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The Terrible Twos--How to Survive Them

Updated on November 4, 2012
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Janine is a published author in Only Trollops Shave Above the Knees, appears on The Huffington Post and at Confessions of A Mommyaholic.

This is not Lily, but this kid looks so much like her, it kind of frightened me!!
This is not Lily, but this kid looks so much like her, it kind of frightened me!! | Source

"I am stomping my feet!!" Yes this was my almost 2 year old (Lily) screaming in the middle of a temper tantrum. She apparently was upset that I was not allowing her to stay on my bed, which happens to be far way off from the floor if she were to fall. So she stood in the doorway to the bathroom while I was now brushing my teeth and proceeded to tell me the first phrase of this article. Now to be honest my first reaction was to laugh, because coming out of her little mouth it was kind of funny, but she was definitely angry, frustrated and in the middle of having a temper tantrum.

I have heard from the masses that the "terrible twos" are rearing their ugly head here. By the way she was my calm, mellow baby/infant and now that she is a toddler she seems to have more of what I call these "beastly moments"! And I do think those in the know are onto something with the "terrible twos". But how do you go from the "terrible twos" to the "terrific threes". Yes I came up with that one myself, but seriously after all the tantrums, screaming and crying, one can dream can't they??

Well, first off I have a three year old now too (yes my girls are 16 months apart and I am the mom of Irish Twins) and can tell you that something definitely does happen between the years two and three to make your toddler emotionally grow just a bit. A three year old has what I like to call the capacity to use a bit more of reasoning than a two year old (just a bit!). A year at this age does make a huge difference in my experience.

So how does one handle these temper tantrums (for the child and for yourself too) while they are indeed occurring. Stay tuned, because I am going to share some of my wisdom with you (Ok, I don't mean to sound like I know it all (believe me I don't), but having two in this age group and being a stay at home mom gives me a bit of edge on this.

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1. Time Outs

I correspond the amount of time that a time out lasts by how old the child is. Meaning my 2 year old (Lily) would sit in a time out for 2 minutes. Yes, that would mean my 3 year old, Emma would sit for 3 minutes. It is seriously that straight forward and that simple. Kids at this age don't have a long attention span so you don't have to drag out the time out just make them sit long enough to get the concept that they did something wrong and use it as a cool down period.


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2. Make Them Learn to Say Sorry

Trust me this is so important. They are never too young to learn this lesson. Kids at this age are wired not to want to say this, but if you ingrain this in them when they are young enough, you have half a shot of getting them to learn to say it and mean it hopefully. You can get them to do this while they are sitting in the time out (trust me it makes that time go a bit quicker for them). Both my girls have said, "I'm sorry" from the time they both started to learn to talk.


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3. Let Them Know the Behavior Is Not Acceptable

I also do this during the time out. I simply explain exactly what they did was wrong and if they do it again I will put them back in a time out. After Lily threw that recent temper tantrum, I did just this and she hasn't repeated her phrase about stomping her little feet again in the last few days. So I would say this was a success. Trust me it doesn't mean she won't throw another temper tantrum ever, but at least she won't be saying, "I am stomping my feet" again. Once again the time out isn't long and drawn out, because we are doing something constructive during it.

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4. Have a Sense of Humor/Put the Behavior in Proper Perspective

Ok, so this one is more for the parent, but seriously with little kids this is so important and key. I have to tell you that as much as what Lily did was wrong, as I said earlier I couldn't help but want to laugh. Of course I wouldn't laugh or let her think I thought it was funny to her face. Still she was as I put it being a beast, but this little voice saying "I am stomping my feet" was just slightly amusing. So sometimes I have to put the bad behavior in proper perspective and see that she is only two years old and was showing her frustrations about being told no. I mean at this age she does get told no more times than not pretty much for her own good, but she doesn't get that at 2 years old. Again this goes back to being able to reason and be logical. Again at this age, she and most kids are not either of these things. So even though the behavior was wrong and inappropriate, I can see where she was coming from. So I try to pick my battles with my kids, because again if you were told no all the time, you too would probably get frustrated and yell or scream too!!

