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Reporting Child Abuse/Neglect

Updated on December 29, 2016
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Paula has freelanced for nearly 40 years. She has a passion for her forte of Behavioral Science & continuing education in this field.

Don't ignore the signs. Be responsible. Help protect children at risk & in crisis.

Do what you think you must do.  Better safe than sorry.  Report suspected child abuse/neglect.
Do what you think you must do. Better safe than sorry. Report suspected child abuse/neglect.

The Reality & Devastation of childhood abuse/neglect.

Child abuse, like domestic violence, is one of those ugly facts of life that have existed since the beginning of time. Ugly, because no one wants this wretched family secret to be exposed, for the plain and simple truth is, it is unacceptable and shameful. Sadly, another simple truth is that for many decades in our society, great pain was taken to keep these behaviors swept under the rug.

In the case of child abuse and/or blatant neglect, all too often children knew no better. Mistreatment was all they ever knew. In far too many cases, abused children were threatened to never speak of what went on in their homes. It was all part of the sickness. Families in turmoil, riddled with dysfunction, maintained the cycle of violence behind closed doors, supported by ignorance and secrecy. For too long, abused children suffered physical and mental injuries in silence, this pain to last a lifetime. There was no help, no support and hoping to be rescued, was a hope in vain.

Nearly impossible to look at

Naturally, the vast majority of decent, loving and moral individuals are not even capable of imagining the harming of an innocent small child. That thought sickens and literally can torment us. For this very reason, it is nearly impossible to come to terms with the reality that the existence of abuse is rampant.

Yes, this is one of those outrageous brutalities of life that must be dealt with one child, one family, one issue at a time. It must be done swiftly and painstakingly, no matter the cost, no matter the effort. We cannot and must not allow the lame excuses of under funding to stand between our responsibilities to these children and their very lives.

The problems caused by false-reporting are of course stumbling blocks. This however should be no reason to slow our processes down. These situations can be expected and once known, can be easily separated from the dire cases requiring immediate attention.

Disease ignored, does not heal. It spreads.

It is fairly accurate to say that a huge number of the people we know, have been exposed to the existence of children being abused by someone in one form or another. Perhaps you have witnessed this atrocity taking place in your own neighborhood, or within your family circle. You may even hold within, painful memories of severe maltreatment by your parents. I am so sorry to state that child abuse is not a rare thing, but rather all too common. Should you want to doubt this reality, please know that you delude yourself, though I cannot blame you for attempting to reject this sickening fact. Could we not all be more at peace and comfort believing that not one more child would suffer?

It is toward this end we must move. With our eyes wide-opened and armed with statistics that can no longer be denied, we become aware of the part we must play in protecting every child possible, from the monsters who stalk and harm them. It truly is up to us....to you and me and those who would help each precious child, every innocent life.

Be aware, alert and ACT.

In terms of reporting child abuse to authorities:

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Child Protective Services & other agencies

Speaking for our country, the U.S. of America, there are agencies and organizations created for the sole purpose of child protection and safety, throughout the country. Most of these, supported by our tax dollars on a local, State or Federal level, they assume various responsibilities and duties related to numerous aspects of health, safety and welfare of minors. Minors, in the legal sense, where there is necessity for intervention when a responsible, appropriate adult cannot or will not care for a child properly.

If you're paying attention, by the looks of things based on sheer need, there are not nearly enough of these agencies, nor are those few we have, staffed sufficiently enough. Have you not heard the repeated horror stories?

The undernourished, unkempt, bruised little toddler is removed from her/his abusive, drug-addicted parent's home and placed in foster care for a period of time. During this time, the authorities conduct their investigation into the lives of the parents, interview neighbors, family and friends and a judge may order parenting classes and/or rehabilitation for the parents. These are the lucky children. Due to the very nature of these child services, they are wrought with flaws and we're reminded of those children who just "fell through the cracks."


Often, against better judgement, despite precarious situations, the child is ultimately returned to the home with his/her biological parents. How many times must we learn that this very child sooner or later dies at the hands of his/her parents....or lack of food and supervision? Adding insult to tragedy, we will hear that social workers are overwhelmed with caseloads. "It's the lack of funding." It is always the money. The shame belongs to all of us. In the greatest nation on earth, our most precious resources are dying for lack of funds? The utter insanity of this is mind-boggling, wouldn't you agree?


