Separation of Parents and How to Deal With It!
How to feel in such a situation.
This fate has also happened to me, and that's why I think it's good to know how you feel in such a situation.
First, I want to express my feelings. From my experience, I know too well that life will not be the same after a separation of parents, especially at a young age. It is not unusual for a family to experience everyday life, be it with breakfast or going out together. Maybe you feel like you have to choose between your parents because both parents have to fight for you and you are the poor person in the middle who does not know how to continue. But maybe you already know which parent you would like to live in, but you have feelings of guilt because you do not want to stand there as the "bad kid". No matter in which Position you stand, everything seems to feel shit, right? Personally, I felt guilty, felt sadness and a little anger.I have always sought the blame and did not know how to handle it. At the time I felt like I was feeling tight, but it did a lot in my life. I worked on myself and am now stronger than ever. I have already experienced many bad things in my young years and what will come to me can no longer intimidate me and nobody can pull me down more. I have goals in front of my eyes and that's the most important thing. Giving up was out of the question for me and I'm proud of having achieved so much so far. This positive perspective gave me many opportunities to develop and meet important people. This positive view should never be lost and you should never give up, no matter how hard it may be.
1. The first steps to feel better!
The most important way to "heal" yourself is never to blame yourself. You are not to blame for the separation of your parents. Everyday, parents are breaking up because of many reasons, whether love disappears or whatever, blaming yourself is not the answer. This thought will not help you and will only give you setbacks. Keep telling yourself you are not to blame.
2. Second step to fell you better!
Focus on the future and forget the past. It is important that your grades or work do not suffer from your sadness. Make yourself proud and do your best to see the positive in spite of such a big change. Apart from good work, you should also surround yourself with good people. Do not retreat and do not let your sadness affect you. Sometimes it's good to talk about your feelings, to be in company and to know that someone cares about you.
3. Third step to fell you better!
Do not change! Stay as you are, do not start to develop bad qualities. Many people think there are no other solutions, but did you try? Do not start scratching, smoking or whatever else is there. I know it's hard to be in such a position, but do not let you down and see things in a positive way.
I do not know the person who reads my text here, but let me tell you something: There will always be obstacles that will keep you on your journey. No one in this world has a perfect life, everyone has a hard destiny, but it's up to you what you make of it. You always have to believe in yourself and although I do not know your character and your situation, you deserve all the happiness in the world like anyone else and it does not matter if the lives of others are better than yours, you are the one who determines your life. Make the best of it, instead of having your life in your conscience "What if ...?"
Write your opinion!
If all of this does not help, I would agree to help you with your situation. You are welcome to contact me and we can write together and I will listen to what you have to say.
I hope you are all in a good mood!
- Write in the comments your opinion, I'm excited to read it.
- If you like my topics I would also be happy for a follow. :)
© 2019 Clarisse