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5. Realize that 2 Years Old Only Lasts for One Year

Yet another one more for the parents, but if all else fails remember this! I have been told again on more than one occasion that they are only this small and this age for so long. So as a stay at home mom, when things do get out of hand a bit and temper tantrums do occur, I tell myself this over and over. I have to say that it usually does work, because I look at them and remember they are still my babies and how much I love them, even if they are being "little beasts!" Usually my girls are a pleasure, but for those moments when they are not this is what is important by remembering that before I know it they will be all grown up and I will be wanting these days back. And even sooner and before I know it Lily will be three and the "terrible twos" will be a thing of the past and behind me.


Summing It Up...

By the way for every "beastly" behavior, temper tantrums included there are about 10 adorable and cute things that they do that makes me just melt, because quite simply they are mine. Like about 10 minutes after Lily's temper tantrum was over, my girls were watching Nick Jr's Fresh Beat Band, when a commercial for Barbie's new video came on the TV. Lily ran to the TV screaming in delight, "Barbie, I love you!" No joke I can't make this stuff up and these are the times that make it all worth it!!

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      Thanks again VVanNess and will say I am watching my 4 year old beginning to now turn into a more logical and reasonable child, too. Interesting to see it happen right before our very eyes!

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      Victoria Van Ness 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

      I love it! This definitely makes me feel better about all of the "terrible twos" that I babysit for. Just recently the strong but silent, sweet toddler that I've always watched has turned into the incredible hulk. Whereas his ornery older sister has gone from being the Nightmare on Elm Street to a logical, reasonable child. WEIRD!

      This article was very helpful! Thank you!! Voted up!

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Oh so true Linda and am learning this the hard way as I go along with my girls for sure!!! :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I think there should also be the terrible threes and feisty fours and fives. The silly sixs and sevens. The list goes on.... :)

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Lol, that photo seriously looked so much like my Lily it was scary and she sometimes makes the same face, too. so, I had to include it here. And sounds like you too have had your hands full with the little girl you babysit. Too bad we didn't live closer, because it also sounds like Lily and this little girl would get along famously!! Thanks so much Nell for your kind words and share, too!!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Being a babysitter once again this did make me smile! and yes the photo at the top looks like my 'babysitting girl' too! she is half Scottish and bright red hair! she has just got into that stage, and the one thing that makes me laugh so much is the 'look'! she will just stare at me, frown, you can see the thoughts going on, then out comes the yell! its not so bad just yet with her doing it, but I am waiting...lol! voted up and shared, nell

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Anna, thank you for sharing this story here and I couldn't help, but smile reading this. Totally reminds me of my own kids and love some of the stuff they come out with for sure!! My pleasure sharing this Hub with you and thanks again!! :)

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      Anna Evanswood 4 years ago from Malaysia

      Kids are funny:) My 2 year old was pulling the cats tail today... which she was told not to do. This evening when her dad asked her what she did today she said. That she scared the cat... he asked why and she said She squeezed the cats tail. As she said this she squeezed her hands together tightly and said " So strong". We had to stop ourselves from laughing... and reiterate the no pulling the cats tail spiel! Thanks for you hub of hope :)

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Thank you so very much!!!

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      manatita44 4 years ago from london

      Good article on bringing up children. Good on ya!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Thanks Lovedoctor926 and can tell you Lily was sleeping in my bed for months on end and finally one night my husband put her in her toddler bed, laid next to her on the floor until she fell asleep and that was it, she slept all night there and every night since. So there is hope, I swear!!

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Lily is beautiful... Thank you for these great tips. I'm going to have my brother read this hub. My nephew is two and a half and has decided that he doesn't want to sleep in his crib anymore. So my sister in law turned his crib into a bed and he doesn't want to sleep there either. My brother is not very happy that the baby has to sleep in the same bed with them. Lol.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Thanks seriously for reading and commenting Ddraigcoch. Your feed back as another mother of small kids means the world to me, because it is nice to talk to others who can truly relate!!

