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Father And Son Relationships

Updated on April 26, 2012

Nothing makes a man more proud to hold his newborn son in his arms. A father-son relation is an eternal bonding. While on one hand he receives mother’s love, the father lends him his finger to walk on the earth for the first time. Later in life he becomes his best Consigliore to him, polishing his good moves and correcting the wrong ones. Different ages of the child call for different roles for his father. Lest everything, one thing always remains… a father is always his son’s hero, his idol.

The Toddler to Teen phase


These are very delicate years of a boy’s life. New places like school make him nervous and insecure. The father instills confidence into him making him feel and know that whatever happens he will always be there to take care of him and until he is there no wrong will take place. Small activities like taking him fishing or playing ball leave a great impact on the child. The father also explores his child, finds his skills and takes the first steps towards harnessing them. The father becomes the hero, the idol for the child.

The Teen Phase


Soon the son enters teenage. Teenage brings a lot of ups and downs in a boy’s life. The peer pressure, the irritation of rigorous physical development, the first infatuations and much more. The father becomes a keen support in handling these teenage jitters. Moreover by now the skills and abilities are ready for their full trials and no one else but the father sees that. He introduces his son to the real world, the world of reason, discomfort, and hard work. He helps him handle difficult situations and plays a vital role in developing of skills like negotiation, street smartness. He gives him his first car and teaches him to drive. In the teenage phase the father remains a silent guardian, keeping track all along and coming to help whenever needed.

The Amateur Phase


When teenage ends a whole new professional world lies ahead. The son looks up to his father as his best advisor and counselor… his best consigliore. May it be stress, work pressure, anxiety in any part of his career, the father helps in every way. He helps him come to terms with numerous life skills and helps incorporate them seeing him succeed in his walks of life.

A father stands there for his child in every possible manner at every point in his life. He doesn’t expect anything from him. From the first pocket money to the first ball game, the first movie, the first day of school and college to the first day of work… The father loves and cares for his child.

A father’s greatest achievement is when his son walks ahead of him in life. That is day when he considers his job almost done.

There comes a time when the father also needs his son- http://rahul0324.hubpages.com/hub/Father-and-Son-Relationships-II

Thanks for reading.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you so much Integrity... I am glad you liked it :)

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      IntegrityYes 5 years ago

      I definitely voted up. That is so great.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Nice to meet you Squeesh! I am glad you liked my work...

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      Squeesh 5 years ago from United States

      This is amazing! had to share it. also voted up

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      It is so nice that your son and husband have such a healthy relationship my friend!

      I really appreciate your kind gesture of taking out time for my work!

      How wonderfully your hubby is fulfilling his responsibilities as a wonderful father. I am sure this kind of effort will lead to an excellent future of your children.

      Fathers hold an Idol figure in the minds of their children and they must realize that....

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Ishwaryaa! It is nice and sweet to know a daddy's girl like you!

      Thank you for your kindness

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      TripleAMom 5 years ago from Florida

      After your comment on mine, I came to read yours and I'm very glad I did. This is a very well written and beautiful hub. I see this type of relationship between my son and his father. They share so many things together. My husband has taught my son to fish, to drive, to throw a football, and so many other things, and our son teaches us things. It has been fun to watch our son become a basketball player, and his father, who did not follow basketball before, learn to care about the sport and watch it with our son. The two do a lot together and I think that this helps to keep our son from going down the wrong path. He respects his father.

      I like the comments about daughters and fathers as well. Our daughters are very close to theri father and it is so fun to watch them sit in his lap and hug him. You can tell it melts his heart. Thank you for writing about the importance of this relationship.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      A befitting hub for Father's Day which was celebrated a few days ago. The way you paid the tribute to fatherhood is heartfelt and dignified. I am blessed to have an amazing father and I am a typical Daddy's girl. Well-done!

      Thanks for SHARING. Beautiful & Awesome. Voted up

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I feel you my friend!

      Sonny! I know exactly what it feels to see other kids playing with their fathers and doing a lot more stuff and you just standing by the window panes... hoping for a father-ful tomorrow..

      I would like to tell you that I have had a similar life.. never too close to my father.. sometimes,, trials made from both sides but never succeeded...

      But we need to move on.... and provide our children with the essential fatherhood they need

      Thank you my friend and feel free to honor me and share anything anytime

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      Sonny Ellar 5 years ago from Saudi Arabia

      This Hub is really thoughtful! this somehow made me sad though because I have experienced none of these things. I was raised by my aunt, my father was always miles away from us, working and by the time he came back to stay with us he passed away after a couple of years. we weren't close. I envied those who has fathers, those who are able to play their sports with their dad, go fishing, camping and all. I have happy seeing perfect families but there are times that my heart weeps because I was deprived from experiencing it.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hello hari! Thanks for your warm comments:)

      Much appreciated!

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      harinarayan 5 years ago from Kerala, India

      hai rahul, nicely written. The article reveals u have a loving father and mother. U r lucky!!voted up and shared

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      It happens Dean! I am honored that my article helped you in some way!

      Thank you so much for connecting! And do not worry! The tension between yot will wear off!

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      DeanCash 5 years ago

      I have just a bad talk with my son lately and regret it. This write reminds me of the things I need to do.

      Thanks a lot for this rahul0324

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I will have to admit that daughter-father relationships are more adorable and softer that father-son.... I have a ten year younger sister to me and have watched her grow so close to my father.. I admit I was not that close, not that frank...

      Father is a daughter's First love for sure! All you have said is true!

      Thank you for taking out the time and reading my Hub!

