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Single Mother's Stand Up!

Updated on April 24, 2018

I want to dedicate this article to my mother, who has always instilled strength and bravery in me from the day I was born.

It isn't easy being a single mother, life is ten times hard and ten times the constant struggle. I find myself being a single mother on occasion, meaning that I'm generally the main parent who provides for my son. Not to say that his father is out of the picture but that there is always room for improvement.

I often think to myself that I'm doing a good job but alas there is always room for improvement. I believe that all single mother's get that doubt in their head that they can always do better or they are never doing enough. I would like to say that you have to stop thinking so much and wondering if you are doing the right thing.

I want single mother's to give themselves a round of applause for being so strong and courageous. For being the one who is there when your kids are sick, for helping with homework in time for dinner,or for squeezing in a bedtime story before your online class. I know that it can be a tough and lonely road but you should understand that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

The one thing that I dislike to see a single mother doing is not handling her business and staying so focused on trying to get a guy to take care of you and your child. Ladies, you have to take charge of your life and get your house in order before you can have someone take care of you and your child.

Watch the kind of message you are sending to your kids, don't have a different guy every week coming around because you want to be loved and cared for. Stand up on your own two feet and handle your business. Show you son the type of woman he should be bringing home on day. Show your daughter the type of lady she should be one day. Let your child know that what you are doing is to benefit them and they should do the same when they have kids.

I'm not saying you shouldn't date, but don't bring a new face in front of your child. Kid's are not stupid and if they see that they have a new "uncle" every week then you are going to confuse them and that is not healthy or right. Be the example that you have to be in order for your kids to prosper and in order for you to have a drama free life.

It's unfortunate that we are left to bear the emotional and financial stress of being a single mother, but I guarantee it will pay off one day. We as woman are born with this amazing strength and bravery that no man is able to bear. That is why we are ten times better then they are and ten times wiser then they will ever get to be.

So stop your whining about all the problems you have. Stop complaining that you don't have any help and start taking control of your life. Believe in yourself and you can't go wrong. Look in your child's face and say "I'm going to build us a better life".

Single mother's please stand up.

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      Lisa Stover 

      7 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      Exactly! Standing on your own feet benefits you just as much as your children and all women are able to do it! If a man doesn't want to share in the blessing that a child is than thats his decision. But as women we know that yes its hard but nothing on earth is worth more than seeing your child happy and healthy :)

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      Ashley Allard 

      7 years ago from USA

      Thank you very much

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      Columba Smith 

      7 years ago from California

      Very nice exhortation! I agree. We send a healthy message to our kids when we take care of our own business, as you say. God bless, and happy Easter!

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      kafsoa 

      7 years ago

      How difficult is life without someone to support. This story is great and single mothers who do it all on their own are really respectable.

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      WANDA 

      7 years ago

      THIS IS A WONDERFUL STORY....IT IS GOOD TO SEE WOMEN STANDING UP FOR THEMSELVES STANDING ON THEIR OWN TWO FEET....I AM PROUD OF THE ARTICLE AS A SINGLED MOTHER. THANK YOU

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