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      Emma 5 years ago from UK

      My children are stubborn and learn lessons the hardest way. They have to be in trouble every day for months before they grow out of a behaviour.

      All I can hope for is that the rules and discipline will make them better people because as kids it doesn't feel like it makes an inkling of difference, what ever I do. Voted up and useful as there are great nuggets of info here.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Linda, thank you, thank you for your birthday wishes. She had a wonderful day and crashed early, what more could a mom ask for? :) :)

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Oh thanks so very much Christy and trust me I am just human and make a ton of mistakes all the time, but thanks for your vote of confidence. Means the world to me. Thanks also for the votes up and share, too!!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Richard, thank you so very much for your detailed comment. I know the issue of spanking in this day and age is controversial, but I do agree that if it is necessary and warranted, but not excessive or to hurt. If I have given one to either of my girls it is quick and usually more like a tap then a smack. But even yesterday when Emma was being an absolute beast when we had company over, I threatened to spank, but didn't have to when I placed her in a time out in her bed. Once she had calmed down, she said sorry, gave me a kiss and joined the other kids again, onceI of course di the lecture bit explaining why she was in trouble again. Thank you again and as always great advice from you my friend :) :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Happy 2nd Birthday to Lily Ann! :)

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Great tips for parents here Janine and I bet you are a terrific mom! Voting up and sharing too

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      Rich 5 years ago from Kentucky

      Janine - Just read this again and had to laugh! It's a great hub, but I know Hell hath no fury ..... Anyway, one thing I always did was the 1-2-3 deal, and then the spanking. Never out of anger, of course (if I couldn't control myself how could I expect a kid to control themselves) but first, with a 20 minute lecture about why the spanking was coming and what it was all about, then a designated number of whacks to the tail, then, a 20 minute lecture on what they could do in the future not to get another spanking. To this day, my girls swear the worst part of it all was the lectures. But, I only had to give maybe three or four spankings the entire time they were growing up! Just a thought! Again, Great hub!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Pstraubie48, I just saw your comment and thank you so very much. So happy to hear that your family has been blessed with your youngest grandson and sounds like he is real doll. I happen to have two wonderful little girls, but they have tempers. Even on the best of days, my girls have their moments. That said, you are so right and can't help, but have to try to laugh as much as I can, because otherwise I may just go quite mad!! Thank you so seriously for your wonderful comments and for your votes, too!!

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      Patricia Scott 5 years ago from sunny Florida

      Good evening. I smiled all the way through this. I have seen some terrible two behavior in my time as my sisters had little children who all went through it to a degree.

      My youngest grandson is almost two and a half now and we have been blessed. He has had displayed so little of the TT behavior that we have hardly noticed it at all. Now that is not to say that he does not have his moments. But he recovers so quickly. A quick diversion and he has forgotten whatever it was that was the source of his frustration or discord and is off to something else.

      Now I must repeat it: we are blessed and I am thankful. Your advice is so well thought out. the one I like the best is #4 ...that sense of humor will save you every time. A smile and a laugh clears the air and diffuses the situation. Voted up and useful and interesting. :) ps

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Dana, I can't thank you enough for sharing this one with your friend and I too had my two 16 months apart, so can very much relate to your fried's kids' age difference. That said I am so happy share and realize that everyone does things slightly different with their own kids, but hope that I can just share and help a bitt. Thank you so much again :)

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      Dana Strang 5 years ago from Ohio

      Wonderful for you to share this. I don' have children, but betewwn younger cousins and siblings and my niece and nephew, I feel like I have raised a few. It is all about finding what works and what is going to mold them into a good and funtioning person. So good of you to share what works for you because it could be a Godsend to so many mommies.

