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Some Things Are Important Than Grades
Why parents care only about grades?
The competition is increasing day by day. This age is being called ‘The Age of Cutthroat Competition,’ and there is no doubt that it really is. And now-a-days, nobody wants to be behind the others. Hence, the parents too want their child to be better than the others. They want him to excel in every field; games, co-curricular activities, and obviously, studies. But, most of their concentration goes into studies. The reason is really simple, without studies, no one will be able to become a personality in life.
The parents are happy when their child wins a football game or any other thing, but they are totally elated when their child shines in studies and gets good grades. They want their child’s future to be secure, and nothing’s bad in that, but the bitter truth is that they know their child is suffering because of them, but still, they ignore it!
Caring for grades is not a crime, but they should understand if their child is able for studies. They should not just scold them for getting bad grades; instead they should encourage the child for the thing that he is sure to achieve.
And one more thing, will forcing them to study help in getting good grades? The answer is a total no. The child won’t get good marks if you force him, furthermore the grades will go down. He will not be able to concentrate if his parent’s fear sets into his mind. Parents should certainly care about their child’s marks, but they shouldn’t just force him. There are many other ways; motivate him, soothe him if he gets bad marks, or just let the child do the thing in which he is interested. I know it won’t be that easy to ignore the studies, but if he excels in what he likes, then surely you should encourage him for taking that field, not force him to leave everything and just study.
Consequences of parental pressure on a child
It is a very serious topic on which I’m writing. Children don’t deserve what they are getting from their parents. I’m not saying that every parent is like this, but the majority certainly is. Their aim is to make sure their child gets better grades anyhow. They won’t care if they have to bribe or cheat, they just want good marks.
And pressurizing their children will certainly not be good. Remember, pressurizing children will not result in selection for Harvard or Cambridge. It will have its own consequences, which I will certainly tell the reader.
Excessive parental pressure can damage the mentality of a child. Eating disorders, insomnia and loss of interest in hobbies are some of them. Stress and anxiety will be further consequences. This will affect the child both physically and mentally. They are in the growing age, and they don’t know what’s best for them. Stress and anxiety can cause serious problems for a child, and they won’t know what to do. Parents will not notice this change, and they will continue pressurizing the children, and a stage will come, when unwanted things will start happening.
Due to the immense pressure, the child will get indulged in bad things. To remove the tension or stress, he will start drinking alcohol, get addicted to drugs and many more. All this will just be a result of parents not allowing their children to do what they want, and just forcing them to take the academic field.
And some parents constantly hover on their child’s academic life. They look over everything they do. This could have serious negative effects on a child’s mentality. A study, published by Journal of Child and Family studies, found out that looking upon every action of a child’s school life can be a seed of depression and can lower the will to compete with the other. And competition is what parents want, right? So, indirectly, trying to get what parents want, can end with something completely opposite.
Parents should know about all this, and they should not act oblivious to what is happening to their child. They should make sure that their child continues in what he is interested, not only in studies, but in any other field that is present on the Earth.
What would happen if every child becomes a Bookworm?
Just imagine what will happen to the world if every child becomes a bookworm, and never goes out of the house. They will just sit at home, studying and studying. This can affect their physical health, which would be bad for the child himself.
Suppose if there were no sportsmen. Then what would happen to the people who are mad for sports? Once a bookworm child grows up, he will surely enter a field, which is full of studies. They won’t get the time to go out and play. I know that’s not what their parents want, but certainly some part out there wants their child to become a bookworm.
Many great players and athletes were born. If they had been forced to study, then the world would not have witnessed them. And furthermore, their lives would also have been ruined. Their parents understood their ambition, and encouraged them to do whatever it would take to make that dream come true.
That is what the parents should do. They should not just dream that their child should become a box of knowledge, but they should grasp their the dreams. Most of the parents try to make their child achieve what they themselves were not able to achieve. This mind-set is certainly not going to help. The child should have his own dreams, not the ones imposed by his parents. If this is checked, then one day or the other, the child will become a successful personality.
That was what I wanted to say to the parents. Every child has a right to live freely, not bound by their parents’ chains. They should be allowed to do what they want, unless and until it is good for him. This article should make the traditional parents ashamed, and make the parents, who do whatever is good for their child, feel proud.
Thanks for reading!