What does your child hear when you speak?
What does your child hear when you speak?

All is not lost.

It would be much too easy to shake our heads in dismay and walk away. We might even console our heavy hearts by believing someone else will take care of this massive social illness. Can we place our trust in the hands of authorities who have warned us they are underfunded? Perhaps we will excuse our lack of action by claiming we must take care of our own and haven't time for more of society's problems.

Filing a report of suspected child abuse may be all that we can do. Is it enough to truly be of any real help? To this I would respond that it's a huge step above doing nothing at all.....just closing our eyes. Each of us has to take a stand. Chaos and pain will continue and spread unless and until one person takes a step, utters a word and offers a hand. To do the right thing for the right reasons.....this can continue and spread as well. It will be a struggle. It may be a fight to the finish, but we know it must be fought.

Children are a gift to the world. They are our future, our richest resource and our wisest investments. If we do nothing to help a child in need or protect them from danger, are we not a party to what will be lacking in the future of our world? I find nothing more powerful than to bring up the children to be fearless and loving....courageous and peaceful. In order for this to be reality, they must first receive these things from those they trust and look up to. Those people are us.....me and you. For every monster who would harm a child, those of us who will fight against them, must be ten-fold.

Professionals such as doctors, nurses & teachers are required by law to report suspected child abuse.
Professionals such as doctors, nurses & teachers are required by law to report suspected child abuse.

Reporting by Professionals

There are those professionals who are required by law to report suspected child abuse immediately. A few, but not all of these individuals are doctors, nurses, teachers and child caretakers. In the case of the average citizen or non-professional individual, it is a choice based upon their own degree of a sense of responsibility and concern for the child.

Should you find yourself in the situation to make that call, I implore you to do so.

Child Abuse Hotline: Where to call to get help or report abuse. (If you suspect a child is in immediate danger, contact local law enforcement as soon as possible.)

To get Help in the U.S. Call:
1-800-4-A-CHILD.......(1-800-422-4453)

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    Paula 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Au fait....Dear friend & "a Mother"....I will admit that I am hard-pressed to conjure any offense that saddens, as well as angers me, as child abuse/neglect does~always. With not a single acceptable excuse nor explanation, I can barely find words & the self-control it requires to discuss it.

    A hot stifling car, a car below freezing in the dead of winter, an unlocked car....a car with the keys in it, left running! These are situations not fit even for an adult who has the capacity to get out of the car if needed.........A child (younger than a teen) should simply not be left in vehicles. The reasons should be blatantly obvious to even a simple-minded individual!

    We cannot imagine what is WRONG with these adults~Parents, no less, with less regard for their babies than for a bag of groceries

    Yes, C.E. I have heard the news reports. In fact, just yesterday on my radio, while driving, there was a report of a 9 mo.old baby girl, left in a car while her mother interviewed for a job. This baby died. No justification for this egregious act. None. I became physically ill, as I turned off the radio. I wanted to hear no more. Can there be anything more painful than just imagining the horror this baby experienced while gasping for air, sweat pouring from her little body. WHY? Where's Mommy?

    My 26 year old grand daughter is a case-worker for CPS here in upstate NY. She's been on the job for less than 5 years. Already, she must see the office therapist, once a week, has lost 15 pounds, deals with bouts of insomnia & continually fights the urge to become fully jaded. Personally, I don't know how she does it at all.

    Thank you for stopping by. We share like thoughts & opinions once again. Peace, Paula

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    C E Clark 3 months ago from North Texas

    Can you believe the number of times children have been left in hot vehicles this summer? Most of those children I've read about died! According to Fox News 12 little children have died from this so far in 2017.

    After people everywhere are warning others, or have been warned themselves endless times for years, it is still happening. What is wrong with people??? Do their ears not hear? Do their brains not comprehend or reason? Do they imagine that death only happens to other people's children who are locked in hot cars?

    What will it take for people to understand and act on the information that one should NEVER lock their child(ren) in a hot car for any reason?