      My friend has an 18 month old (one of those brilliantly advance girls that never sits down!) and a newborn. I am going to share this with her. I have been helping her out (they call me nanny d) and I can tell you the terrible twos have arrived in full force. such a wonderful dynamic time :p

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Nell, thank you for sharing your experiences with your son and the terrible twos. I was hoping when I wrote this that others could relate past and present, so thank you for letting me know I am not alone here. Thanks also for the votes and share too :) :)

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi Janine, oh I remember it well! lol! my son used to go stiff! I could pick him up with one hand he was like a block of wood! his face went bright red, he yelled he hollered! so this is great info for all those about to go through the terrible twos! voted up and shared! nell

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Ruchira, I will be happy to say I am past this stage too!! I will miss them being this little though, but the screaming and crying oh how I could live without. That said I am glad you stopped by, read and commented too, thank you :) :)

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      boy...I am glad I am over that phase. Although, it lasts only a year but it was tormenting and I had to repeatedly talk to my self to calm down...lol

      interesting hub, Janine!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Kelly, glad I am not alone here and that others have gone like yourself have gone through this too. I can't tell you how many times a day I hear one or both of my kids whine and the temper tantrums truly are the worst, but also glad to know that others use similar tactics as I do to get past them Thank you and I hear you about going back to work, lol!! :)

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      Kelly Umphenour 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Ok so we have lots of the same approaches! I really love your advice. It is amazing how long two minutes is to a 2 year old! That's a great time out....and I thought it was super effective for me.

      I also loved how you mention what I call "mom tunnel vision." I had to remind myself that during frustrating times it was so transient. The temper tantrum stage, the no period. I swear some days I felt like the 2 year old....I couldn't wait to go back to work so I could get a break:) hahahaha

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Jackie, your daughter sounds like a typical teenage girl. I too had those moments as a teen and was just a beast at times. I swear she will grow out of it and will be no worse for the wear. I am living proof of this. Thank you for stopping by and sharing too!!

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      Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

      My two babies were never terrible til teens but my daughter would have a smart mouth now and then but that was usually with her grandparents who liked her brother best and she knew it. They were keeping them overnight once and she kept throwing her candy papers in the floor and they told her she couldn't come back if she did that and she told them she didn't want to be there anyways!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Alecia, very true about 2 years old being a hard age and trying to keep them still. My Lily is constantly in motion and think she truly is my workout for the day, because I never sit still taking care of her! Thank you seriously for your comment and for your kindness too!!

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      Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      I don't have kids but I've been a babysitter. And I know for a fact- two is one of the most dreadful ages you can experience. But I didn't have as much trouble with discipline as I did with keeping them still. By the time kids are two they can walk and talk to the point it's overwhelming, but like you said it's only one year which is far from forever. Very helpful hub!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Julie, your daughter sounds more like my first, Emma was, but Lily just seems to be more of a spitfire and you are right too about putting it all in perspective, because truly they will only be this little and small for such a short time. So I am trying to enjoy as much of it as I can. Thank you sharing your experience with your daughter though, because it always helps to get others thoughts on stuff like this.

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      Jools99 5 years ago from North-East UK

      Janine, we've all been there but don't worry, Lily will tun out just fine becuase you already have things in hand. I was lucky with my daughter because she didn't do tantrums but instead was relentless about things if she wanted something - she went on and on and on.....and on and on and on....you get the point? Your point about putting it all in perspective is very important. Drives you nuts but you laugh about it later on (once they're asleep -thank gawd!).

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Kelleyward, thank your for your comment. It seems to a pretty universal concept if you have kids and those like us who are going through it as we speak can definitely relate it would seem. I am glad though that I am not alone on this though and thank you for sharing about your little boy too, ad well as for the votes and share :)

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      Wow! All the comments here keep you busy. I can see why. This is a fantastic hub. I have a son who is 2 and a half and he is definitely going through the terrible twos right now. But like you said, he also makes me laugh a lot. I'm never sure what the day is going to entail with him. Voted up and shared! Kelley

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Kai0224liu, thank you for giving a "beautiful" in votes and for your kind words about Lily. I will take a look at your article momentarily :)

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Michelle, I do try, but believe everyone has their moments and I am not perfect, but after so many outbursts you are forced to learn what works and what doesn't. Emma did thankfully outgrown the terrible twos, but still have 1 year to go with Lily. Thank you seriously for your constant support and share too!!

