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The Horrors of Child Abuse

Updated on January 6, 2012

In May of 2011, I graduated with a degree in education from one of the state universities here in Ohio. Considering how the economy is right now, I was unable to find a teaching position. I worked steadily in the construction field for several months, but I have recently applied to start substitute teaching. Along with subbing comes a series of online classes. One such class focuses on child abuse.

Now, I have no personal experience with child abuse. I was raised in a home with extremely loving and caring parents. The worst thing that ever happened to me was getting spanked (every one of which I more than deserved). My parents would always use the classic line of “this hurts me more than it does you.” I failed to believe that when I was young, but looking back on it now, I can understand what they meant. I would never be able to harm a child, and if you read my piece on the Miracle of Children, you would know how I love kids. My only experience with child abuse comes from the psychology and education classes that covered the topic during my time in college.

As I started the online course, I was simply taking it like a class. I was absorbing the information just enough to be able to pass the test at the end. It took less than five minutes before my attitude entirely changed. I began actually contemplating what I was reading. It began to sink in. The mere thought of child abuse makes me sick. I cannot understand someone’s mindset who has the ability to hurt a child. How is a kid going to defend themself? How is it even fair? It’s not at all. Now, I’m not advocating violence when the fight would be fair either. I’m not truly a pacifist, but violence solves nothing. It takes a great deal of ignorance for any adult to hurt a child.

Child abuse comes in four common ways: physical, sexual, psychological, and neglect. With each type of abuse, the course covered what constitutes that form of abuse and what indicators to look for to be able to recognize its occurrence. With every word I read, the sinking feeling I got continued to worsen. The majority of child abuse is caused by the parents and occurs to children three-years-old and younger. This was shocking and sickening to me. Children that young are entirely innocent and harmless. They depend entirely on their parents to take care of every need, so for their parents to be the ones causing the abuse is utterly disgusting. Children who suffer from abuse can face lifelong consequences. Abused children are also more likely to be abusers later on in life. This is a vicious cycle. I don’t just want to spit a bunch of facts at you; I encourage you to take this information I have given as a form of motivation to further education yourself on the topic.

I realize this isn’t an easy topic to discuss. It is so foreign to me and not at all pleasant to think about. My plea to you is to do whatever you can to help prevent child abuse. Make that commitment to yourself that you would never harm a child. Don’t allow yourself to ignore it if you know of child abuse occurring. I can make the promise that I would never hurt a child, and I know it is my duty as an educator to look out for children. Kids are a gift. They are precious, little miracles for us to enjoy and nurture. They didn’t have the choice to be brought into the world, and they shouldn’t have the option to be loved or not. Children deserve your love and care.


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      Joel 6 years ago from Ohio

      @sunbun - Thank you for reading. It is definitely a horid thing to think about children having to face abuse. I understand exactly what you say when you talk about that sick feeling.

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      Joel 6 years ago from Ohio

      @Mekenzie - Thanks.

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      Joel, Thank you for writing on a very important topic. I too have been witness to child abuse and have gotten involved ... only to see that the system is very, very slow. Thankfully these little ones are now in safety and in counseling .. I pray their lives will not be so deeply damaged that they will not live fulfilled lives.


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      Joel 6 years ago from Ohio

      @Gypsy - Thanks.

      @Louis - I am so sorry to hear. I hope this hub will be shared and help inform other people in order to spread awareness. No one should have to be subject to abuse.

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      Louise Elcross 6 years ago from UK

      Being physically, sexually and emotionally abused by my parents from a young age, I feel I lost the ability to cope with life and my emotions. I was surrounded by the welfare services, NSPCC and the police and they all failed to see what I was going through. Now as an adult I struggle with severe depression still and I write about my experiences in the hope it will help others. Thanks for this hub has more people need to understand the long term effects of a child who has been abused.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 6 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Great hub! More people should be aware of child abuse and recognize the signs. It's the only way we can help the children who are being abused. Hopefully teachers everywhere are aware of what to look out for. Sometimes they are a child's only hope. Passing this one on.

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      Joel 6 years ago from Ohio

      @ruchi - people do need to be reaponsible, but responsibility is a word people don't like to hear.

      @cape - thanks. It is an absolutely horrid thought.

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      Ov Overo 6 years ago from Oklahoma

      It is very sad and a frustrating thought.. That children are Abuse day in day out.. I hope.. I just hope and pray that this children find a place in their heart to forgive. Honestly, the thought is unbearable.

      It's a great Hub

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      Ruchi Urvashi 6 years ago from Singapore

      I agree child abuse is very hard on the child. I feel that each one of us need to take responsibility to love our children and stop child abuse.

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      Joel 6 years ago from Ohio

      @annart - Thanks.

      @Laura - I understand your frustration. I know of cases where the abuse was ignored for far too long. However, luckily the area I live in has very quick response and doesn't wait around to investigate. Just because you feel like the system is broken does not mean you should give up hope. We need to be persistent because these kids need someone to be the voice for them.

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      Laura Matkin 6 years ago

      I want to know WHY it takes several years and numerous trips to an abusers house before DHR will act!! The system is broken! A little girl I know was raped twice in 3 years by guests at her Mothers house before DHR finally got up the stuff to take her and her sister out there. Meantime her Mother smoked crack, meth etc and neglected the kids for years. DHR was called by neighbors and the school it wasn't until the police were called for the umpteenth time that the kids were removed from that house(it's been 1&1/2 years since they were taken out of there). Being aware seems useless if the system is broken.

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      Ann Carr 6 years ago from SW England

      Anything which brings more information about this issue to the general public is brilliant. Some people don't realise how extreme and how widespread it is. Well done you. Voted up

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      Joel 6 years ago from Ohio

      @Allana - I agree that it needs more attention. I'm just trying to inform people and help them realize the issues that exist.

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      Allana Calhoun 6 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

      A very sad thing indeed. Good job bringing it to light as it definitely needs more attention. Not just the physical and sexual incidents that make the news, but the verbal and psychological abuse that occurs in far more homes than people realize.