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Spending Time With My Teenage Daughter
It might be hard to believe, but your teenage daughter really does want to hang out with you, even though it seems like she hates you most of the time. She wants to have fun with you, laugh with you, and just BE with you. You know that having a strong mother-daughter relationship is important. But you just always find a way to mess it up by lecturing and criticizing her! So try to relax, Mom, and see if you can remember what it was like to be a teenager again. Here are some fun activities you can do with your teenage daughter--you might just both end up having a blast!
1. Pick out a Recipe and Make Something Together
Spending time in the kitchen together is a great way to bond, and you probably won't argue because you will be too busy working together. The key to making this activity a success is to pick out something that you both like--if you try to take charge (as moms often do) you will only upset her. She might pick out something crazy, but relax and go with it. My daughter enjoys making cupcakes, and I have let her pick out some crazy cupcake recipes for us to make together. We end up laughing together and having fun, and then we are rewarded with great dessert. Cooking is one of those very basic activities that really brings people together.
2. Do Something Girly
Get your nails down, go shoe shopping, or go see a chick flick. Your daughter looks up to you as the main female role model in her life. Even if she won't admit it, deep down she would rather spend girl time with you than anyone else.
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3. Discover Something New
Set out on an adventure with your daughter to a place neither of you has ever been. Maybe there is a museum you haven't yet visited, or an art gallery, or a brand new clothing store you've been dying to check out. Instead of going alone, or with your friends, just take your daughter. She will feel special that you asked HER to go with you.
4. Get Back to Nature
Pick a local nature trail, pack some snacks and your water bottle, and get outside. This is an especially nice option if you and your daughter have been fighting a lot lately--once you are out there, it's okay if you don't do a lot of talking. Just being together, walking quietly and listening to the sounds of nature is very good for healing any rifts that exist in your relationship.
This is perhaps the most valuable tip of all. Sometimes our daughters want us to listen to them without judgement, and without giving advice. This is very hard for us mothers. We want so badly to help our daughters avoid the heartache and pain that comes with growing up, so we often lecture them to death, or worse, we ignore them because it's easier for us that way. There is a time and place for advice and lecturing. There are also times when we need to give them space to figure things out on their own. But once in a while, your daughter needs to just be able to talk to you. Walk into her room, close the door, and snuggle up on her bed with her. Listen to her. Bite your tongue if you have to. You can respond later, but for now just listen. You might be surprised at what she tells you.
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