspective on a burden of love. As I said before, learning to laugh at ourselves has helped to save our sanity. My hat goes off to all of those grandparents who rise to the need of their grand children and do so with a willing heart. Salute.

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    • Lifes 2nd Chances profile imageAUTHOR

      Colleen Lyon 

      7 years ago from Kansas City, Missouri

      Bethaleg, thank you for the follow and the comments. I lived with my grandmother for my last year of high school, and it was one of the best memories of my life. Thanks for reading. Take care, C.

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      Bethaleg 

      7 years ago from Minnesota

      You are doing a great job, and wrote a beautiful Hub. My grandmother lived with us briefly and it was a wonderful time for the kids still living at home. Although this is the opposite, I know your granddaughter will grow up with many beautiful memories. Hope it continues to go well for you. Following you now : )

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      Colleen Lyon 

      7 years ago from Kansas City, Missouri

      Crazybeanrider, thank you so much for the words of encouragement.

      We do try to have fun, which is so very important. She is a great little girl and is so full of potential. I appreciate the well wishes. Take care, C.

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      Boo McCourt 

      7 years ago from Washington MI

      I think it is awesome you have stepped up to care for your granddaughter. It isn't an easy road to take. My mom took care of her GD off and on for several years. She now lives with her dad and is doing very well. Her relationship with her mother is starting to mend as well. She is 16 and went through some pretty tough years , but looks like she is on her way up instead of down. You sound like a wonderful grandmother, your granddaughter is lucky to have such loving grandparents. Don't forget to have fun as well, which sometimes is very difficult when raising a teenager. best of luck to you.

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