- Family and Parenting
"Past-Present-Future" by Rolly A. Chabot
Finally Spring has arrived here in Alberta Canada. We are basking in some nice warm temperatures and cool evenings and loving it in comparison to the winter we have just experienced.
Spring is a time of renewal, we see it all around us. The birds returning and singing their morning song. Trees coming alive again with buds of leaves, grass greening up again. One of the best parts is watching people getting out and about and the conversations taking place on the streets all around me.
Gather around and lets see my thoughts lead tonight and please feel free to jump in and say hello. I truly do love to hear from you. I may be a little while getting back to your comments but I will. I started a three novel series back in November that has been consuming a great deal of time. It s called "Arctic Island Mist." It is all about renewal of the human spirit and what can happen if we are willing to look deep within, we can find peace. Above all as you sit and ponder of what I write this day I want you to understand and take with you is that you are dearly loved.
Settle in, my home is yours and may you leave a blessing and take one with you....
Let me start with a comment I heard tonight on TV that struck me in such a way it has maybe prompted me to write this. The statement was simple and yet profound in so many ways. It may even have a great deal with the way we see the world crumbling around us.
"Let your past be your present and it will become your future"
This picture reminds me of life. You know the fences and boundaries we establish for fear of having to deal with yet another hurt. Love and trust are two words that are hard to put into action.
The above statement is so simple and yet so very profound when you study what is actually being spoken here. Often we look at the past and venture to say if only I could change what I have done. At times we carry bitterness, frustration and anger over what we have done or worse what has been done to us. It is a fact of life, we all have it in varying degrees.
What do you see when you look into the mirror of the privacy of your home? Do you like yourself or dislike what you see. I know for years I hated what I saw. The anger was controlling me in all aspects of my life. Friendships, relationships and yes even my health.
It has a right to be there should you allow it a foothold, you are actually saying bring on all the bad so that I have something to feed what I have growing inside of me. You have given it permission to control you.
Forgiveness is huge in the process of healing. You need to live it all over again and again. You will need to stop pointing fingers at others and point them back at yourself more often than not. Forgiving others is easy really, but try and forgive yourself and yourself puts up the greatest battle.
Think about it for a minute. "Let your past be your present and it will become your future." Lets just take a scenario and say that if you are living in a place that is consuming you over some wrong... the next thing that happens is you become resentful and filled with the desire of revenge. Can you see where it is a never ending cycle.
The present is where we live today. I am not talking about the physical location of where we are. The address is nothing, only a pace. What I speak about is where our hearts, passion and desires lie.
What is important to you as a person. What is it that will make you happy. Even better taking a personal inventory of yourself and write what makes you unhappy. Find a quiet spot with interruption and start writing. What really is it deep inside that holds you back from finding true peace from within. If your heart is guarded because of some pain it is a part of your heart others can not reach with love.
Forgiving yourself, forgiving others are all part of the healing. If you continue to draw from the past and make it your present day motto and it is ugly then I am afraid to tell you keep it up and your future is already set in motion. The past is just that it is. "Gone." You can never change what has taken place.
You can through correct it through some deep soul searching. Sometimes we need to take the painful step of calling up someone and saying I am sorry for what I did to you. Forgiveness is gained through being open, honest and transparent and have a willingness as well to forgive others.
Sometimes we are too late in dong so because those same people have passed on or hard to find. In such cases we need to accept the blame and own up to it just to have peace. Sometimes we are forced to forgive from deep within. Te reason to do a personal inventory. Trust me it does make it easier.
It depends on you and what you want to step into it with. The choice and decision is all yours. I can not say that I will survive another day, it is completely out of my hands. The news today talked about a young man crossing the street wearing a headset listening to his music. One minute is alive and filled with life, the next he becomes another fatality. That is sad in so many ways, did he control his future. If he could take it all back would he have placed the headset on and stepped out into the path of cement truck.
How did he leave this world today. Did he leave it in anger and frustration. I suppose we will never know. It can happen that quick my friends. For me I want to leave with everything taken care. I do not want to leave one person behind knowing I could have made it all right with them and myself.
Please take the time to think about the statement and ask yourself. "Is what I feel today what I want to carry into the future." Do I want it to be my future or do I take the time and put the effort into the baggage so my future has some hope.
I choose to not have the milestone around my neck. I want to enjoy all of the creation about me. I want to experience all the pleasure that life offers. I choose to do so with my faith intact. I hope you do the same my friends.
© Rolly A. Chabot
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