    I do think this behavior is an act of neglect or abuse of a child. A couple of instances I read about said the children's mother was 'teaching them a lesson." She even told friends/neighbors within hearing of the little ones (ages 1 and 2) locked inside the car to ignore them, they would eventually cry themselves to sleep.

    If the regular death of young children doesn't cause people to sit up and take notice regarding this horrible habit, what is it going to take to make people stop doing this?????

    Glad you are shining a light on this problem of child abuse.

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    Paula 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    EZ Thank you so much for stopping by. It is very nice to meet you.

    Of course you should not regret your actions to intervene in order to protect a child, ever. The hostility you experienced is due to the guilt & shame of the child abuser. It is a small price to pay . Thank you for being courageous.

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    Kelly Kline Burnett 18 months ago from Southern Wisconsin

    Decades ago I was faced with this dilemma. I tackled it but oh, I was met with hostility. I have no regrets for my actions but still feel the pain of the hostility of the confrontation. It was sad and I pray for all involved in this intense sorrow.

    Thank you for taking a very rough subject. Glad this is here today, wish it was available decades before to help me through this but God provided as he always does.

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    Paula 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    C.G.....No coincidence that U chose this hub on "abuse" to message me? I trust I needn't explain why I saw the need to delete it, my friend. Identifying those U R inquiring about is not a good idea. (U know this) No names R necessary anyway since I would know about whom U were inquiring. LOL

    Suffice it to say, there R those who ask a Q, but then ignore the sage advice they are given by Veteran members who have experienced the issues. This is commonly referred to as "not too bright." but I understand there is no cure.

    At this point, suffice it to say I was able to yield a great deal of comforting info that numerous writers will be quite happy to hear...myself included.

    Of course the "mellow drama" (5 days & counting now) has backfired on ***** as I tried to warn would occur. Oh well. Now as U have obviously heard, the label "toxic" has been adhered & I find this unfortunate. However, since I made my best effort I feel no responsibility. Hard lessons are self-taught.

    The notes & warnings have all been sent to the guilty. One, my favorite of course, U will see very little of & realize the obvious. Could not have happened to a more deserving creature as JR stated yesterday.

    It appears ***** has added yet another snake to the collection. The boasting of such talent in "seeing thru a persona" has now been proven not such a talent at all. Pity, but one learns in one's own way.

    Any further inquiries young one and I suggest U use TEXT. Peace & (fortunately some quiet & comfort for a while!!LOL) Paula

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    Paula 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Wes.....I have no great love nor overabundance of "trust" in the Gov't myself....but it's what we have when needed and if nothing else, they're a stepping stone to getting the help so many families need. Even if all that is done is to make the the parents aware they're being watched under threat of arrest.

    Sounds sad, but so is this entire topic, egregiously sad. My grand daughter is a case worker/social worker for CPS. She was late for Easter dinner today because she was called into work. I asked her, "OMG Honey, you had to work on Easter Sunday?" Her reply made me lose my appetite. "Yes, Gram Dawg, people beat their kids on Easter Sunday too." WHO will help all these kids Wes? Too many low lives in this world my friend.

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    Wesman Todd Shaw 18 months ago from Kaufman, Texas

    I've got a cousin who works for CPS, so I can not talk about it on Facebook - but lots of us have heard the stories of children taken out of wonderful homes because the parents were caught in the possession of marijuana. There was one who was taken and died in the care of their law abiding and surely loving foster care parents.

    But I have no great love of government, and so I tend to fixate on those instances.

    ...but the point is the same, having 'law abiding' parents means didly doo doo

    Growing up there was a man across the street who adopted a boy and a girl, and the boy was really something, still is. Anyway, I couldn't stand the sight of him, and so he made himself visible all the damned time. Anyway, his father went to the church my parents went to, so he was 'respectable.'

    The boy was hell, but the man was no different, he'd beat that boy with a belt outside for something or another which surely would be a punishable thing, but you could hear the whole affair, and the yelling and hollering. I always felt at the time, despite having no love for the boy, that someone should have called the police. The belt beatings were so frequent, and so damned loud.

    I think my solution is to avoid children altogether.

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    Paula 21 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Well my dear....you have aged quite graciously!!

