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Buying of Babies From Baby Factories in Nigeria
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For quite some time now, a new wave of making money through selling of new born babies is currently sweeping across parts of the Nigeria. Operators of the homes and their syndicates usually scout for females with unwanted pregnancies and lure them to their clinics for delivery. Some keep young girls and allow their male syndicates to impregnate them and hold them in hostage throughout the gestation period. Thereafter the owners of the homes settle the teenage girls with cash and sell their babies to desperate childless women who patronize their clinics for fruit of the womb at high costs, and pay pittance to the teenage girls.
Gone are the days when people felt that a childless couple was destined to remain so because they have problem with their reproductive system, because adoption has come to stay. Gone, too, are the days when eyebrows were raised when it became known that a child was adopted and he was discriminated against because of it. So if you want a child and your doctor tells you that you cannot have one, why not consider seriously the possibility of adoption? But you have to do it the legal way, not by patronizing baby factories.
There are official processes for adoption, but in Nigeria some criminal elements have decided to take care of this very important human need in criminal way. Every year, the Nigerian police discover several baby factories, where women are held captive to give birth to babies destined to be sold illegally either to adoptive parents or for rituals or into slavery.
Child harvesting is defined by Wikipedia as, “The active drafting of parents and children for adoption market and is particularly associated with and prevalent on the international adoption countries and markets.” Typically, a relinquishing family or parent is coerced into permanently giving away the child for adoption without any hope of ever re-connecting with the child.
Baby factory or baby farm is a location where women are encouraged or forced to become pregnant and give up their newborns for sale. Some poverty-stricken women have stated they voluntarily worked at baby factories, motivated by the prospect of monetary gain. The children are sold for adoption will work in plantations, mines, and factories, and also carry out domestic works or are sold into prostitution. In some extreme cases they are used for rituals.
But in the official level, if you have one child and your doctor tells you cannot have another, you can give your child the required companionship of a brother or sister by adopting a baby who has no home and who can complete the family of your dream.
It is desperation that makes many couples to resort to baby factories because you can imagine what it feels like to be abandoned, totally alone in the world knowing there is no one who really cares if you live or die. Along comes this man or woman who says, “We can give you a child at affordable rate.” You will want to grab the opportunity, because they have given you hope.
Many people believe they could never feel the same an adopted child as they would toward their own child, but the situation has changed. An adopted child and his position in the family is the same as that of a biological child. For reality, once he is legally adopted, the couple assumes all responsibilities of real parents; he has all the rights of a biological child.
You cannot go out the same day you finally decide you want to adopt a child and come back with one. The criminal activity –the sale of babies by heartless individuals, out to make money in devilish ways had become a thing of serious concern. Modern slavery had become a reality in Nigeria; with the perpetrators no longer the white but Nigerians.
You may have to wait for years before you are granted the custody of a baby. And it will be one or two years more before all the legal documentation are completed. When a decision to adopt has been reached, go through an approved adoption agency. Don’t try to get a baby through the back-door methods and don’t take a baby that someone knows about and can arrange to get for you for a sum of money. If you do, you may live to regret this haste very seriously.
A child whose adoption is arranged for through the proper channel is thoroughly tested, physically and mentally, to make sure that he is healthy and normal. But babies sold from baby factories are not subjected to this process. His parentage is normally known to the adoption agency, and why he is being placed for adoption. In baby factories, it is strictly ‘cash and carry.’ Proper documentation is never done. Furthermore, the adoption agency takes care of the legal matters connected with adoption, thus avoiding the heart-breaking experience of the baby’s parents having to claim him from his adopted parents at a later date. In some cases, illegally adopted babies had been returned to their biological parents because the process of adoption was illegal and could not be sustainable.
While waiting the couple will be interviews by members of the staff of the adoption agency. They will want to see if the couple or the individuals are physically, financially, morally, emotionally, and intellectually equipped for parenthood. The worker of the agency may drop in on the persons interested in adoption unannounced, to see how they live when not expecting a visitor.
In most case, the parents of adopted child always love him as much as they would their very own. First, they have waited so long and a child of their own never arrived. Then they have waited so long for a child to adopt. Their love is heightened, therefore, because the child fulfills a long-for hope. Few adopted children ever have reason to question their parents’ love for them.
Unfortunately, this is not always the case when there are other members in the family. If there are other children, born before or after the adopted child’s arrival, the rivalry and jealousy between children almost in every home, may be increased by the real child’s feeling that the adopted child does not rightly belong to the family.
Investigations revealed that the patrons of these baby factories are high-heeled and well-to-do couples who visited mostly at night in sleek automobiles because members of older generation often believe adoption is wrong because God sends children to families. Many older generations are prejudiced against adopted children, especially when they have real grandchildren. The adopted child is sensitive to these feelings; and it makes him feel even more unwanted and unwelcome. To avoid this unfortunate situation, parents must do all in their power to adopt their children legally and convince their elderly relatives of the joy the adopted child brings into their lives.
Sooner or later every adopted child finds out he is adopted. How he learns this, and from whom, is most important for the attitude he develops toward himself and his foster family. If he was legally adopted it would be easier to explain the situation. Learning the wrong way from the wrong source can do harm that no amount of love and care will ever undo. So it is important that the foster parents take time to explain everything to the child once he has reached the age to comprehend the full meaning of adoption.
The adopted child must have a healthy attitude toward the whole matter of adoption, fostered by years of experience with people who love him in the home, and people in the community who accept him as they accept all other children who are not adopted. Only in this way will he escape frustrations, heartbreaks and resentments that always come to an adopted child when he realizes the full meaning of adoption.
To discourage the baby factories, stringent measures must be taken, because some people believe that the increase in the trade was because those arrested in the past have not been appropriately punished.