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Teen Mom to Be
Teen Mom to Be
I believe Janet was hoping the father of her baby was someone who was not the father of her baby. The fact that Janet is 25 weeks along makes it impossible the young man she wishes to be the father is the father. Now that Janet is officially pregnant, the conversation door is open for us to discuss her options. Since I learned today that Janet was planning on an abortion, I know that she has not yet thought seriously about keeping the baby.
I am aware that teaching Janet parenting skills, and insuring a safe environment for a newborn is past my capabilities. I ask Janet if she has considered what she will do. She answers that she has not. I suggest she call one of the adoption agencies named in the brochure. I am guessing that the agency staff is experienced in talking with insecure pregnant girls and would do a better job than I. Janet makes the call. Shortly, she informs me that an attorney is coming to see her at our house, the next day. Janet is left with a binder full of pictures and dossiers on potential adoptive parents. She shows me a few she is impressed with. Ivy looks with us. Janet is especially impressed with a beautiful wedding picture of a certain couple. It is the wedding picture of every girls dream. Ivy loves this picture also. This couple has already adopted two children; a three year old girl, and a two year old boy. Janet says she has made up her mind and she selects this couple. This couple who wants to adopt Janet’s baby are very excited. They come to visit, take Janet to dinner and give her a small gift. This relationship continues throughout Janet’s pregnancy. They are also very supportive and nice to Ivy and me. It is a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. Janet has a very uneventful last trimester of her pregnancy and one night, she comes to me with a “stomach ache.” When the stomach ache returns ten minutes later, I call my parents and tell them I need to bring Ivy to their house. I call the adoptive parents and we meet them at the hospital. The adoptive parents were wonderful at the delivery. A perfect baby girl is born. I was prepared for post partum sadness, grief and loss. I noticed very little change in Janet’s behavior. Now that Janet has had her baby, she can get her high school diploma. I have missed spending as much time as I would have liked with Ivy and I am looking forward to Lea.
As time passes, I have more troubled teenage girls, and occasionally I worry about their impact on Ivy and Lea. Ivy and Lea are beautiful, successful and educated young women. I am very proud of them.