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    Ruby Jean Fuller 21 months ago from Southern Illinois

    Hi Paula. I thought it was about time I lost the braid and aged. lol

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    Paula 21 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Ruby! Hello! You threw me off with the new picture. LOL Beautiful!

    Thanks for the visit and comment. This topic is one of those that boils my blood!..........Happy New Year. Peace, Paula

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    Ruby Jean Fuller 21 months ago from Southern Illinois

    I'm glad you shared this again. I didn't read it before. ( I don't know why I didn't see it. ) Your hub is so very important. Children are being abused daily and they usually do not tell. We usually think only low-life people would abuse a child, but it's a known fact that people who are paid to protect our children are the perpetrators many times. If I ever see or hear of a possible abuse I would notify the proper authority. Well done. Thank you.

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    Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Peachpurple....Prevention and awareness are first on our list. Decreasing the incidence of child abuse/neglect requires continual education, supervision and the cooperation of each community, schools and churches.

    We have a long way to go and much to do.,

    Thank you for your comment.

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    peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

    if everyone should take child abuse seriously, there won't be any crime

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    Securly 2 years ago from Securly, Inc.111 N. Market Street Suite 888 San Jose, CA 95113

    Cheers

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    Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Rocky.....Thank you. I'm glad this makes simple sense to my readers. We have the power and the intellect to make this flaw in our Country all but disappear. It only requires awareness and action.

    Have a great day!

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    Securly 2 years ago from Securly, Inc.111 N. Market Street Suite 888 San Jose, CA 95113

    You have simplified a very complex topic . Thanks mate.

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    Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    You are definitely correct about all of this, Vicki. It is one of the worst, if not THE most egregious factors of life. Thanks for your valuable input.

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    Vickiw 2 years ago

    Dear Paula,

    This is a very complex and difficult topic, but it isn't difficult to report, for a child' sake. In Canada teachers and others who work with children are obliged to report, or face a very hefty fine. In spite of this, we still have children who fall through the cracks of the system.

    I always feel sad that children do not have equal opportunities in the world. It is a tragic and shameful thing for society as a whole. It has to do with fragmentation of families, alcohol and drug abuse, poverty, lack of support, child abuse of parents that becomes a cycle, and lack of parent education. That's a very big task to fix!

    In spite of all this, it is important to report if you suspect child abuse. No question about it. That's everyone's responsibility.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Thank you so much Maria. I know what your job exposes you to and it's one of those disturbing things that goes with the territory......and manages to tear into the heart. My sister (the nurse)....would tell me her experiences and we'd talk forever about how we intended to CHANGE THE WORLD. Thanks for the votes!! Love you, Paula

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    Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

    Dear Paula,

    As you know I am a nurse and have made my share of reports through the years.

    This is an issue that is sure to push every one of my clinical, moral and humanistic buttons. Oftentimes, the bond of trust, laced with fear, is so strong, that a short trip to the ER for a "fall" or other suspicious accident can be processed "business as usual".

    On the front line, nurses have an obligation to be sharp, astute and "detective - like" in questioning and follow-up, while maintaining a therapeutic demeanor. And at the end of the day, we wonder and pray...since we are not privvy to the results of the investigations.

    You have written a comprehensive and awareness raising piece of true value to all. Voted UP and UABI. Love, Maria

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Thanks so much,Ann. It is a worldwide problem. I doubt we'll ever find a government wise enough to know what is MOST important to spend our money on!

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    Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

    This is a vital message for adults in any country. Here in Britain the same things happen and there is the same lack of funds. Why? There should not be. Each nation around the world should protect its children.

    I can't imagine why anyone would wish to physically harm or mistreat a child. I wouldn't hesitate to report any abuse I suspected.

    Up ++ and sharing. Great hub. Ann

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Hey Martie.....It is egregious social ills such as child abuse, amongst many others, that it is good that I am not "in charge" of determining the fate of the abusers.

    I can freely admit were I in a position to mete out the penalties and sentences to abusers of children, they would ALL be shipped off to a deserted island, with nothing but their own sick psyches, to survive.

    There, they could abuse, beat, injure and kill each other off until they waste away into the garbage they are.

    Nothing too harsh, mind you. Thanks for visiting! Always go to see you, GF.!

