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Ten Ways To Keep Teenagers Thinking and Practicing Purity

Updated on February 6, 2018
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MsDora—parent, grandparent, Christian counselor—offers suggestions on raising confident, conscientious, responsible, productive children.

People who manifest moral values in their attitudes and conduct are people who think about moral values. “It is the nature of thought to find its way into action.” (Christian Bovee)

Between annual events like the Purity Pledge Ceremony and Purity Ball, there should be other activities that will constantly remind the young people of lifestyle principles that are important to them.

Following are ten suggestions for activities that will help build peer support and keep them focused on moral values and the purity lifestyle. The involvement and guidance of parents and or mentors is recommended.

White lily buds or rosebuds are appropriate symbols for purity.  Photo by Kor!An (Корзун Андрей)
White lily buds or rosebuds are appropriate symbols for purity. Photo by Kor!An (Корзун Андрей) | Source

(1) Establish Accountability

Within the entire group, there will be subgroups of two or three who are closer to each other than to the rest of the group. Encourage members of the smaller group to form buddy teams, and be accountable to each other. Help them foster friendships built on trust and genuine interest in each other, so they could feel free to confide, give and receive counsel and assistance to each other. Encourage them to recruit someone they all respect if there is ever an issue too complicated for them.

(2) Collect Purity Quotes

Assign a certain number of quotations on purity for each member to find and record. Ask each member to memorize at least one and share the reason for that selection. Create a reference file for future use. In another meeting, members could select other quotes for discussion. Also try this with quotations on beauty.

(3) Watch Wholesome Movies

Here are two, for a start.

Love’s Enduring Promise from the Love Comes Softly series by Michael Landon is highly recommended. “What could be romantic froth becomes a quiet, well-paced, and thoughtful love story, thanks to a solid script, capable performances, and clean direction . . . wholesome storytelling and clear moral perspective.” Bret Fetzer

Pamela’s Prayer remains a favorite among promoters of moral values, although it receives negative reviews for several reasons: it promotes high purity standards which some think are unattainable; it is old (1998); the actors are not of a Grammy-winning caliber.

Still, many people think it’ is the best on the subject. It has a special appeal for dads and it makes them cry.

(4) Paint Self-Portraits

Not literally with paint and brush, but with words. Metaphors are very effective in helping people see themselves.

Some Biblical examples are:

  • “the apple of God’s eye” (Zechariah 2:8);
  • “His jewels” (Malachi 3:17);
  • “the branch on His vine” (John 15:5);
  • “a pillar fit for a palace” (Psalm 144:12).

Popular objects for comparison are the rose, a star, a light, a fragrance. Have members create or choose their own metaphors answering questions like “What positive aspects do I have in common with this object?” “How can I display those qualities in my everyday life?” “How is my purity walk affected by this portrait?” A personally created self-portrait can be very empowering.

The apple tree provides fruit and shade - fitting metaphor for males.  Photo by Ashstar01
The apple tree provides fruit and shade - fitting metaphor for males. Photo by Ashstar01 | Source

(5) Practice Compliments

Have an appreciation session in which members feed each other’s sense of worth. Devise a method by which each member is assigned to point out something admirable in someone else. Have them practice compliments on virtues and skills like kindness, cheerfulness, speech as opposed to external features like hairdos, shoes, and body parts.

(6) Role-Play

Create scenarios which are likely to happen, and for which it would be wise to have prepared responses. Have members take turns in role-playing the conversations in situations like the following examples:

  • Someone borrows a textbook from a friend and finds pages from a porn magazine hidden inside.
  • After declaring their affection for each other, one person tells the other, “If you love me, show me.”
  • One friend is so scantily clad, the other feels uncomfortable.

(7) Explore Fashion

Have members collect fashion catalogs or random styles of clothing. Take turns evaluating the appearance by answering questions like: To what event or occasion would you expect someone to wear this? On a scale of one to ten, how “modest”, “decent”, “appropriate” would this be? Is there any reason why you would refuse to wear this outfit? Without being judgmental or condemnatory, stress how appearance and deportment influence people.

(8) Host A Beauty Forum

Both males and females need to understand the real meaning of beauty, how it impacts self-worth and influences relationships. Invite experts in various fields: diet, exercise, skin care, self-esteem, teenage biology to present the all-round healthy aspects of beauty.

(9) Befriend A Moral Dropout

One way for teenagers to encounter the consequences of immoral behavior without experiencing it, is to hear it from someone like the prodigal son who has been to the “far country.” In the process, they will learn practical lessons in forgiveness and restoration. Assign someone with tact to extend the invitation. Let the invitee know that there is no pressure to join the group. Show interest in his/her story whether it be a young, unwed teenage mother, or a teenage male abandoned by the friends who seduced him into trouble. The teenager must express a willingness to accept help, even professional if necessary, and subscribe to the moral values presented by the group. Try this only if the entire group consents.

(10) Create A Purity Blog

Start a blog for the purpose of having members express themselves about everyday issues. Assign one person to write the lead article and have the others read and comment for a period the group decides on, before the next person writes another article.

© 2011 Dora Weithers


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    • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      I appreciate you sexualharassment, that is, if you are not your name. I couldn't resist. Thanks for your comment.

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      7 years ago from USA

      Very sweet idea. Many thanks for inspiring me more. More power.

    • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for your affirmation, Jean; and thanks in advance for helping me share these suggestions. I believe in people who believe that promoting purity is relevant.

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      7 years ago from Canada

      This is really an awesone hub. I have voted it as awesome. I totally like your list of suggestion for purity. Teenagers need to be guided and taught the value of purity because it is sadly down played in our society. The movie "Love Comes Softly" is a great choice! Thank you for sharing.

    • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      Isin82, thanks for your encouraging comment. So many people say they were not taught. Let's try to have a lesser number of people say that in the next generation. Forwarding this hub may help -- do your part in some other way. Thanks again!

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      7 years ago from Houston

      You know I wish someone would have forced this issure when I was growing up. Simply telling someone to stay away from pre marital relations is not enough. We need to start teaching our people how remain pure. That walk is extremely hard in today's time and ideas and teachings like you gave in this Hub are well needed. Thank you for this.

    • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Power. Referring to the blog as sweet made me smile.

    • PoweroftheCross profile image


      7 years ago from Above and Beyond...

      These are all wonderful ideas for our teens. They need our input and direction. The purity blog is a sweet one.

    • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      And thanks to you Saboni, denise and Sandra. Hope you'll help me share the ideas; I believe in them. I appreciate you all!

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      Sandra W 

      7 years ago

      The suggestions and scenarios are banging. I know in the AA community many girls don't have a Dad around to tell them their value and build their self-esteem. This article is a must read for all single Moms who do double duty.

      God bless.

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      Denise W Anderson 

      7 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Thanks for the ideas of activities that advocate purity in both boys and girls. Oftentimes, one or the other is blamed for the problem when in reality it is a mutual decision. Having mentors that help each other is a great idea!

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      7 years ago

      Thanks. I thought this article outstanding.


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