Reading your Teenagers Diary – A Violation?
There is a lot going on with Teens these days, you just never know what’s going on inside their minds.
- Many never confide in friends or family.
- Some are mingling with the wrong crowd.
- Some are on the edge of contemplating suicide, sadly some actually go through with it.
A lot of parents try to talk with their Teens and understand them but don’t get anywhere. I haven’t got kids yet, however, I do work with Teens. I am well-informed enough to understand parents frustration and I also work with Teens.
For some, the last resort would be to talk with any siblings, close friends or read their diaries – as this is where many write down their intimate thoughts, but Is this a wise idea?
I did a short Survey and some of the responses that people wrote for me, are below.
Peoples responses to reading a Teens Diary.
a) “No, I wouldn't read my child's diary. If I expect my child to respect me, I must treat her with respect. There are other ways to know what's going on with your teen than to betray trust and violate their private thoughts.”
b) “To be truthful, despite all my noble thoughts, I did read it and wish I hadn't, but hey, I was at the end of my tether and thought that I could find an answer to her increasingly outrageous behaviour.”
c) “As as matter of routine, no. Nor, would I read it out of curiosity. I am a big fan of privacy. However, I am her mother, and I am responsible for her welfare and her actions. If there were any indication that she were in serious trouble, danger, or bringing harm to herself; and the answers might be inside.........yes, I would.
d) “No. That's a dangerous thing in many ways. First, most diaries are a mix of reality and fantasy. Just because she writes something, does not mean she will act on.”
e) Most definitely not, that is her private space for me to read her dairy would violate her on so many levels, just like I would never snoop through her room.”
f) “I would never ever read my teens diary. I would have a very good relationship with my children, and let them see that even as an adult, I can still respect them to the utmost.”
(Thanks to everyone who contributed – above)
Do you share any of the thoughts above or do you have a completely different view?
Thanks for reading.
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