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Family Values

Updated on July 8, 2013
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While reading The Entitlement Trap by Richard and Linda Eyre, the authors briefly touched on how they taught their children family values. They centered each month for a year around a specific value. I LOVE lists and making goals that are achievable by months so I took their monthly values and made them my own! I suggest you decide on the values that are most important to your family and are age appropriate.

Below I have shared our family list for the remainder of the year. We are going to begin each month with a family meeting. We will discuss the value of the month and make a list of ways we can demonstrate the value. I will display the value of the month in a place where everyone can see it daily as a reminder! Each month I plan to read a handful of books centered around the months theme to give them more lessons in the value they are learning.

Respect

According to CharacterEd.Net, respect is showing high regard for an authority, other people, self and country. Treating others as you would want to be treated. Understanding that all people have value as human beings.

  • We teach respect by modeling respect. Follow the old saying, "Treat others the way you want to be treated!"
  • Set high expectations! Children should know and understand that disrespect will not be tolerated.
  • Role play. Use the children's toys or puppets to model respectful conversations so they can see what respect looks like.
  • Teach them to always say please and thank you!
  • Praise them when they are demonstrating respect. Especially with the young kiddos, try saying, "I like how you used please to ask your brother for a crayon."

Honesty

CharacterEd.Net states that honesty is telling the truth, admitting wrongdoing. Being trustworthy and acting with integrity.

  • Again, we teach honesty by modeling honesty!
  • Praise honesty! Let your child know it feels good to tell the truth and be honest.
  • Talk about the importance of honesty.

Responsibility

Responsibility is being accountable in word and deed. Having a sense of duty to fulfill tasks with reliability, dependability and commitment according to CharacterEd.Net.

  • Give your child age-appropriate chores.
  • Foster independence.

Caring

CharacterEd.Net states that caring is showing understanding of others by treating them with kindness, compassion, generosity and a forgiving spirit.

  • Volunteer at local charities.
  • Be sensitive to people's feelings.
  • Think about how your actions will affect others.
  • Have child write a thank you note to grandparents.
  • Help a neighbor.

Self-respect

According to teachkidshow.com, self-respect can be explained as knowing that you are valuable and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Self-respect leads to having positive self-esteem, which ultimately controls our success, happiness and how well we will develop emotionally throughout our journey.

  • Show your child unconditional love. Let them know that even though they made a bad choice, you do not view them as "bad."
  • Listen attentively to your child.
  • Take your child's feelings seriously.
  • Spend quality time with your child.
  • Set goals and discuss goals as a family.
  • Be a role model. Your child is watching how you treat yourself as cues on how to treat himself.

Self-discipline

Self-discipline, according to CharacterEd.Net is demonstrating hard work controlling your emotions, words, actions, impulses and desires. Giving your best in all situations.

  • Teach children to complete their morning chores independently.
  • Get your child involved in an activity such as sports that builds self-discipline.
  • Teach your child to respond to correction appropriately.
  • Play games that include following directions such as;Red Light, Green Light and Simon Says.
  • Set Goals.

Courage

Doing the right thing in face of difficulty and following your conscience instead of the crowd according to CharacterEd.Net.

  • Build confidence.
  • Role play situations where your child may need to stand up for someone else being bullied.
  • Praise your child for befriending the new kid in class or for staying away from others that make bad choices.
  • Be a role model. Think about how you handle difficult situations and what behavior you are encouraging.
  • Ask grandparents and others to share stories from a time they were courageous.

Fairness

CharacterEd.net defines fairness as practicing justice, equity and equality. Cooperating with one another. Recognizing the uniqueness and value of each individual within our diverse society.

  • Empower your child to determine what's right. Discuss with them if their situation was fair and why or why not.
  • Play board games. This allows the children a real situation to practice fairness.
  • Do not blame.

My oldest son is in Kindergarten so he is learning some of these character traits at school and takes them very seriously!!! I look forward to building on what he has already learned and believe this will be a valuable experience for the whole family!

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    • stephanieb27 profile imageAUTHOR

      stephanieb27 

      5 years ago from United States

      sckeith, thank you so much for the kind comments!! :)

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      sckeith 

      5 years ago

      I love a list too! That was one reason I loved Baby Wise so much with my boys when they were infants and this list is just as easy to follow and so important in promoting family values. Thank you so much.

    • stephanieb27 profile imageAUTHOR

      stephanieb27 

      5 years ago from United States

      Thank you, kidscrafts!! :) I agree, in every one of those values the most important lesson is practicing what we preach to our children.

    • stephanieb27 profile imageAUTHOR

      stephanieb27 

      5 years ago from United States

      Thanks so much, Valene!! :)

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      kidscrafts 

      5 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Very great article! I will print that one and try to have the books in French for when my sons will have kids!

      Early childhood is the best time to give a good base on values. And as parents, we have to be a consistent example!

      Voted up and awsome!

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      Valene 

      5 years ago from Missouri

      What a great idea for keeping on track with instilling your children with positive values!

    • stephanieb27 profile imageAUTHOR

      stephanieb27 

      5 years ago from United States

      Careermommy, thank you! Like I said in the article, I think it will be beneficial for our whole family in keeping us focused on being the best person we can be! :)

      Jpcmc, congrats on being a new dad!! I agree that these small things matter when a child is learning about their new world! :)

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      JP Carlos 

      5 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      Setting the right values at an early age is important. Being a new dad, i feel the need to instill the right values early. Small things matter especially to a child learning about relationships, family, friends and about the world.

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      Tirralan Watkins 

      5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Stephanieb27, this is such an excellent article. I love this idea. I'm glad you shared it. I will talk to my hubby about doing something like this in our household for our family.

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