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Telling someone they are selfish-good or bad? You tell me.
Hello fellow Hubbers. I have a bit of a dilemma that I hope you can help me with. Today has been one of those days where there has been a lot of tension running around our house. Let me tell you what happened.
My cousin is visiting us. She is young, in her early 20s, and is still quite immature for her age. However, she likes to think that she is very adult and mature. I am in my mid 30s and know that I am still immature.
Anyway, today my cousin and I had a plan to go for ice skating. I thought I would skate with her even though I usually fall down more than skate (LOL). However, when I woke up this morning, my back was so sore. I could barely walk. My health is really not what it used to be, and this back pain happens on occasion to me. I find I just have to take rest and not stress it out. As my cousin wanted someone to go with her, I told her that I could watch her skate. However, she insisted that my husband or my dad actually go out on the ice and skate with her.
Now, all of us have something wrong with us- my husband has a bad foot due to plantar fascitis, and cannot move much either, nor can my dad move much with a bad back. My mom has an old knee and foot injury so she also has limited mobility. So we all told her that we could not actually go out and skate with her. We told her that we would go watch.
She got so upset that she actually threw a tantrum. She stomped her foot and started walking away. My mom started to explain all of our health issues to her when she just said, "Whatever", and walked away. So my mom got upset at her and told her not to be so selfish. My cousin got even angrier and stomped off to the room that she is staying in. She was so angry that she basically stayed at home holed up in her room all day without coming out to talk to any of us. In fact, I think she just came out to have dinner with my dad and that was it.
I was not around to hear my mom tell her this, but my dad and husband were. We all know that she is an only child and spoiled rotten. I also know that she usually gets whatever she wants. I am not so sure telling her that she was selfish to her face was a good idea even though it may be true.
What do you think I should do or say to her if she broaches this subject to me? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but at the same time she does need to grow up a bit. Any thoughts, comments or ideas are greatly appreciated.