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    Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

    Heart-touching subject, fpher! I will most certainly report child abuse whenever I smell it. What touch me the most is the fact that the majority abused children truly love their parents; they will protect their parents by denying any abuse. And then we see children spoiled with too much love NOT loving their parents? Abuse in any form is wrong-wrong-wrong!

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Dianna.....I'm sure it is a very difficult responsibility that can place someone in a challenging position. However, as you stated so well, "children must be protected at any cost." As a teacher, involved with children and their families, daily, I can only imagine the degree of your concerns.

    Bless you and all mandated reporters, for your dedication & tenacity.

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    Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

    When I was an early Childhood Director, I had to report several abuse cases. It is not easy and one must realize the accused party will cause problems in return. However, children must be protected at any cost and it is worth the problems associated with reporting.

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    Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

    Great news, Paula. :-)

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    This issue requires attention and action 24/7, epbooks......it is so incredibly rampant and out of control. Heaven only knows if we'll ever make a dent in the statistics, without armies of people willing to do the work.

    But..like so many other social ills....cannot ignore it, cannot wish it away. We have to Try to give these things our very best. Thanks for the visit. Always good to see you!

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    Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

    Very important and sad hub. I will never understand how child abuse happens, but I know that it does. Hopefully this hub will raise awareness about the situation!

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    tireless......There are many book on this sad topic.......and of course being TRUE, tears our hearts apart.

    Well...truth is, the government does a crappy job at just about everything......but THIS is much too vital for us to stand by!

    Thanks, tireless.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    jan....your caring comment brought tears to my eyes. Thank you....and also for being an advocate. So much is needed.....you're right.

    Oh, let me clarify....my hub may well have been featured. The issue was that as soon as I entered my title, summary and a few paragraphs.....the "electronic spyware" or whatever it is.....quickly sent a warning that "ADS WOULD BE DISABLED , due to content filters"...because of the subject matter that is discouraged by google.

    bottom line....No money could be made...at all. I have an ad-disabled hub and it is my MOST read hub via google. Figures. Anyway....after reviewing this hub, they let it through WITH ads.....I guess because it was not graphic or whatever...None of it makes any sense to me, but we're the little people, I guess....

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    Judy Specht 3 years ago from California

    I read a great book last summer about a boy that had been severely abused. The new teacher saved his life when he reported abuse the police, that was in the forth grade. Everyone in the school had known this was going on for year's. His siblings were not abused. Then there is the foster system, where abuse is unspeakable. It is up to us to protect these kids. The government does a crappy job.

    Thanks for bringing abuse to light.

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    Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

    Thank you, Paula for being a voice for abused children. I appreciate the passion with which you address a subject that is sorely neglected in our society and in the world for that matter. I am convinced that child abuse is at the core of every social, psychological, and economic problem we encounter. As a mental health professional, I have made several reports over the years. And as a therapist, I have seen the wounds left behind that permeate into adulthood. It is so, so sad. If I had the money, I would start a billboard campaign on the long term dangers of child abuse to raise awareness. Thanks for posting a well-written and informative article. I can't believe it almost didn't get featured. Really? Please!!!! Voted up and useful.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    DDE:

    Children do remain silent and that is sad, but it shows the unconditional loyalty an innocent child has for his/her parents, even when those parents are seriously neglectful.

    Vee:

    I can only imagine the burn-out rate for Social workers in this field of work. It must wear down one's defenses.

    Bk42......I'm pleased you found my hub interesting. It always seems to take that one brave person to take action to stop the cycle of abuse.

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    Brenda Thornlow 3 years ago from New York

    Great article! Very informative and love your example of how if a disease is ignored it spreads. Voted up!

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    Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

    Effer, I did it for a few years before moving on. It was a tough gig; the turnover rate is really high--as expected.

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    Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

    A problem with many families and the saddest is when the child won't tell anyone about their neglect. I have not seen neglect in children but I can only imagine what the child must experience. I voted ''I have not made a report but would if I witnessed abuse.''

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    OH yes! I would love you to link your poem! Thanks Vee. I don't think I could handle a job working with children on such a close and personal level, with so much emotion involved. I would be tempted to take all "abusers" for a long ride...one way.