      Much Appreciated!

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      Shampa Sadhya 5 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Voted up and awesome!

      I loved your article which you have written in a very truthful way. You are a son and you have analysed the relationship of yours and your father in this article very nicely.

      Being a female child I would love to add that fathers are the most adorable men in this world for all the daughters too since their childhood. Fathers play a very protective role for their daughters so that no outsider can harm them. Father-daughter relationship may not always revolve around friendship and secret sharing but somewhere there remains a strong and firm trust upon each other.

      So, as children we are all very fond of our respective father and thank God for such a beautiful blessing. Thanks again for writing a beautiful hub.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hello My Friend! I am sorry If I have hurt your feelings!

      It is really tough if someone faces what you have! I faced a communication gap and hostility from my father for a major part of my life

      If there is anything you wish to talk about... The Hub Family is here... including me :)

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks Ruchira! You are a dear...

      Moms are important I know... but Dads are always the Silent Guardians

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      dmoney4god 5 years ago from VA

      Very touching, I wish my father was there for me when I was growing up.

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Gosh so true yet touching.

      Nothing beats a mom but dad is also equally important in a kids life.

      Beautiful read...sharing it with many votes of awesome!!!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you Wisdom! Your feedback is much appreciated!

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      Maurice Wisdom Bishop 5 years ago from San Tan Valley

      Beautiful and well written! Much Love and respect.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Mary! I am glad for you and your siblings for you have a wonderful father! Indeed! There is no bigger superhero in a son's life than his father!

      Thank you!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      That is one of the most beautiful and insightful comments I have ever come across!

      Indeed! The bond between a son and a father is beyond the intimate show of affection. There is a silent conversation... certain degree of virtue and respect, rather awe in the bond!

      There can be no man in a sons life like a father who is a watchful protector! A guardian ... always supporting, backing him up without him making a notice!

      And yes! We should never stop ourselves in showing love and care for our Father!

      Thank you Jey!

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      Obviously I'm not a son, but like you I was blessed with a wonderful father so I know what you are talking about and I know my father played this role with my brothers. Always there, always willing to help. There is no man like your father.

      You have done great justice to the role of father and written this hub well.

      Voted up, interesting and beautiful.

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      jeyaramd 5 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

      A father son relationship is very reassuring and beautiful in its own way. Sometimes, fathers and sons may not sit down over coffee crying over the difficulties of life. However, there is a sense of support that works very well. Often times as chldren, we should be willing to look past the obvious signs of affection and we will see more subtle gestures of affection and love. Its beautiful, but its hard to see the love at face value. This is especially the case for stern fathers who discipline their sons to hold their own weight in this world.

      The sacrifices and the many nights spent working to pay the bills and provide a better future for the children should never go unnoticed. Thought, your father may not always be around the house; rest assured that most father do think about their sons a great deal. I learned a lot more about my father while speaking to my mother who told me of what he dreamed for me. Though, he was too stern to say how much he loved me.

      I do respect and love him for the love he bestowed upon me in his own beautiful way. Appreciate the beautiful things in life. Life is short. Do not wait too long to show your affection to your father. Do not always wait for your father to show affection. Awesome hub. Voted up and beautiful.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Some ideals and relations have been universally defined aren't they?

      Thanks a lot for stopping by Bugg!

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      Bugg Adventures 5 years ago from Arizona

      Interesting thoughts and opinions. I enjoy that even though you are on the other side of the world, some ideals are universal. Thank you for sharing.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Nice to see you Rajan Sir! Thank you for the kind feedback! You are right the current state of affairs regarding the role of a son for his father is indeed a mess. It pains to see parents take refuge in old age homes after spending a life of money and more importantly grooming and love on their children who grow up to be materialistic idiots!

      I have highlighted the role of a son in the next part of this hub! Would like your feedback there!

      https://hubpages.com/family/Father-and-Son-Relatio...

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Rahul, this is a great write. "Then comes the time when the father needs his son" - this line holds all the more significance today, more than ever, as we find instances galore of sons ditching their parents when they make it in life. More so, when one of the two left behind has to take shelter or is left in the care of an old age home.

      A very sorry state of affairs and I'm glad you highlighted the role a father plays in the life of a son.

      Voted up all the way across and shared.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Great words Ruchira! We should always stand by our elders... :)

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      beautiful read and well said indeed.

      In this circle of life, we grow up and our elders tend to become dependent on us..110% agree :)

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks Sonya for the kind comment.. indeed they are blessed!

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      Sonya L Morley 5 years ago from Edinburgh

      Every boy and man who has a father such as the one you describe is blessed indeed. Good job, voted up.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you Jaspal Sir! Glad you liked it! :)

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      Jaspal Singh 5 years ago from India / Australia

      Really wonderful writing. Each word is portraying the real picture of relationship.

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 5 years ago from Pune, India

      Great Hub. Thank you for sharing.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I am a son! And I wish to be a worthy son.. I love my parents a lot and I am thankful to them for making my life so heavenly!

      Thanks for the nice comment debbie! much appreciated

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      I have three sons...they are wonderful...they are protective of me they make me feel like a queen. Thank you for such a wonderful hub..debbie

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      thank you kelleyward for stopping by... father and son relations are very delicate and your husband i am sure must be a great dad

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts about the father son relationship. I'm so grateful that my husband is a very involved dad to our 3 boys! Thanks again

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      thank you trisha and shalini for stopping by

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      shalini sharan 5 years ago from Delhi

      very nicely written

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      trisha 5 years ago

      Great, lucid writing. Great thought :)