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Stay at Home Moms Are Important Too!!!
We are called 24/7
Yes, we are on call 24/7m just like any mom that works and comes home but the only difference is we may not leave the house and we don't have an outside job. We can be home and still be tired and stressed out just like any other mother out there that works, comes home and has to do housework. Stay at home moms are just able to do a lot more than a mom that hold one or two jobs.
Going to Meetings
I am going to say that being a stay at home mom has helped me a lot with my kids because I am able to go to any school meeting that I am needed at. When it comes to my kids' schooling I make sure that they have what they need in order to excel in their grade. I feel that if I was working a full-time job I wouldn't be able to make the meetings that I would have to make or check in with the school when I need to.
Deciding to be a stay at home mom was one of the best things that I decided to do and I would do it again even though it is a little boring and not as great as many other moms think that it is. I would love to work outside of home again and just be out of the house for awhile, but I know that my kids need me more than a job that will only pay me a few bucks for someone that has a Bachelors Degree.
We get stressed too!
I am tired of hearing that stay at home moms should not be stressed or someone asking "What do you have to be stressed about?" I mean I am a wife and a mother of two boys so I have a lot to be stressed about when it comes to my family. I am not only trying to make sure that everyone else is okay I am trying to make sure that I am okay as well. I suffer from Chronic Migraines and I have to make sure that I take care of my family when they can't take care of themselves. My kids need me and if something comes up I am there no matter how much pain I am in.
I am in pain every day and I have to make sure that I deal with it because I am needed around the house when it comes to cooking, cleaning and everyday fun activities. I like to read to my kids and play with them when they want to build with legos and even paint. Sometimes I have to sit out when my husband wants to take them to the park because I am in so much pain but when I am able I make it up to them and take them myself on another day.
Being a military spouse is not easy either, so when things hit the fan I have to be the strong one so being a stay at home mom to me is a very huge and rewarding job that any mother can do if they decide to. One thing I must say that if you ever hear that one mom stays at home don't give her the grief because she has more than likely heard it before or you don't know her situation.
Make the Time
I am always making time for my family. I make the time for my kids and my husband when the time is right. Just because I stay at home does not mean I have all the time in the World to do things. Sometimes we would want to sit back and just relax but we are home all day trying to ensure that we get everything done. I have to say that if you are one stay at home mom make sure that you make time especially if your husband works his butt off and the kids are in school.
We can clean and do everything we need to do while everyone is gone for a few hours but once they are home things can change. This goes back to being stressed and tired once everyone is home. We can feel these things as well because we want everything to be perfect but sometimes we can get overwhelmed and forget that we need time to ourselves, so remember to take the time you need to relax so that you can be happy for yourself and your family.
Some work from home
Stay at home moms usually may have a job from home if they are not doing an outside job. I have a freelance job and I love to write. I am trying to get my own business off the ground. Many of us have Bachelors or Associate Degrees that we can use as well. We are not all just sitting home doing nothing.
Working out gives me a great outlet and my writing gives me something to do in order to try and bring in some type of income. I take care of the kids, wash the cars, mow the grass, pay bills, go grocery shopping, and even go to kids school meetings for programs and many other things that are needed. I always told myself if I was going to be a stay at home mom I was going to ensure that I finished school and then kept the house tidy, cooked as well as made sure that the kids had everything they needed for school.
We don't all just sit around and watch daytime tv because that is boring but at the same time, we may need a few hours to ourselves since we are home all the time. I have two school-age kids but I had to do some meetings for speech and extra help program for my other son which would be really hard if I was working a full-time job at the time. Since my kids are at that age I have been looking for work in my area which is hard, so before you judge please remember that you don't know that mother's situation.
We are all mothers and that is what we do. Remember that you have to work hard to get what you want and if you want your own business and something from home, work hard to get it and don't let anyone stop you because it is achievable.
If you are a stay at home mom please remember to take time for yourself so that you can relax and just let loose. You should go get a massage have fun and just hang out with some friends. If you are a military spouse it can be hard to make friends but try and go to some of the spouse outings and just find someone that share the same interests you do.
Look we are all moms if you work one, two, or three jobs or if you just stay at home and work from home we are all in this together. We have to build each other up and just support one another. We should not have to see each other being nasty or shade one another because one does one thing while the other does something else. Remember where you come from and just find something to do for yourself so that you can take care of your little bundles of joy. We are all doing something that makes us happy and we all could use some support and not backlash.
I commend all the single, married, divorced and even the Dads out there that take on these roles. We will all succeed and if you feel like you don't, remember that you "Got This 100%".