Positive parenting – stimulate the development of your child
The four aspects
The emphasis of positive parenting is put on developing a good communication with your child and giving them positive attention to things it does well. This way it will give them a good and confident feeling, making them function better and it decreases the chances of developing behavioural problems in a later stage. Positive parenting knows 4 aspects which will be discussed in this article.
Aspect 1: Creating a safe and stimulating environment
Make sure that your house is child-proof by placing locks on cabinets and drawers that have unsafe items in them and place child fences in front of unsafe areas (stairs, basements). Also provide a stimulating environment by having toys around that your child can play with and are possible educative toys.
Aspect 2: Learning by supporting
Parents should be present and available, meaning that when your child needs your help, stop with what you are doing and take the time to help your child. Also pay attention by your child when it is doing something that you like/admire/approve of. In that case, compliment him/her and sit with him/her. This will make your child feel that it is being rewarded for good behavior and that you really take interest in his/her activities.
Aspect 3: Discipline
Teaching discipline and rules to your child is certainly not an easy thing to do! Important here is that you teach them this in a positive and open manner and just be clear and consequent as well.
- When your child misbehaves react immediately, don’t wait until things go wrong.
- Clearly tell/explain your child what it can and cannot do and what it was doing wrong.
- At all times keep calm and avoid any screaming, cursing,etc. This will only make your child feel scared/insecure.
Aspect 3: Have realistic expectations
Every child is unique and will develop itself in his own tempo. If parents expect too much from their children or demand certain things at a too early stage from them, this could cause problems. Consult a professional person/organization that has experience with children if you are not sure what you should be able to expect from your child at his/her age. Also don’t expect too much of yourself as a parent, because parents are not perfect either. In the end, parenting is something you have to learn with a rise and fall.
Aspect 4: Take good care of yourself as a parent
Remember that when you are happy about yourself and your needs as a grown-up are being fulfilled, you will be able to take care of your child in a better way also. It will give you the patience you will need.