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Big Chuckles and Smiles for Stay-at-Home Moms
Admit it, Moms-
Being a stay-at-home-mom is not the easiest thing in the world. There are so many days that you just want to throw the towel in and think to yourself, or maybe even holler for everyone in the neighborhood to hear, "I can't do this anymore!" It doesn't matter how many times you clean the living room. The kids go right behind you and mess it up. It's like they're saying to each other, "Mom just cleaned the living room, so let's get our box of legos out and dump them all over the floor!" When was the last time you made your bed? YOUR bed, not your kid's. And what about that toilet? That stinky, pee and poop covered, white throne that is ALWAYS dirty, no matter how many times you clean it during the day. It's like you have to go back in the bathroom after every time that little guy goes! Yeah, you moms of little boys know exactly what I'm talking about! Why can't they actually look where they're aiming instead of EVERYWHERE else?! Don't even get me started on the dirty dishes, filling the sink.Then, there are the children. Why do they fight so much, and make so many messes? I hate messes. I detest them. I can't stand them even a little bit. THAT is my biggest pet peeve. Not good to have when you have three little boys. How far I have come, though, from that very first mess that my oldest little guy made to the very last one that my youngest just made, like five minutes ago! I have had to come to realize that these messes are part of what's making my little guys the men they will be someday. They are trying to figure out what they're made of, and what makes them happy. Now, I don't mean those unnecessary messes, where they decide to take a whole entire box of cereal and dump it all over the living room carpet. (Yes, that's a phase that my middle child went through!) I'm talking about getting some hand paint out and a bunch of paper or poster board and making something, or yes, even dumping the legos out all over the floor. Messes that ARE necessary to figure out what they love to do. Weirdly enough, I used to have a really hard time with simple things like this!
Mom vs. Wife
I have been a SAHM now for 8 years. I have had many long, stressful days and nights, and many fleeting thoughts of running away forever. On days like this, I have come to realize that that's when I need a break. I need a break with my ever-caring husband, or maybe a night out with a friend. This has always proved extremely helpful, and I would encourage any mom to take some time to herself, every now and then. This is very important to make sure you're keeping it together for your kids and your husband. We, the moms, are the backbone of our family. If we're falling apart, then they are falling apart. Time alone with your hubby is how you're going to keep your family together. Please don't make everything to be about your children. One day, they will grow up and move out of your care. You and your husband will be the only ones left in that empty-feeling house. You and your husband need to have a strong relationship and love for one another, so when the kids are gone, you still have each other. I can't stress enough how important this one key element is.
Mom vs. Daycare
Now, when a mom has a baby, she begins to wonder what she wants to do. Does she want to stay home with her child for good, for a little while, or does she want to go back to work, as soon as she can? Many moms think that they could never handle staying home with their child/children, because they think they would go absolutely insane. Other moms can't even begin to think about going back to work, because they can't bear the thought of being separated from their little angel. Neither one is wrong. Both are right. It's all in what works for you, as a mom and as a family. Just please keep in mind that it needs to work for your entire family, not JUST you, as a mom. I understand that there are times when a mom doesn't seem to have the option of staying home, because of income. If you have a really strong desire to stay home, though, do some research on the web. There are many options of how to make money from home. If a lot of your income is going towards daycare, it's not worth being away from your kids.
Pros vs. Cons-
- Con: I'm home all the time. Pro: I am able to have my own schedule and be with those I love the most.
- Con: My kids drive me crazy, hollering and screaming through the house. Pro: I am able to enjoy every moment of their craziness.
- Con: I feel like my entire life is centered around kids. Pro: I am able to witness every one of my kid's firsts- their first word, first step, etc...
- Con: I feel like I'm always telling my children to stop fighting or arguing. Pro: I'm the one that's able to teach my children right from wrong and how to be nice to others.
- Con: My work day never ends- I have to work even in the middle of the night. Pro: I am the one person my child wants, regardless of what's going on- that should make any mom smile.
From here, the pros out-weigh the cons. We get to kiss every single one of their boo boos, give them hugs and kisses, whenever we feel the urge, teach them lessons throughout each day, offer security to them, no matter what, see every time they learn something new or accomplish something they've been having a hard time learning- tying sneakers, is a big one in this family, or getting potty trained! All of my children are old enough now, so I can look back and see how many accomplishments we've made together, and the ones that they've been able to do on their own. I've been able to make so many wonderful memories with each one of them, and there is so much love in this house.
Stay-at-Home Mom or Daycare?
Would you rather be home with your children every day or send them to daycare?
Smiles vs. Frowns-
A smile creeps up on my face as I remember the first time my oldest made his bed all by himself for the first time, was able to tie his sneakers all by himself- finally, or went an entire week without having an accident in his pants! I was able to witness all of this, as his mom! Then, there were the times with my middle child when he could say the entire alphabet, follow the instructions perfectly to build a lego, and zoom around the house in his Superman cape, thinking he was saving the world! And lastly, I've been able to witness all of my littlest guy's obsession with dinosaurs. I've heard so many roars and stomps through the house these days! I love every single one, as long as it's not 6:00 on a Saturday morning, and I'm still trying to get some shut-eye! He's got such a personality, as all of my boys do. I cannot begin to imagine, not being there for all of these things. One of my biggest rewards is being able to witness the first time all of my boys said their first word, crawled for the first time, and took their first step. Nothing can take that away from me.
In the end-
So, we stay-at-home-moms have it pretty darn good, if you ask me. If you're feeling really overwhelmed, then try to get out for a couple hours this weekend, or maybe even plan a weekend away with your hubby sometime, in the near future. This is what will keep you going, and your family, as well. They will thank you, and you will thank yourself! I hope this has encouraged all of you moms like me. If you're a mom that's contemplating going back to work, or maybe even getting done work, to be home with your kids, I hope this has been helpful to you, and I pray you will find your answer soon.