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Life : Having a Child Gave it Meaning

Updated on September 5, 2012

and Baby Makes 3

the addition of a baby is life changing
the addition of a baby is life changing | Source

Life Changing

When I grew up and hadn't met the man I was going to fall in love with, marry, have kids and spend the rest of my life with, I threw myself into my career. I was in my 20's, driven, determined and a powerhouse. I was going to be the best in my field and that's all there was to it. I worked in TV and thought it was the most important thing I could be doing with my life. My job was important; it gave my life meaning.

Well was I wrong.

It wasn't until I gave birth several years later at the age of 40 that I got it. That day my life, it's direction, path and understanding of the importance of the future, took on a new meaning. My life changed direction and I embraced it. My life now had meaning that mattered; I was responsible for another human life and it fulfilled me ... and helped me really grow up.


I had no idea of the impact that would follow and never go away.

The responsibility that comes with having a child is life changing. The selflessness that I have learned has impacted my life in every area, and everyone has benefited. Thinking about yourself first is no longer an option that exists once you have a child.

Learning to work together for the good of another human life is an incredibly powerful lesson. Putting my needs aside has become common place and I don't resent it.

I have loved the ages and stages that I have been honoured to watch and help my child grow through; it has given my life meaning beyond anything I could have imagined.

Life Lessons

sleeping beauty
sleeping beauty | Source


We changed our path. We decided being parents was the priority in our world. I stopped working full time in my field and became a full time mom; the best job in the world.

Leaving a salary behind and changing our focus was a big decision for us, but not a hard one. It definitely impacted our lives and changed our direction, but life is about change and making those changes work within your life to improve and enhance it, and we embraced those changes. We have taken the opportunities presented to us and swung with them.

Living with less money has taught us the value of each other. Instead of wasting money on stuff we don't need, we spend time together. We play, have fun, talk, plan, dream and move forward on crazy paths that lead us down roads we would have never considered without a having a child.

We have changed cities, housing situations, schools, we've swung with life and made it work our way. My husband has taken full time work, which coming from a freelance background was a huge sacrifice; he changed in his life path, and he did it happily.

Having a child has given us courage we didn't have before. We have weathered storms we had no idea were brewing, successfully, over and over again; it has taught us we are resilient.

a beautiful version of "Love You Forever" a book by Robert Munsch

Still Learning

Life's unexpected surprises seem to have more impact and are scarier when you involve children. I have learned to be a mother bear, and I'm good at it.

I have learned to stand up and speak out when something isn't right, not to back down and let bad things happen. My ability to assess situations, gather information and communicate more clearly have been sharpened as a result of being a parent.

As I entered a world that involves everyone wanting the best for their children, I have learned to listen first, very carefully. I have learned to take everyone into consideration and am still learning how to translate everyone's needs into child-speak. Yes, I am still learning.

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We are the Teachers

The responsibility of teaching our child to be kind, considerate, caring, responsible, selfless and thoughtful is one we have taken very seriously.

The amazing gift our child has given us has been in re-recognizing the value system we place on life. Teaching this tiny human being on a daily basis the difference between right and wrong has been like looking into a mirror and readjusting the way we look ... at life itself.

Are we practicing what we preach? Are we modeling the behaviour we want to be reflected to the world through our child?

It has forced us to be responsible for our own thoughts and actions in a way that is good for the world in the bigger picture. It has created discussion in our lives that wouldn't take place if our actions weren't influencing the future population of the world and I love that.

Questioning ourselves about our attitudes, priorities, motivations and value system is incredibly rewarding and has promoted personal growth beyond anything I could have ever imagined. We have learned to communicate with each other in ways that are not hurtful but truthful, and not in anger but in love.

the Circle of Life

Having a child has given more meaning to my life than anything I have ever done, any experience I have ever had, any dream I have ever fulfilled.

My heart breaks for those who can't experience what I have through my child and I know many are heartbroken. It takes a world to raise a child, all of us, so we are all an influence in the lives of the children we encounter...

Consider this.

Every child you see is a blank canvass. Some of what we put on that canvass will stay forever in bright vibrant colours and some will fade away, blend in with time and become part of the colour scheme that makes up the emotional clothing these little people wear as that become adults; forever.

When you have the opportunity to connect with children on any level, will you give that child a colour that they want to keep and hold onto, pass around and share like a special new exciting toy or will you leave them with colours they spend their time trying to hide and scrub off their canvass because it clashes with the beautiful colours already blending inside their soul swirling around and creating a magical being who has nothing but potential to change the world for the better?

Children give life meaning for all of us.

They are special gifts waiting to be loved, taught, shared and filled with wonderment by everyone they encounter. They bring smiles, questions, challenges, laughter and the simplicity of life that we all too often forget about. Children can ground anyone and are good for everyone, they give life value.

Children can bring meaning to all of us if we let them, will you?

© 2011 eye say

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    • eye say profile imageAUTHOR

      eye say 

      6 years ago from Canada

      @ Rachel; me too. I cried when I downloaded it, this video is a really good version, it has inspired me to make one highlighting or "ghosting" my child in the background like he did...

      I gave that book to my mom when she was terribly ill in the hospital, I read it to her often and now it is tucked in beside her bedside table at home.

      The circle of life is anamzing thing!

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      6 years ago

      Voted Up!! It has been 8 years since I first found and read that book to one of my children, I still cry every time I read it.

    • eye say profile imageAUTHOR

      eye say 

      6 years ago from Canada

      @Cre8tor: it sounds like you have embraced your world like I do, and your son will be back to you because you've spent your life loving and guiding him; happy for the adventures ahead for all of you and thanks so much for sharing.

      Glad you found it a good read!

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      Dan Robbins 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      Eye Say, I say I agree. My 3 sons are the center of my world. I am now dealing with my oldest talking of college and future plans...I couldn't be more excited for him...but I feel as if I'm losing my best friend. I know that's cliché and do know better that it's the circle of life but now I hold on to each day tighter than the last. I wasn't sure that was even possible.

      Beautiful, awesome, useful, voted up!


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