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On Random Acts of Kindness

Updated on December 30, 2017
You'll Never Be Sorry You Were Kind!
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Examining Random Acts of Kindness

A post on Random Acts of Kindness was great stuff encouraging hubbers to get busy with kind acts toward others as it encouraged them to write about their experiences. I thought I would just leave a little “bravo” note in the hub's comments, but was surprised to realize that I had more to say on the topic than should go in a comments section.

It caused me to give some real thought to the idea of putting a hub together for thinking this topic through is a good thing. There was nothing to do then but get busy and write a hub on living out the concepts of kindness.

Picking up the gauntlet was the appropriate action. Motivated, I had to put the fingers to the keyboard. My course was set, all I had to do was get in motion mode. But am I sure–do I really have much to say about it? After all, I've failed many times to show kindness when I should have.

Kindness Can Work, but Sometimes it Takes Time

Last year I began to encounter a "hard" woman working the check-out at a business I visited on a semi-regular basis. I determined to be friendly to her, thinking she must have a sad history and life, but she seemed so angry it was almost scary.

It took a long time, months actually. She started to recognize me, first smiling back, and finally she interacted with me in a friendly way the last time I was there. I’m not sure that counted as random in the end, but it was motivation for me to think more about random acts of kindness rather than just focusing on my own doings when I am out and about.

One of my favorite methods is to smile directly at little ones trapped in shopping carts while parents are absently on their cell phones. Poor little things, waiting, tired, but worst of all, pitifully lonely. Seeing their eyes light up when this grandmama winks or waves at them in passing is well worth the few seconds it takes to focus on them. They nearly always brighten up and sometimes respond shyly or playfully. They are so cute that I can’t help but smile even more.

On top of that, an added benefit (that really is the most important one if it happens) is that the commotion often causes the parents to focus on their little ones. They see me smile and they smile at their child. A good thing indeed. That if I am kind to the little ones I can sometimes make that happen is amazing. It's a wonderful thing to be a part of that!

Never hesitate to be kind!
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On the other end of the spectrum, I am forced to visit a sad nursing home each week. It’s all out of my control and I do not like seeing what I see there. However, as I am able I try to just speak to the folks trapped there.

Whatever the reason for them being there–sometimes it’s their own lifestyle that put them there, sometimes it’s just because we live in a fallen world and health issues are out of our control, and sometimes it’s neglect by family members (very interesting to start seeing each situation for what it really is)–but whatever the reason, why not brighten their day with a kind hello that isn't rushed by them so fast they miss it?

To see sagging heads and hearts lifted by such a simple kindness is tragic stuff. How can I not begin to learn their names so I can speak more personally to them? Even though it is difficult to face them, why not do what little I can to make them smile since I have to go there? Seems like a small thing, but in the face of their suffering it is not as easy as one might think.

And isn't it the case that we usually have to be where ever we are? Sure, we get some down time, but otherwise we’re doing what we need to do, right? So why not do small things to brighten the days of the people we meet? We live in a world full of hurting people. Most go to school or work and set their fears, their concerns, their painful memories or heart-rending circumstances aside in order to focus on tasks at hand. Why not take the time be kind to everyone?

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Can a look at this topic be complete without mentioning that families are responsible to teach children how to show kindness to others? It takes knowledge and effort to help children understand the difference between a show of kindness and sincere kindness.

It's important to be polite but there is a difference in just being polite and showing true kindness. Balance is important, so children also need wisdom to know that they need to be careful of a number of issues that could come up when dealing with people.

But showing simple kindness from the heart as we go through our daily lives is something we can help our children understand. My grandchildren have a better chance to learn kindness than I did, and my prayer is that their children will have an even better grip on the concepts of true kindness.

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Love Kindness!

As a Christian I am reminded of our instruction in Micah 6:8, “He has told you, O man, what is good; ... to do justice, to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God” (ESV).

For me as a believer (John 3:16, John 14:6,, the admonishment of Micah 6:8 and consequent blessings go far beyond what will naturally come as a result of my being kind to strangers.

I only wish I could say that I have always done so. I think I’ll try to make up for those times in this new year. Could this be the year of random kindnesses for each of us?

Oh! I can’t end there! Let me a kindness to you I found this video for your pleasure. I hope it makes you smile and I hope that you are encouraged to begin something important where ever you are at.

Happy “random kindnessing” to you in the coming new year!

On Kindly Serving Others:

A 2nd Grade Kindness Project:

Kindness Gives Us A Glad Heart!

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      RTalloni 4 years ago from the short journey

      Benjamin Chege:

      Thank you for taking the time to read this post on random acts of kindness. As we go about our busy lives we have to make it a point to pay attention to others and how we can express kindness or we will become more self-focused and selfish. I appreciate that by leaving a comment you help highlight the topic--thanks again.

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      Benjamin Chege 4 years ago

      Hi Rtalloni. Voted up, useful and beautiful. I agree with you kindness is probably one of the best virtues one could have. If everyone in the world was kind, there would be no suffering or at least one would feel better when they are experiencing difficult times. Nice read.

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      RTalloni 7 years ago from the short journey

      Denise, Thanks so much for your kind words. You are so right, we must be careful not to let our own difficulties shut others out of our lives! I did not know about the third week of February. I just came across the info on Random Acts of Kindness hubs and put my two-cents out there. Thanks for letting me know, and thanks too for stopping in and commenting.

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      Denise Handlon 7 years ago from North Carolina

      Dear R-this is a beautiful hub you wrote filled with poignant lines. "We live in a world full of hurting people" This is so true. Our lonliness and pain shuts others out as well.

      What a wonderful mission you are on. I admire that. Good for you and God bless.

      PS-did you know Random Acts of Kindness week is the third week of February?

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      RTalloni 7 years ago from the short journey

      msresearch, Appreciate your stopping in and commenting!

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      RTalloni 7 years ago from the short journey

      All of the mysteries of kindness are beyond me, but very often a small moment in time can make a huge difference in the life of someone such as a nursing home patient.

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      msresearch 7 years ago

      I too walked the halls of a nursing home for too long a time. One employee was loud and she could cause some light to shine from all too darkened and faraway eyes. She was quite inspirational. I too learned the names of some of the other patients and would even lightly touch them when we connected for those brief moments. You certainly were appreciated for your random acts of kindness there.

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      RTalloni 7 years ago from the short journey

      Hello Dorissun! :)

      It can be quite funny to be friendly to people who are not used to friendliness. Living in the southern, USA, everyone says hello to each other all time. In traveling it has been interesting to see the responses. When shopping in other places the disgust at my friendliness has often been overt, but they are always glad to take my money for a purchase. :)

      Thank you very much for stopping by and leaving a comment. I hope you can continue to be friendly no matter what other people's responses are!


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      RTalloni 7 years ago from the short journey

      Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. There is a mystery to kindness that seems to be irresistible to most people, especially children.

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      Suzanne Day 7 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Your random acts of kindness to lonely children are no doubt more appreciated than you think!

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      RTalloni 7 years ago from the short journey

      Thanks very much, both for reading and for commenting!

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      Fiddleman 7 years ago

      I like! Thanks for your comment as you said I am just a click of two away from becoming your newest follower. God bless!