I know it sounds cliche, but my most important job in life is being a mother. Everything I do is for my child, to the point where sometimes I lose myself as my own person. I know most of you can agree with me when I say every hour of the day I am thinking about my child. What is she doing, is she safe, is she happy?
But aren't there some days where all you feel like is "just a mom"? Yes, we do have these little people that depend on us for everything at this moment, but it is important to realize that there is more. That even the relationship you have with your child will be happier and healthier when you don't feel like all you're good for is taking care of someone else.
Not only have I found the need to balance my job as a mother and an employee, but also motherhood and my individuality. Here are a few things I have started to do that have helped me.
Climbing the Corporate Ladder
As a working mother, I feel like I spend more time at work throughout the week than I do with my child. It makes me feel guilty that I cannot be as involved as some of my friends and family are with their children. I do not work by choice and would give everything I have to be able to spend more time with my child, but it just is not in the cards at the moment.
As much as I wish I could stop working in order to spend more time with my child and be able to become more involved, I know this isn't possible, so right now I am making the most of the hand I was dealt and I have been trying to excel at my career. I have been promoted 2 times in the last 5 years and am hoping in the next year to get promoted once again. Working in retail, I know this doesn't seem like much, but it gives me some personal goals to work towards. It also makes going to work easier because I know I am moving towards a better paying job that will allow me spend more time with my child in the years to come.
Making time with my husband and friends
I spend most of my days at work or at home with my family, but I make it a priority to get one night a month out, whether it be on a date with my husband or out with friends. Luckily, we have a lot of family that live close and so we are able to drop off my child with someone for the night and we go to dinner and the movies. If I am out with friends, we do something low key and play games at someone's house or go out to eat. One night a month may not seem like much, but it is just enough to keep my sanity as my own person.
Teaching my hobbies to my child
A couple of my hobbies include baking and crafting. I try to include my daughter in some of these so not only am I able to do what I love, but I can teach her something and keep her away from any sort of screens for a time being. My daughter loves making cut out cookies, so these tend to be a staple in our household. You can easily find little crafts at places like Michaels or JoAnns Fabrics that are good for any age.
Having me time
This is by far the most important piece of the puzzle. You need to find time where you are alone and doing what you want to do, even if it just ends up being you vegging out in front of the television watching trashy reality tv shows. Even a couple hours to yourself every week can make a world of difference. As mothers, we each need to find what is important to US. You can me an amazing mother, while also being your amazing, beautiful self!
I hope that as you read this, you are able to either use my suggestions, or come up with something that will keep you happy as your own person.