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    Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

    Hey, Effer, I worked with abused and neglected kids in my first social work job. It was the hardest job ever. As a licensed social worker and now a teacher, too, I am a mandated reporter if I see something. Thanks for getting the word out. I have a poem on abused children; I'm going to link this hub to it, okay? Good job, girl!

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Sha....I'm glad the "positive" advice poured in from my heroic hub buddies, urging me to JUST WRITE!

    I should report that after publishing this, I sent a short note off to Team HP....asking if my hub could please be reviewed and re-evaluated for ads, now that I completed it. They got back to me so quickly with "good" news.

    So, for me, the lesson is: When our Title, summary and/or first few paragraphs send up an alert to HP.....the ad-disabling warning pops up. This then should give us pause to be "cautious" with our text, in terms of the "rules." Lesson duly noted.

    Thanks for your valuable comment Sha. We will always wish for that magic wand, won't we?.......Pecae.

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    Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

    Paula, I'm so glad to see you went ahead and posted this article. Crimes against children are incomprehensible and unforgivable. Our job as parents is to nurture, love, teach, support and make them feel safe. How can a spirit soar if it lives in constant fear? Or is suppressed? Or is made to feel worthless? Where is the innocence? Where is the freedom of childhood? Where is the curiosity and the wonder? No child deserves to be denied. It just breaks my heart.

    You have a great title, here. It should do well in getting the word out.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    shelia......Thank you for your valuable input. Right you are....our efforts will be duly noted and hopefully awaken the powers with the purse strings. Let's get our PRIORITIES straight, America. Peace!

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    DJ.... This topic certainly does spark a passion in caring, responsible adults. It's one of those ugly, nasty things that cause a lot of people to recoil. That's understandable. But as you have noted, we have to face it in order to deal with it in a positive way toward solutions.

    Realistically, and sad as it may be, there will always be some forms of social ills due to human nature...but fighting back continually is the only way to seriously change the statistics. Thank you.

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    sheilamyers 3 years ago

    Thank you so much for writing an article that will help raise awareness of the problem and encourages people to report abuse when they see it or the signs it's been happening. This abuse happens way too often in a country that holds itself up as the example every other country should follow and it sickens me. I do understand the agencies responsible for investigating reports and taking action are underfunded and understaffed, but by everyone getting involved and filing reports, perhaps that can be changed because someone, somewhere will pay attention to the statistics and see the logic of increasing the funds needed to protect the children.

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    DJ Anderson 3 years ago

    Paula, you have written an outstanding article encouraging adults to

    take a stand against child abuse and/or neglect. Abuse of any kind should not be tolerated. Child abuse, animal abuse and abuse of the elderly...they all represent the results of abuse of power of someone

    over another. The only way to stop the abuse is to remove the person

    who holds the control.

    We have seen sex abuse from every walk of life.....religious figures, educational figures, coaches and sports leaders, teachers, child care facilities and parental figures, even the friendly neighbor who has built a cave dwelling under his house, where he kept his captives. These are depraved people who crave control, possibly because they had no control when they were young and victims, themselves. Or, are these people mentally ill or simply mean? Do they think that children will not grow into adults and spill the beans at some point?

    Physical abuse can exist in any family. It can be that one of the parents

    has lost control of their own life and the stress level builds like a pressure cooker until there is an explosion or eruption of emotions.

    Too many times drugs or alcohol plays a role in the breakdown of

    responsible adult behavior and the child is an easy target. A small child will most times never betray a parent. The parents are the providers and a young child reasons that if the provider is taken away, conditions could only become worse. I say all that to say, watch for signs of abuse of a child, because a child will not step forward.

    Paula, thank you for bringing this dysfunctional epidemic to the forefront. As responsible people we must be aware of the signs of abuse

    and take the necessary steps to save those who have no voice.

    You have done a service to bring awareness to this worldwide problem.

    You said it best, "Disease ignored does not heal" itself.

    Thank you for speaking out.

    DJ.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Amen, bro.....It most definitely crushes us in all those human areas.....and the word IS, S I C K.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    pop.....Thanks for your valuable input. I understand the heartbreak that surrounds this topic. In fact, it stirs such highly emotional reactions in people, it is a natural reflex to not want to face it.

