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Are Parental Control Systems really the Best Solution to Protect your Children?

Updated on March 24, 2017
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Human relationships, families: sometimes I like to get deep into these topics, by expressing my personal opinions!

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Some parents decide to educate their children by having dialogues with them about all the risks they can find on internet... but while some parents do this, other ones prefer to limit their children in their activities and control them in every moment of their lives, without having any dialogue with them. So, only by imposing things and denying other ones to their children, some parents feel to have the complete control of the situation... but is it really a definitive solution? Are parental controls really the protagonist of a child's education?

Parental control softwares are very useful to prevent a child accidentally clicking on dangerous content... but are they also useful to child education?
Parental control softwares are very useful to prevent a child accidentally clicking on dangerous content... but are they also useful to child education? | Source

Prohibitions and Parental Controls

The psychology of parental control softwares is simple: you can set restrictions to what children are able to watch on TV or on PC, and you can also limit the time in which they can use the electronic device.

Parental control softwares today can be found built-in in TVs, decoders and online movie stores. Instead on PC you can use parental control features offered by Windows (the new Windows 10 has even a more powerful parental control) or download other parental control softwares. But behind all these technological, tricky... and yes, also useful prevention systems: is there a real solution for parents?

I think no: parental control softwares may be powerful, they may effectively impose something to children, but real life is not made of technological restrictions and of guardians who look at you and at what are you doing. Parental control softwares are useful if employed to protect children from accidentally clicking on dangerous content. But if parents decide to completely rely on parental controls and to have an education based only on restrictions and impositions... are they really educating their child?

Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.

— Plato
 
Staying with your child
Leaving him alone with a parental control enabled
Things to do
You can do a lot of things with your child
You leave him to do what he wants: you rely only on a parental control!
Understand some things of a movie
When a child asks you something about what happens in a movie, you are there ready to answer him
You simply leave him alone
Surfing the web
Do a lot of amazing things with your child, discover new things and enjoy a good time
Leave him alone to surf the Web, as long as he can't access porn sites you feel safe.
The difference between staying with your child when he surfs the Net and watch TV and leaving him alone with only parental control software enabled may be very big!

If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.

— Albert Einstein
Children have a lot of questions! You can feed their curiosity and grow them with your presence and your support... or you can just control them, impose them something, without growing them at all. It's your choice!
Children have a lot of questions! You can feed their curiosity and grow them with your presence and your support... or you can just control them, impose them something, without growing them at all. It's your choice! | Source

Do you think it is better to rely only on parental controls and base education of your child only on restrictions?

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I ask you some questions, in order you can think about this topic related to children education: is it better to have dialogues with your child about the risks he can encounter when he stays online, and to stay with him when he use PC... or it's just better to deny him to watch certain websites? Is it better to restrict time in which children are allowed to use a PC, leaving them alone and without giving them any indication of what to do (for example restricting time of access to PC in order they don't stay too much at home), or it's better to play with your child, stay with him and making him feel not so essential to turn on the PC every moment? Is it better to just set up a parental control and say to a child "watch TV" while you are going to the pub, without any worry (since you have set up a parental control), or it's better to watch TV together with your child and care about him? Just think about it...

© 2015 Alessio Ganci

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