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      kaikai 5 years ago from TX

      I gave u a "beautiful", she is so cute, when she is older, you might need to gve her a doll, maybe u can read this article of mine. https://hubpages.com/travel/American-Girl-Doll-in-...

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      Michelle Liew 5 years ago from Singapore

      Great, Janine! Firmness with compassion...you're a great mum. May Emma and Lily outgrow the terrible twos and threes quickly! Shared.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Julie, I am with you on wishing many days that I could have magically skipped the years of 1 to 4, because so very true about 2 and 3 being difficult years. Thank you for giving me something to look forward to and for your lovely comment here!!

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      Blurter of Indiscretions 5 years ago from Clinton CT

      Great tips here. Sometimes I wished I could magically jump from 1 to four. The 2's and 3's can be brutal. Good job!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Mary, it is so true parents and grandparents see this age differently and am sure someday as a grandparent I will too. I will definitely have to check out your article about the "Terrific Twos". Thank you for your kind words about Lily and my article too, as well as your votes!!

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      There were times I thought the terrible twos were a permanent condition! My four are fairly spaced but temper tantrums seemed to run on for quite a while. I love that you pick your battles...always a good idea.

      Lily is adorable and I have a feeling your personality and hers are a joy to watch! Being a Grandma I view things differently, as most Grandmas do...I even wrote abou the Terrific Twos!

      You've given some good solutions here and made this an all around enjoyable hub.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Thank you so much Eddy and lately I am trying my hand at turning some of the craziness at my home into more positives by doing just that and writing about them whether on Hubpages or my blog. I figure others who have or had kids can totally relate!! Thank you for also sharing my article with your family very much appreciated. Hope you too are enjoying your day :)

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      What a wonderful hub Janine ;you turned those temper tantrums into positives by writing and sharing this read.

      I am sharing this one with my family.

      Great work and enjoy your day.

      Eddy.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Mama Kim 8, you just described my 3 year old more than my 2 year old. My 3 year old had here moments, but was definitely more sensitive at times, whereas my 2 year old is a ball of fire. I agree that getting them to say sorry at this age is a definite help and does work wonders. Thank you for the lovely comment, votes and pin too!!

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      Sasha Kim 5 years ago

      My son just now turned 3 ^_^ I have never seen him angry- but he is so sensitive you can barely raise your voice and he'll break down in tears ^_^ The biggest thing that worked for us was getting him to say sorry. It was like a link back to earth... he'd choke out a sorry and then slowly calm down. Love this hub Janine ^_^ voted and pinned.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Glimmer Twin Fan, you are not giving me hope for what is in store for me, lol!! Seriously, thank you for stopping by and for your lovely compliment on my suggestions and dividers too!!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 5 years ago

      My daughter is 9 and I still have to roll out some of these suggestions! Great suggestions. Loving your cool dividers too.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Dianna, I can imagine not many people wanting to deal with the 2 year old room for the obvious reasons, but do have to agree with your comment that they are very loving indeed and do seem to learn very quickly. Lily truly learns something new everyday and is constantly amazing me with all she does seem to get--she truly is on the ball! Thank you for comment and votes too!!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Rosemay50, I couldn't agree more about "The Terrible Teens," because I truly was a terrible teen. I have apologized profusely to my parents for having been such a pain in the you know what, but still did go through that stage, so I am sure I will be dealing with it with my girls eventually too and will not get away scott free!! Thank you seriously for stopping by and for commenting too!!!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      When I was a child care director, the hardest spot to fill was the two's room. It took a teacher who loved kids and had lots of patience. Love the age though because they are so loving and learn quickly. Great post and voted up for the quality content!

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      Rosemary Sadler 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      You are so right that the adorable things they do and say far outway those tantrums. Your girls will do fine, teaching them to say sorry at an early age is a good grounding for them as they grow.

