ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

The Importance of Time Outs

Updated on June 17, 2017

My two year old

Timeout is the single, most useful tool that I have as a parent of 2 toddlers. It is my solution to most bad behavior, and it works successfully most of the time. Timeout helps me to get control of a situation, as well as give me time to process what is going on without going off the handle.

I use timeout the most with my 2 year old. She is my oldest, and understands the concept. I have been practicing timeout with her for about one year, starting when she was 18 months. My 1 year old has yet to experience this particular adventure, as he has not done anything deliberately to deserve it. The determining factor of when to use timeout depends on the temperament, as well as the attitude of the parent. If the parent feels as though the child is deliberately not listening, or is doing the same behavior over and over and trying to make sure they are not going to be caught, it is a good idea to consider this form of discipline.

The key to making it successful was to be consistent. I always give a count to three, which is enough to stop the behavior. If I get to three, then the toddler know it is time for her to go to timeout, and will often walk over there by herself. If she doesn't, I give her another count, in which she will lose the privilege to walk over there. She likes to be independent, so when I pick her up to sit her down, she loses that independence and realizes that she has to face the discipline whether she wants to or not.

There are very few exceptions to this rule. I will automatically put her in timeout after I remind her once that it isn't nice to push her brother. In other words, she pushes her brother once, she gets a one. The second time, she gets a time out, no counting at all. I will make her sit there, then apologize to her brother for the push. This becomes consistent, and has decreased the amount of times she pushes her brother when I am there.

If I am not there, it is a different story, and she will test boundaries to see what she can get away with. It is important that anyone that gives care to your child knows the ground rules you have established. This helps to prevent rebellion, and whirlwind children. My toddler will still see what she can get away with, but when she finds out timeout still exists, she will usually behave.

Timeout is an incredibly effective tool to disciplining children. If used consistently, you are able to curb the bad behavior easily. It may take a little work, but with some follow through, you will be on your way to well behaved children.

Comments

Submit a Comment

  • leahlefler profile image

    Leah Lefler 

    7 years ago from Western New York

    I had a good chuckle with this one: Timeout is a staple in our house! Our boys are 3 and 5, so we find it quite useful. My older boy now has other consequences (as in, repairing damage done to a broken toy or cleaning up after his tantrum). With time outs, natural consequences, and consistency, we have a calm household (most of the time, anyway)!

  • Truckstop Sally profile image

    Truckstop Sally 

    7 years ago

    Great hub! Parenting IS challenging. Timeout is good for the adult too. Gives him/her a moment to take a deep breath . . . count to 10 . . .

working

This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)