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The Difficulties of Raising a Girl

Updated on July 11, 2013
My daughters 2nd birthday.
My daughters 2nd birthday. | Source

The Difficulties of Raising a Girl

Parenting is never an easy task, children seem to suck the life out of you, turning you into a routine zombie covered in spit-up, boogers, and unidentifiable food particles. Raising children of any gender is difficult, one must give up their personal freedom to fulfill the life of another, making a tiny person feel whole and loved, but raising a boy and raising a girl may seem like two different worlds. Barbies, dolls, dress up, make-up, high heels, pink, flowers, flip-flops, barrettes, and a hot attitude to go along with it can be extremely overwhelming (especially for first time parents). Every child is different and portrays their personality, attitude, wants and needs in different ways, so the difficulties presented to individual parents may vary greatly (no matter the gender of the child), but in general girls seem to be a tad more difficult to raise for certain reasons, most of which are caused by emotions and internal thought.

They Internalize Everything

Girls internalize everything that is said and what they see and observe. Girls do not always explain what they are feeling outwardly, they hold it inside, thinking about it in their own minds. This internalization of life can make it extremely difficult to raise a healthy, normal, confident, and independent woman; it is hard to get a girl to express their thoughts and feeling externally so that the parent can offer guidance and help to the things she may not understand.

They are Very Emotional Beings

Girls are extremely emotions human beings and most of the time all of their emotions come flooding in at once, making the parent very confused and overwhelmed about their feelings. In a moment a girl can go from extreme happiness to hatred and anger then to overwhelmingly sad, and maybe they will return to happiness in a little while. This rollercoaster of emotions is a hard ride for not only them but for those who surround them, and it is very difficult to decipher where these emotions have stemmed from which makes it hard to help them understand why they feel they way that they do.

They Need Constant Reassurance

Girls seem to need constant reassurance in their lives, even the smallest of toddlers to the oldest of women, need to have some sort of reassurance that they are doing the right thing in their lives, that they have gained some sort of success in what they are trying to do, and that they are making the ones they love happy. To raise a girl means that a parent needs to constantly tell them how wonderful, beautiful, creative, talented and intelligent they are, this will give the girl a sense of pride and independence. Girls need a little guidance to help figure themselves out and to grow into the person they are supposed to be, this does not mean that they can not do it alone, they just need a little extra support to help them stand tall.

They Feel the Need to be Beautiful

Most girls love to dress up, wear high heels, put on make up, do their hair, look at themselves in the mirror, and look as beautiful as they feel. Girls can be the most vain of creatures which can make it very difficult to raise a young lady since one may not always have the means to allow ones daughter to look as beautiful as they desire.

They are Expert Manipulators

With the bat of their eyelashes, the swelling of their beautiful eyes, and with a quiver of the lip a girl can make a parent say “yes” to something one just fought so hard against and one will not even know what happened. Girls know how to manipulate their parents, this master manipulation makes it extremely difficult to raise a girl because the parent must be aware of when their daughter is manipulating them and stand strong and tell them no. The word no will make them scream, cry, stomp, hit, throw things, use hateful words, and run into their rooms and slam doors, but it is important that girls know and understand boundaries and guidelines to grow into a respectable, independent, and successful young woman.

My daughter at 3 months
My daughter at 3 months | Source
My daughter at almost 2 years (this was a week or two before her birthday).
My daughter at almost 2 years (this was a week or two before her birthday). | Source

They Grow Fast. Hold on Tight.

Every child is different, but my daughter is definitely difficult to raise, and has proven it at a very young age. I am sure the path is bound to become more bumpy down the road, but I am looking forward to it. I am excited to see what type of person she is going to grow to be.


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      Dan Lema 

      4 years ago from Tanzania

      Indeed it is hard raising a girl.....i completely agree with the "MASTER MANIPULATORS" part, from personal experience.....i can understand that women are naturally gifted with the ability of raising a child; but my respect goes to single parent fathers out there who raise their little girls, i just don't know how they do it despite the fact that it's not in their nature.....

      P.S: You have such a beautiful regards to her..:)

    • healthmunsta profile image


      5 years ago

      Every baby is different, girl or boy. Some babies are just more demanding than others. Most people say girls are easier to raise, but that's not always the case. Great hub!

    • las81071 profile image


      5 years ago

      you are right girls surely are a challenge emotions and all

    • peachpurple profile image


      5 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      Very beautiful hub, I have one girl and one boy, my girl is easier to raise because she learns things faster, spoke earlier and is very active, my boy was a colic baby, temper tantrums and demanding, harder to raise compare to his elder sister, true to each baby has different character and behavior, no point comparing with other kids, every child is special to every mom, I can see from the way to cuddle your baby

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      Tirralan Watkins 

      5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Very interesting hub. I'm raising two boys so it's nice to compare and contrast. When my boys have playdates with their girl friends it's so fun to see them interact together. Great food for thought.

    • Kathryn Stratford profile image


      5 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      This is great information to read about. My brother has two little girls, ages 2 and 3, so he must be having tons of fun!

      I like all of the different aspects of the challenges of raising girls that you bring up. I don't have kids, but I can recall how it was when I was a kid, and I agree with you on every point! It has got to be challenging to raise a daughter. When she is older, you will have the added stress of having to beat the guys away with a stick (lol).

      Thanks for sharing this with us, and for showing those absolutely adorable pictures of your daughter. The ones with both of you in it are enduringly sweet.

      Have a wonderful night!

      Voted up and sharing.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I raised a boy all through it I told myself I had it easy compared to raising a girl. :) Great suggestions, tips and reflections here my friend and you are right...hold on tight because those days slip by much too quickly.


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