      My son is now 38 but I still remember those 'terrible twos'. My daughter somehow missed that stage thenkfully.

      Now when you are past the terrible twos all you need to do is sit back and wait for the second wave... oh yes there is one 'The terrible teens' Lol

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Rema, I think it gets less in time how we may not forget, but definitely not remember it as intensely this time once our kids gets further from it just the way it goes. But as for grandkids, I have been told it is a bit different, because you are not the disciplinarian and can sit back and enjoy a bit more if that makes sense. I wouldn't know though yet from my own experiences, because I am a mom, not a grandmother. Thank you though for saying that Lily is beautiful and for sharing my article too!!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Wow, those are ages I look forward, but not to quickly. Like I said even though things can get crazy with my little ones, I do want to enjoy this time before it slips through my hands and is gone forever. Loved how you joked about algebra though with my math background, I get it lol!! Thank you though for you kind comments bout my article and my daughters too!!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Bruce, your now 3 year old sounds like my Lily with crying as we put her in a timeout. Even my 3 year old was very similar to both yours and Lily and now has mellowed so much. So I do have hope!! Thank you seriously for your compliment on Lily, your kindness, votes and for sharing with your oldest child too!!

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      Rema T V 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Janine,

      I have almost forgotten how my children were at this stage, now I should watch my grand daughter to see how she behaves lol. Lovely hub once again. You write so well, it is so natural and sounds as though a family member was telling about her kids' behavior. Lily is beautiful. Sharing it as always.

      Cheers, Rema

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      Rich 5 years ago from Kentucky

      Janine -

      Just wait until they're 13 & 14, going on 21 & 22! You'll really have fun then! lol These, as you are well aware, are some of their most important learning years. No, I'm not talking algebra. I'm talking about learning the true meaning of life's lessons of which to base all else. Sounds like the foundation you're providing is a strong one!

      Great Job! How could anyone not like it (or the pictures of your daughters)! : )

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      Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

      First of all....Lily is a very beautiful child even in the pictures of her in timeout....lol. Our youngest of 6 kids just survived the terrible twos...as she just turned 3 a few months ago......timeouts and standing in the corner were two punishments that really got to her. Emily(my now 3 year old)...had a horrible habit of crying for the smallest reasons...so everytime she cried for no real reason....she would be sent to her room until she was quiet.....and the end it was kind of funny....she would start crying....get sent to her room....cry all the way into her room.....walk into her room.....and immediately stop crying and come back out.....granted the first few times she stayed in the room crying for awhile....but she did learn.

      Voted up, funny and very useful.......I will share with my oldest child who now has a child of his own.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Terrye, sorry to hear about your first husband, but then I guess that is why he was your first husband, maybe I should have published this one sooner, lol!! Seriously, thank for the laugh, the votes and more, totally appreciate it!!

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      My first husband never outgrew the terrible twos. I wonder if these would have worked on him... :) Great tips and advice, Janine! Voted up and more!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Phoebe, you do indeed sound lucky and thank you for sharing about your son here. I appreciate your very lovely words here about my article and suggestions too. I thank you for stopping by and for commenting too!!

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      Phoebe Pike 5 years ago

      I'm very lucky, my son is two and his tantrums are only when he has to come inside from playing. But you have written some awesome tips. My hat goes off to you.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Fpherj48, thank you so much for your compliment on my article, my daughter and me too. I can begin to tell you what that means to me and do hope someday to be a grandma too and do like you. Thank you seriously for your kindness here and your votes too :)

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Janine......what a sweet, patient and thoughtful Mama you are. Your girls will be just fine. After what I just read, they're in very good hands and are learning all the right things in the best way......That age melts my heart, all the time...but, I'm a Grandma......I can do and say and think ANYTHING I CHOOSE.... That's the RULE in our family!

