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Stay-at-Home Mothers vs. Working Mothers

Updated on July 31, 2015
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Ms. Quick is an experienced writer for over 30 years, and a self-published author, including many other talents.


The Working Mother - Pros and Cons

According to the Pew Research Center, America's working mothers are now the primary breadwinners in a record 40 percent of households.

One advantage of being a working mother is the opportunity to be around a wide variety people and work in different professional occupations such as a nurse, teacher, police-woman, teacher, hairstylist, artist, manager, doctor, chef, electrician, bus driver, lawyer, social worker, secretary, entrepreneur, sales person, actress or whatever she wants to be given the opportunity. Whereas, the stay-at-home mother rarely meets a variety of people and does not have a professional occupation. Another advantage of being a working mother is that she can afford to buy more things for her children such as school supplies, nice gifts, extra curricular and athletic activities for her child, new trend/electronic items, fancy clothes, trips, and go more places compared to stay-at-home mothers. Furthermore, working mothers tend to be more in shape and healthier due to being more active than stay-at-home mothers.

An important disadvantage to being a working mother compared to the stay-at-home mother is that the working mother worry about leaving her child or children in daycare while she has to go to work. The working mother has to leave her child in the hands of strangers basically, and trust that they will do a good job in taking care of her child while she goes to work. Background checks can help to make sure the daycare is safe, but that still does not take away of the worry and concern that the working mother have of leaving her child.

There is an alternative instead of daycare for the working mother; that is to ask family to watch her children while she goes to work, which is better in many circumstances. However, family cannot always be depended on to babysit and sometimes turn down the working mother to do daycare for them. The only choices she may have is daycare, or ask a friend or someone to babysit, or as a last resort quit working. Many working mothers do not have the luxury to quit working and might leave the child at home alone (which is legal at age 12 and up), but it is a risky situation for the child.

Teen Children at Home Alone

No daycare for the children of working mothers often ends up with neglected children or teens who may in turn commit more crimes and get into trouble such as ditching school, childhood drinking or doing drugs, but stay-at-home mothers have more time to teach their children the morals and lessons of life that she hopes for her children and she can personally monitor her teenage children more. Working mothers and stay-at-home mothers do their best, but some teens will go astray whether their mother was at home or not unfortunately. In that case, it just takes more strict monitoring of their teens and their friends. Tell your teens that their friends have to come to your house to visit, if you feel strict monitoring is needed. Mothers do not know what is going on if their teen is away over their friend's house. I know it may be strict, but it may be needed if you feel something is wrong. Often we mothers tend to be too nice to our kids and regret it later.

Another difference to being a working mother is that there is less time for her husband or a relationship than stay-at-home mothers. Working mothers are exhausted when they get home to the family; however, they have to continue on for the children and the family. The working mother still makes dinner, and makes sure that the children are clean and put to bed the same as stay-at-home mothers.


Stay-at-Home Mothers Pros and Cons

Stay-at-home mothers tend to cook more home-cooked meals than working mothers. Although, stay-at-home mothers and working mothers both concentrate on their children being healthy, stay-at-home mothers have more time to take care of their children and husband’s needs. They eat less fast foods.

The child or children of stay-at-home mothers have more safety than the children of a working mother because their mother is personally at home with the children, providing for their safety, care and protection. The more time a mother has with their child builds more of a stronger bond. There is still always proper guidance that is necessary also, in raising a good child whether they are from stay-at-home mothers or working mothers.

A consequence to stay-at-home mothers is that they become more bored everyday at home, since they do not have any other activities or responsibilities like working mothers. However, they may have less stress than working mothers. Some stay-at-home mothers tend to be more overweight than working mothers. Possibly because stay-at-home mothers are at home more and they cook three meals a day and snack in between meals due to stress from kids and being at home cooking meals. That is why many stay-at-home mothers have become ‘soccer moms’, which means they have so many activities scheduled for the children and themselves. Sometimes there just isn’t enough time in the day for all the activities for stay-at-home mothers and ‘soccer moms’ just as they do not have enough time in the day for all the activities and they have plenty housework to do.

A Mother's Housework and Job Includes:

  • Grocery shopping
  • Stocking food and storing food to keep fresh
  • Cooking and serving the meals three times a day
  • Washing dishes
  • Budgeting and Paying the bills to companies
  • Cleaning the house
  • Yard keep up (if single in a house)
  • Homework assistance for the children
  • Proper guidance and teaching the children
  • Discipline
  • Style child's hair and keep clean
  • Entertaining and playing with the child/children
  • Proper contact with the child's school
  • Providing clothes and shoes for the child/children
  • Keep them safe


Traditional Mothers

In most third-world countries mothers work with their child on their backs and children around them. They didn't have daycare, instead they had extended family around them daily to watch the other children if they chose to, and for free or barter. The mother also worked for herself and found work to do also either around her home or in town. The idea of traditional motherhood sounds more and more intriguing nowadays and would be a great idea like the people in Norway suggested for their workforce of mothers with children. Modern society has played a trick on the mother and child subsequently by making the mother have to work outside the home. Daycare prices are high and getting higher each year and quality daycare is hard to find.

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