ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Parenting Teenagers Having Patience with Advice for Parents

Updated on November 28, 2015

Grand Canyon Vacation

Our kids on our GrandCanyon vacation, October 2010
Our kids on our GrandCanyon vacation, October 2010 | Source

How to Deal with Teenagers

Do you have Teenagers?

See results

Good Parents

My wife and I have two children, a boy and a girl. It was a perfect formula for me because I always wanted two kids and having one of each sex was a bonus. My wife aspired to have three kids but a quick evaluation of our growing family changed her mind and she decided to stop at two; getting her a horse for our tenth anniversary probably helped in that decision as well.

Our son has been a teenager for a couple of years now but with our daughter getting ready to cross that threshold, in less than a month, it really has me thinking about what raising teenagers entails.

We have all heard the horror stories from friends about their teenagers. I can still recall all of the stuff my younger brother and I put my parents through. I also remember seeing my first boss, about ten years ago, having a very animated conversation with his teenager daughter. He hung up the phone in a combination of frustration and defeat before looking at me and telling me my time would come. I was way too niave at the time to believe him but I do now.

Don’t get me wrong, I love both of my kids and they are really good young adults. They both do exceptionally well at school, have plenty of friends and are very respectful to other adults. Their teachers have always praised how well they interact with younger students and how wonderful they are to be around.

So what happens to these great kids when their hormones start getting out of whack and they act out? We have seen sides of our son that we honestly didn’t even know could be there based on his typically calm and stoic behavior. Our daughter has learned the “look” that will either freeze an otherwise warm-blooded person or make you feel your safety is in question.

Dealing with Teenagers

I remember debating things with my parents, when I was a teenager, and feeling so frustrated that they just didn’t understand what I was saying. I’m sure that is a part of the learning curve but I feel it can be attributed to something more.

It can feel like we (the parents) and our kids can be speaking different languages as times and I'm not referring to the shorthand language they prefer to use when texting on their cellphones. I guess it can all be attributed to the growing up process but successful interaction sure can be a tough thing to achieve.

Raising Teenagers

Kids these days are just so darn intelligent. When I was a kid there was no internet; if you wanted to learn something you went to the library and had to look it up. Half of the time you got so frustrated looking for the information you flat out gave up. Now kids can sit in front of a computer and pull up a plethora of information on any topic their hearts desire.

It probably isn’t helping our case when our oldest is just so smart and he is a quick learner. He can remember a new piano piece in just an hour or so and I swear he has learned more Spanish in half his freshman year than I did in two years.

Sure raising teenagers can be a struggle; sometimes just talking to them can escalate into an argument. As a parent I have learned that being patient and understanding goes a very long way. I've also discovered that conversing with them as an equal can go a long way too and it does make a ton of sense; who wants to continue a conversation with someone when they feel like they are being talked down to?

Our kids have both expressed frustration at us when they feel we are not trying to comprehend where their position is on an issue. Being able to see eye to eye with them is a huge plus. We don't always agree with their viewpoint on something but making them feel understood can be a win by itself.

I guess school is never out when you are raising kids, especially teenagers.

Teenagers and Parents


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • Esmeowl12 profile image

      Cindy A Johnson 

      8 years ago from Sevierville, TN

      I can so relate! My son will be 16 in a month. He's a great kid - but you can't help hormones! Thanks for the insightful hub.

    • faith_love_hope32 profile image


      8 years ago

      I have 2 teenage sons, they are 15 and soon to be 17 next month. I can really relate to this and thoroughly enjoyed this so much so that I will share it on facebook for other parents of teens. Great hub!


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)