    I find myself thinking, "No, no, this simply cannot be true....WHO would do this?"

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    Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

    In my opinion the worst crime imaginable, and it is our duty as writers to speak out against it....but that's not enough now is it? Every citizen should be demanding action on the part of their community leaders...every citizen should be aware of the world around them and get involved...report suspicions...children need our protection and this crime makes me physically, emotionally and spiritually sick.

    Keep it up, Sis!

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    breakfastpop 3 years ago

    This is a very important issue that needs more attention. I would be great if you needed some qualifications to be a parent, but sadly anyone can do it. My heart breaks when I hear of any instance of abuse. If I witnessed it I would report it. Up, useful, interesting and awesome.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Harish.....You have shared a profound message so beautifully. Thank you.

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    Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

    Human evolution is incomplete till any streak of this very shocking phenomenon "child abuse " is present in the recesses of our minds and we act so foolish in inflicting scars on "the very explicit form of love " aka child. We get so much happiness out of innocent sounds and very sweet words and blissful hugs of children that we must be ever grateful to them for enlivening our lives with so charming and beautiful moments. When somebody indulges in acts of child abuse, S/he deprives her/himself of real pleasure. Even a look at the side of a child makes one so calm, lighter, serene and cheerful and what not. Paula, you have written a great hub having a great message to the humanity. Voted up. All peace.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Oh my goodness Audrey!! What a sweet and wonderful comment! Yes, I do know your feelings on this topic and I couldn't be more in tune with you. In fact, it throws me completely off kilter and into a complete crazy spin...just to try to imagine being cruel, abusive or threatening to a little human. We live in a very frightening world.

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    Audrey Hunt 3 years ago from Nashville Tn.

    Hello Dear Paula ~ You know how I feel about Child Abuse, first-hand. And I have to agree with Linda's suggestions for punishment.'

    You wrote: "Children are a gift to the world. They are our future, our richest resource and our wisest investments. If we do nothing to help a child in need or protect them from danger, are we not a party to what will be lacking in the future of our world? "

    Yes, yes and we see and hear of this all too often.

    Thank you, my friend for taking time to write about this subject. More education is needed both in the school system and in society in general.

    Enough with 'sweeping child abuse and neglect under the rug.' Enough excuses and outrageous justifications. Learning how to raise another human being should be mandatory!

    You will always be my diamond, shining your beautiful, tender light amid the dark uncertain night. ~ Love, Audrey

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    I would vote for you as a Judge in an instant. I like they way you think. I've always said I believe any crime against a child is the very worst crime of all and deserves the harshest penalty available...

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    Linda Bilyeu 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

    Instant castration for sexual abuse. Removal of limbs for physical abuse. A lobotomy for mental abuse. I think that's a good start for punishment.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Yes, GF....Ditto and Amen. All one has to do is look at a tiny precious and innocent child...to be horrified that some scum bag could actually inflict pain and injury on such a small defenseless person. It is beyond sickening.

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    Linda Bilyeu 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

    It's taking me a while to collect my thoughts since child abuse really pisses me off! Innocent children who put their trust in adults should NEVER be mistreated. It makes my heart sad to think that any one would harm a child. Yet, they do. Too frequently. Thankfully, I've never had to report child abuse, but I would do it if need be. I would not even stop to think about it. Thank you for spreading the awareness and helping to protect the precious children.

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Hi Nell....Yes, it is maddening. I know it exists every where. I have a difficult time with some of the things our government will shell out enormous amounts of money to do that aren't worth a pile of beans....and yet when it comes to something this VITAL, we're "under funded?"!!

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    Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    Hi Pam...and thanks for your supportive comment. I believe we're all on the same page when it comes to this topic!

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    Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

    I think this is such an important topic. So many children are neglected and/or abused. I would report it immediately if I saw it happen. This aritcle is very thorough and I am gald you are getting this message out.

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    Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

    So true Paula, its disgusting how over here in England too there is always an excuse by social services that, 'we didn't have the funds' or 'that one slipped through the net'. its not good enough, I know for a fact and my family too, that if we saw anything like this we would report it, and quick, and who cares about the consequences? great hub, and so important too, nell