      Your Lily is soooo precious, I wanted to squeeze her to pieces. Little doll! Bless your heart, Mommy... You're the best! Up +++

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Mary, seriously I love my girls, but some days patience truly is a virtue around here. Thank you though for your comment and kind words, plus votes too! I do appreciate it :)

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      Your Lily is just so beautiful. I'm glad I don't have to live with a two year old anymore, it take the patience of Job.

      Great Hub, I voted it UP, etc.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Jenbeach21, I totally agree about having a sense of humor during these times, because otherwise you could drive yourself quite mad! Thanks for stopping by and commenting too!

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      jenbeach21 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I think having sense of humor is a real help in these situations!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Nmdonders, I was once one of those people who only heard of the "terrible twos" through others, but not so anymore. This is my second year in a row dealing with the "terrible twos" (having 2 girls 16 months apart). Thank you for saying you will pass this on to those in need and for your comments here, I do appreciate it!!

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      nmdonders 5 years ago

      I've never dealt with a 2 year old child of my own. I've had the pleasure of watching friend's children but for short periods of time. Seems like the terribles 2s are universl haha. I'll pass this along to those lucky parents. This was really well done.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Stephanie, wow that would have scared me too if one of my girls held their breath until passing out, but then again children do the darnedest things. Seriously, thank you for stopping by and for your lovely words here, as well as your votes and tweets. So very appreciated :)

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      Stephanie Henkel 5 years ago from USA

      Oh, how clearly I remember those terrible twos, even though they did happen a long time ago. My oldest son used to hold his breath when he was having a tantrum, and once he actually passed out. Scared the living stuffing out of me! Great article, and good pointers on how to handle tantrums. The best one is, remember that your child is only two...and all too soon will be grown! :) Voted up and tweeted!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Lily says "Hi" back at you Linda. Seriously, I will most likely be that grandparent too, because like I said as much as I had to discipline the original behavior that this article was written about, I just so wanted to laugh and really had to fight that urge. So someday, I will be that grandparent that will probably egg them on, but right now I guess it is my turn to be the mom and lay the law down when need be. Anyway, thank you as always so very appreciated :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      My grand twins will be two in January. They are already exhibiting their signs of independence. I think it's adorable. Their mom and dad don't. Grandparents have all the fun. My favorite twin is the aggressive one. I set a bad example at times. Yet it's so entertaining! Excellent hub! Hi Lily!:)

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Bill, I have a feeling I will sound like you about my kids some day in the future when they are grown and it is someone else's turn to go through this. Thank you though for your continued kindness and for just being you as always so appreciated :)

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Ignugent17, I wanted to leave others with the hope that I have that it will only last a year lol! No seriously, I know I am in it for the long haul with my girls, but that is the joy of being a mother. I just love them to pieces and it was my pleasure to share a bit more with all of the hub community. Thank you for the votes and more too!!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Joseph, Lily is my child that would indeed try to play with my husband's blu-ray player and think nothing of it when she broke it. She is so mischievous, but then flashes her little smile and laugh to see ow far she can push things!! Thank you very much for share, pin and tweet. Very much appreciated :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Been there, done that, and never want to return! :) Lily is a doll....she couldn't possibly have been terrible, could she? LOL We all experience this; my son was horrible, but I survived, as did he, and now I have the joy of sitting back and watching other young parents endure! There is a certain amount of sick satisfaction in that, Janine!

      Great hub with wonderful suggestions!

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      ignugent17 5 years ago

      Janine,

      I enjoyed reading your hub and I can almost see your daughter stomping infront of you. It is nice that you shared this to all the parents and give them some wonderful tips on how to deal with it. At the end you mentioned it will last only for a year. That is very cute and then you will deal with a 3 year old. It is funny and true.

      Voted up and more! :-)

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      This was so adorable, That lily looks so mature! LOL! I see you stopping the editing of this hub, because one of them wanted to mess up with the Blu-ray Ssytem, Been there done that. So cute, and your words are so wonderful to read. I'm like... my teacher is so patience! Lol! Thanks! Why are you blushing? Sharing, pinning, tweeting, and..what's left?