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Parenting and our best friends. People are happy to give.

Updated on September 1, 2013

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Life gets better when we get dirty
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I am telling you that life is hard, real hard.

So I teach my children how to fall and get the heck back up. I am not some Guru or Catholic nun in a school. I am a father figure to at least 8, four natural. And assorted others.

I have literally two generations of my children. Nephew and Nieces that lived with me. Three immigrant young people that needed a dad here. And a couple of dozen second gen immigrants that I preach and love to.. I have coached over 1,000 younger people from Dartmouth to San Diego. Soccer, baseball, softball and basketball. Children are my best friends --- my youngest natural is 3 and my oldest is 30.

Children and their development is my life.

I got all cleared and joined a group called:

USSCA, that meant that I was cleared as a non child molester. I went and got cleared as an LEM 2 which meant I was not a child molester. USSCA is United States Ski Coaching Assoc. And an LEM2 is an Episcopal ministerial position for outreach.

I guess that clears me as not a bad guy when it comes to children. But that is only the beginning of the journey.

Hugs --- are essential. Life is made up of cold prickly things. Love is made up of warm fuzzy things. I got at least 14 young women - early twenties. That I coached and loved through their awkward years that still hug me and give me a cheek kiss when I see them. And I have several that are older nearing 30 and it is the same. My boy and I do not go to the beach too much, but when we do --- all those gals come out to love and it is glorious.

As I done told you before I am not a good man. I just try to be. But I am blessed. These young people are doctors and lawyers and Yogis and ministers and such.

What we need to do with our youth is put forth here

You see that love is not nice and easy --- it is tough

We would like life to be easy and nice and easy. But it don't work that way! Life is easy and then it gets tough. I will teach you to fall down at forty miles an hour on a ski course. I will teach you how to tuck and roll and slide on my soccer field, I will teach you how to take a fast pitch on your back and scoot on down to 1st plate. I will teach you how to get bucked off a horse and land on your feet.

Baby let us fail together. rat a tat and rat a tat- move it baby. We got to get back up again.

Maybe baby that math has you whooped, maybe that writing has got you stumped, maybe that mortgage is causing strife in the family.

Don't you ever worry, people all over the world got issues. Share your issues with that baby.

My children deserve the o me

No it ain't always pretty. like making sausage. And the older ones question every dang thing you do. You become the issue. So I turn on some music. And remind them how to dance.

But we got to let go and let loose. Our children are not possessions. They are far better than that.

Now this next video is to illustrate the fact that we are not keepers. Some children are stars. That flash like angels and then are gone. Others are our moon, secure and every night loving us.

Sometimes you just let go and let your star burn out.

I am so sorry, being a parent is sometimes hard.

The raise up and then just burn out. Do not condemn. They are our children. Let that be enough.

I do not know sorrow. Yet I get it. I should know sorrow better so I could sing the blues better. And I like to get all dressed up in my sad face and try to act angry and sad.

But the children bite me on my butt every time I try to get low. They are there spitting back garbage I fed them to be better people. A man who stands alone is alone. A man who reaches out arms and with all his strength lifts others is my friend. Sometimes them arms just break and we let them down. But we do it again until we get it right.

In about 2001 I was teaching a course in a Communist Country that I call home.

My job was to teach marketing. hihihihi. In a communist State??? Really?

Well I taught and they listened. And the most important thing I taught was how to fail. We are not designed to win every battle. We are not designed to always be champions. We are made to be our best. Fear of falling takes that best down several notches.

We do not need another hero, we do not need another white horse or white house.

What we need are parents and role models getting up and dustin themselves off and standing tall and strong. We need moms and dads that get up and do it every day. And lead the way.

The other morning I was up before the dawn. I thought I really have enjoyed the stay but I must be moving on. But that ain't how it works. You get to work. You exercise and you help that boy put on his big boy pants and fire him up for the day. It is a danged long run. And you better get it together and saddle up for the long ride. Else I will come kick your ass!!!


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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great thoughts here on Parenting and our best friends. People are happy to give, parenting indeed tough and if parents are less educated about parenting skills the tougher it becomes, this especially in the modern day.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      If we read Lastheart, formerly known as Maria we cannot really stray too far from a path of empathy and sympathy and make this world better.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      5 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Nice, nice, nice. A sweet oxymoron; tenderness and tough love. Your going the right way.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I sit there with my robe each Sunday. Enough I said. Now I sit with my wife and child and read the Gospel from a pew. We are each one connected and we must endeavor to stay that way.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh MsDora, they sing to me. Seldom call. Seldom write a note. But they sing by being the best they can be, and I rejoice in it!

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      Karen A Szklany 

      5 years ago from New England

      You sure do put your heart and soul out to the world here on Hub Pages, Eric, so that everyone will know what it is like to be human on a very deep level.

      Parenthood...and working with young people are both such humbling endeavors. I have taught, too, as well as being a parent...and we live to know we've made a difference....and I live to know that I make a difference in the lives of young people in the co-housing community I live in....the number one person being my daughter.

      Thank you for being you...and those children you parent and teach and build up each day will thrive because you are in their lives. It's the little things each day that make up a life.

      With much love from Seafarer Mama...and Namaste!

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, you have a good heart, and I know that you accomplish even more than you think you do. Intentions mean a lot when you share. One day the kids will tell you.


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