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Part 2: The Long Term Effects Of Alcoholism
Alcoholism, it's a family disease
It's a family disease
The effects of alcoholism is long term. The effects are devastating. There is little hope while living with an active drinker because they themselves have little hope. Their minds and emotions become altered and unpredictable and what can seem trivial to us can set off a time bomb in the mind set of an alcholic.
Alcoholism is a brutal disease. It shows no mercy, race, creed or color. You could be the President of the United States and still become an alcoholic. Some Alcoholic's use the fact that because they work in a high field it's not possible to become an alcoholic. This is called denial.
Alcoholism is a killer. It not only can kill you but it can destroy everyone in it's path. Alcohol destroys familys by way of the emotions the alcoholic displays. Here is a list of traits the alcoholic carries as an active drinker.
They are abusers
They are accusers
They are blamers
They are mistrustful
They are disrespectful
They are demeaning
They are selfish
They are jealous
They are condesending
They are demanding
They demand attention
They use foul language
Thet are rude and they boast
They create fear and isolation
They attack and can cause mental and physical harm
They live in self pity
They are angry at the world
They take risks with their lives and the lives of those around them
They are not concerned for the welfare of others
They are manipulators
They except no responsibility for their actions
They are unpredictable
They are violent
They are out of control
They flirt with the opposite sex
They are in denial
This is a very dangerous person to be around. They carry every emotion that is detremental to one's well being and the well being of others. You literally live in fear for your life and the lives of your children. They would sell out their best friend for a drink. The drink has become their god. You cannot live with an active alcoholic and not be effected by it.
Children of Alcoholic's
Children too are effected by this disease. Children absorb what they are exposed to. As they grow older they don't see their futures as hopeful or fullfilling or rewarding. Their lives have become unmanageable because they have been effected by all the traits I have mentioned above. They now exibit these traits and carry them over into their relationships. Now their husbands or wives and their children now live with this disease and on and on it goes until someone breaks the cycle of abuse.
Here is a list of the some of the ways children are effected by alcoholism.
As I mentioned, their relationships are effected
They experiance depression and anxiety
Their emotions are effected
Their self worth
Their stability is effected
They have love and trust issues
Their bounderies have been effected
They become co-dependant
Their motivation has been effected
Their values have been compromized
Their perception, in how they perceive things has been effected
Their sexual desire has been effected
Every aspect of their lives has been effected.
No one should have to live with alcoholism. The effects are devastating and they can last a lifetime. If you are an active drinker and you exibit these traits, there is hope. Hope for you and your family. Do something before it's too late. Don't let your children grow up and not have a chance at real happiness. I was effected by alcoholism as a child and I know what it can do to you.
I am so thankful today for the healing I have recieved through Alanon (which is a program for family's of alcoholics) and the help from God so I can share my experiance with you.
Please do something for your children and their children before it's too late. Stop drinking and start healing. Your children need you to be strong. They need your love and guidance. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for them. One day at a time. Get involved in AA today. They will be so proud of you! They nor you have to live with this disease. There is hope but the hope has to start with you. Love your children enough to do this. The rewards are endless!!!