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Stay-At-Home Moms Are Awesome!
A Curriculum For Preschoolers-Prepares children ages 3-5 for kindergarten (Compares to Abeka)
It's true, I've been a stay-at-home mom for the last 19 years. My oldest daughter is 19 years old and my husband and I share six loving children. I have five girls and one boy. I made the decision to become a stay-at-home mom after the birth of my oldest child simply because I wanted to be the one to see her crawl or walk for the first time and of course I just wanted to be her caregiver. The decision was not that hard but I did have to leave my full time job as a cosmetologists but I still had some of my clients that I serviced in my home so that was not to bad.
I feel that at the time I made the decision to stay in the home with my daughter that a lot of people were still getting use to this whole stay-at-home mom thing not realizing that some of our grand mothers were in the home with their children before us. I will be honest, I felt that people looked down on me as if I was lazy even though I started an in-home family day care that I ran for ten years. I say this because people just did not give mothers that were in the home with their children back the credit that they deserved.
The Duties of Stay-at-Home Mothers
The duties are non stop. You are the parent which means you are handling the discipline, the cleaning, the managing of the house, you deal with the noise, and with the potty training which enough by itself. Not to mention scheduling all of the doctor's appointments, the trips to the grocery store, the laundry, and taking care of sick children. If you have children that get sick at school you are the one that has to run and pick him or her up from school. If you have children that are active in sports or dance, you are the one responsible for getting those children back and forth as needed. For those reading this article that are in my shoes, you know what I mean. There is hardly any time at all for us to rest or sleep but we manage to keep going because we know that the family depends on us to keep it together.
How I Manage To Keep Our Small Children Busy
Keeping these children busy is key especially if you are like me an entrepreneur that just happens to work with the children. My children range from ages five to nineteen so the youngest children love to do artwork. I purchase inexpensive supplies from the dollar store in my neighborhood this way while I am working I allow the oldest children when they don't have attitudes, :) to help the younger children with their artwork. When they are finished, we hang it on the refrigerator and they just love it. I am big on education so another thing I do is encourage my children to do something educational even when their teacher hasn't given them homework assignments. I feel that over the summer is a great time to get children ahead of the game with this. This year is the first year that all of my children are in school after nineteen years. I feel so lucky. I actually have the house to myself during the day but summer is here so I am back to keeping them busy for a little while at least.
How To Balance It All
This is not easy at all but a person learns fast that is if they want to be successful at this without getting depressed which can happen. This is a good reason why when people make the decision to become a parent in the home with children, they should really think about it hard. There was a time that I was so busy that I noticed that every body in my house was taken care of but me. My hair was a mess, I gained a lot of weight, and my everyday wardrobe consisted of jeans and a t-shirt or sweat pants. Today I have learned how to balance it all. This March I will be hitting the 20 year mark with my oldest away in college and I can tell you all that I have learned some things. I have learned to fit myself into the schedule. Where I left myself out before this will no longer happen. I now have a baby sitter that I can trust. This means I pay someone once a week to sit with my children so that I can have some sanity. I love it because even if I don't have anything scheduled to do I put on my pretty clothes and go anywhere!
How Do I Work From Home With The Kids
About seventy five percent of my business is online so I usually turn on my computer while they are watching their favorite cartoons or at the time when they are doing their artwork with the older children. There are those times when I am on the computer and I am distracted by fighting children or children that will run to my home office every five minutes and want to talk about just about anything. I usually stop and talk for about ten minutes and then I will simply look them in the eye and say now it's time for mommie to work because if I don't, I won't be able to buy you those pop sickles you want and usually this works. So the youngest will say just say ok and run out of the room. The oldest children are a little more understanding. Let me keep this real, most of the time they will come right back. (smile) This may happen a few times and you just have to learn balance, patience, and enjoy this great opportunity that we have to see our children growing up.
This is an opportunity that is faced with many challenges from lack of energy, just wanting some quiet time, or feeling like you just wish you could go to sleep, but in all that we deal with, to be able to be their when my children get off the bus and to be able to help my children with their homework is awesome. I am sure that some have to get up and go to work everyday but I can say that I love the fact that my children did not do day care at all. I just feel that by the time parents pick their children up from day care that a whole day is gone and it is usually time to start the next day. I wanted to be the one that sees all of the little things that my children do each day and I am so glad that I made the decision. Yes I get tired but one thing that I can say at this point is that the older children are starting to take care of the younger children and they are also at the age where they are cooking and cleaning for themself so ladies there is hope after all. In a few years you will get some rest so hang in there and learn to embrace this experience.
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