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Parents: Our Words can Build or Break Our Kids
There is power in the Tongue and children are very sensitive. Looking after kids involves money, but there is also the spiritual/emotional side we need to cater for and a lot of this comes through the words we speak.
How can we build our Kids with words?
A) Praise – Even from when they are toddlers. If they draw pictures for you, or share their sweets with you. Praise them – they will feel happy and motivated inside. My friend’s daughter drew a photo of me once, with a Head like humpty dumpty and two tiny legs and gave it to me with the proudest smile. I looked at it and thought to myself “oh my DayZ, is that me?” but I smiled at her and said I’d put it on my wall. She was so happy and felt encouraged to draw more pictures, bringing out the creative side of her. Thank goodness, she didn’t draw more pictures of me.
B) Positive Encouraging Words – It’s nice to let them know you believe in them and you know they will do well in school or sports competitions etc. (Even if they are finding subjects hard) still, encourage them. Telling them they are dumb, stupid and phrases like “why can’t you be like your friend next door who is so intelligent” only makes them shrink back and lose confidence in themselves.
I was listening to one of the Nolan sisters in an Interview with a comedian - Lenny Henry, months ago. (she is below). She was in the "Dancing on Ice" competition in UK and didn’t like it when her partner picked her up on Ice. She felt very uncomfortable.
Why? When she was young, she ran to one of her Uncle's and when he picked her up, he jokingly said she was very heavy. Well, that stuck with her till today, even though she is married with kids.
Coleen Nolan with Danicing Partner
C) Prayer or Positive Affirmations – If you are a Christian/Muslim, pray over your children. There are a lot of freaky accidents that happen these days that I believe if prayers are said, it wouldn’t happen. Kids falling out of windows from skyscrapers, or falling off balconies on holiday, being mauled by dogs/foxes, abductions etc. If you don’t believe in prayer then consider making positive affirmations over your child.
“My child will be a success in life”. My child will not end up in a gang”. "My Child will always be safe." and other wonderful things you wish for your child.
We’ve seen it all before, kids who come from beautiful, well educated families, but sadly end up with the wrong crowd. Some live iin the same house as their parents, but still commit suicide. We can’t always be with them, but our prayers will.
Some countries are known for kidnapping kids and using them for rituals to make money. In one such Country – years ago, some kids were kidnapped, but when it came to the turn of a particular kid to be used, they just couldn’t. They had to let him go because they felt very uncomfortable with him. Why? He came from a strong Christian family. He must have been covered with daily prayers and positive affirmations.
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