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How to achieve real sensible change in life

Updated on October 5, 2014

Revolutionary Change has arrived

Revolutions are happening on a global scale, but its not true change without the kids getting real help, true loving care from us parents and those in role playing positions in life. Why compromise family values to earn money, it isn't wise at all.
Revolutions are happening on a global scale, but its not true change without the kids getting real help, true loving care from us parents and those in role playing positions in life. Why compromise family values to earn money, it isn't wise at all. | Source

H.O.W. to do it (Real change)

If everyone of us decided to just take a break for a moment to sit back and really think about life. If anything is going to change in life as a whole its all of our children worldwide that need to be helped the most, and starting with changing our poor parenting skills and how we present roles to kids today.

I personally just don't see this HOW (Online movement on Facebook and started here on hubpages by Billybuc) thing making any effective changes for those stubborn and most resistant to change of any kind, unless parents unite in their efforts to change how they decide to raise their children, and the cycle of poor parenting is put to a swift end.

Now, this isn't to say that all parents have trouble or issues with how they raise their children, but most of our issues worldwide that a vast majority of us all are currently dealing with today and experiencing in societies, governments, and across all demographics purely derives from poor parenting overall on a true to life global scale. (NEO has landed! folks)

Truthfully speaking we all were children once, and the degradation of family values has occurred due to poor parenting over time as we merged deeper and deeper into artificial-ism, commercialism and a grave dependency on technology.

We can utilize technology to influence positive change


The children need guidance and positive roles to follow

Please if anything folks think about the aspect of setting the right role models for them to follow when it comes to all of our children worldwide. If the education system is failing them and have been since George Bush junior took office, "The buck needs to stop now".

We all need to work on our own families overall, improve them first before looking outside our doorsteps. Family should be paramount, then comes community, then society, then the world abroad if we can manage to positively influence other world nations. (Yes it can happen socially, but only if things are made universal through parenting and helping one another learn the right ways to discipline.)

This is the only way, because everything is designed to have a breakage point in our daily lives, the chains that link us all together. Whether it be our health going bad due to being misinformed of what we are consuming that could be potentially harmful (Processed foods), or falling victim to temptations of material aspects in life alone or sexual promiscuity, and for a great deal of youth today its peer pressure to do wrong or what have you.

Humanity can change

If we don't change our selfish ways today, then our children's, children will indeed suffer from all of our collective mistakes, and bad habits whether they want it to occur to them or not. (Its just how the revolving door of this life works, and is that universal law of the cosmos where we reap what we sew pretty much), but if we don't correct any of these social issues we all have, by correcting our youth of today. We are still doomed for inevitable failures as we all are bearing witness to today. As they say history shall repeat itself.

Now, if in fact no one chose to read or to take this very articles theme seriously, it's quite OK with this author, because its been turned into a timeless evergreen article, and so that such a point can be driven home and all across the world wide web and shall be here as long as this network is alive and fully functional. (Below is a Pearl of wisdom to all the H.O.W. content being shared on Pearltrees, feel free to test drive that bad boy)

Some people worship to achieve true life altering changes

This sort of change takes time and demands a belief system and consistency of living by spiritual guidelines of a more peaceful purpose in life, which is purely divine in nature and it doesn't matter the religion as long as it is 100% positive
This sort of change takes time and demands a belief system and consistency of living by spiritual guidelines of a more peaceful purpose in life, which is purely divine in nature and it doesn't matter the religion as long as it is 100% positive | Source

This cool dude below got it all started and tells it like it is

Our families really need to change

These issues need to be handled on the family level, if none are addressed this all will back fire in the end. I write this because I believe in humanity, but only if we adhere to family first will anything ever truly change.

Writing so many millions of words or making 1000's of videos about it all or whatever we come up with to try and awaken minds, and hearts cannot help if our children remain brain washed by commercial society.

Meditation can help, research all about it to achieve spiritual balance, and for peace to extend outwards to all who need it

Let the spirit dance freely


Books on spirituality for parents and parenting

Spirituality needs changing

I believe humanity can change for the better, but when we get there someday in the unforeseen future, please promise me that we will all do our hardest to play fair, and to truly care for the likes of all species on this planet and not just humans. (Universal compassion is required for universal change on a global scale)

If anything is to occur in us human beings, we need to believe that change comes from within, inside that of our human spirit, and extends outwardly to that of the physical world. This is why religions of this world exist, and why many of them are currently battling it out for the most part.

These spiritual leaders all know that for anything to change in the hearts and minds of humanity, it shall take a divine instrument to do so, and that of the human spirit is paramount. So in order for any human being to begin doing anything, connecting spiritually by ones belief system is the only sure way to make effective changes stick and remain constant.

Starting with family is the master key, with faith based beliefs is another, and how we train our children is the ultimate life changing tool. A good example of this is when it comes to using education, leading by example, teaching them appreciation, self love, consistency of responsibility, accountability, follow through, and so many other great morals of a productive causality.

Love is at the core of it all

Providing tender loving care is essential for our children to grow up emotionally healthy, and stable minded
Providing tender loving care is essential for our children to grow up emotionally healthy, and stable minded | Source

Ideas on what to teach our youth of today?

  • Never to tell a lie.
  • Tell them to stop cursing, and don't do it around them.
  • To not cheat on themselves by rushing through life's requirements and responsibilities, or cheating on others just to get by.
  • They need to learn the art of following through on their responsibilities.
  • Show them why stealing is bad, even take them to prisons if need be.
  • Not to seek sex before marriage, or pervert their minds with pornography.
  • Occupy their time wisely, show them what wasting time does to potential.
  • Teach them not to gamble.
  • You yourself shouldn't be doing illegal drugs, so influence them not to & even take them to hospital drug programs, AA, or half way houses to see where it leads too.
  • Give them real life reasons of why they shouldn't hang out with bad company.
  • Children need education no matter what, teach them at home to reinforce their learning process, so you may need to re-educate yourself as well, go back to school or seek online education.
  • Teach them the organic ways of eating natural foods and drinking water.
  • Material goods need to be a minor focus for them, they need to learn the true significance of why they have certain physical things of a personal ownership or possession, and its not just for playing games with or showing off to impress others.
  • Teach them not to be so status conscious, because it shall hurt us all in the end, having pride in oneself and our accomplishments is one thing, but being snobbish about it all and conceited is another reason our world is hurting today.
  • Learning to love thy neighbor is one key in life, and defies social ills, beginning with them discovering what true friendship is as parents need to show their children love, affection, sharing, giving from the heart and they need to be given quality time so they can learn these essential real life nurturing values thoroughly.

Note: There's loads more things that they need to be shown, but these are basically what are causing many social ill's today as they grow older into adulthood and act out things we have failed miserably to teach them as parents and role models. So again if anything is going to change for the better it shall begin with our children.

It hurts to see children cry, or go unattended due to parental neglect, and so please watch your kids and take care of them



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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      Hey Carol thanks for the comment and all. I do know that this has been our truest and ultimate problem worldwide. and even if a person grows up in a bad environment.

      If the parents or role models of the family are good to their children/relatives, I do believe that the world will be 100% more better & positive. Just because a person is poor or starving condition doesn't mean they will lean towards being evil or bad towards others around them. (Negativity is a psychological condition for sure, and mostly a trained mental condition I do believe)

      I know this because I grew up that way myself, and wouldn't ever do harm to a single soul on this planet.

      I love humanity and earthly creatures to much to see anything suffer or go through pain, and definitely not by my own doing either.

      I hope people wake up soon, and quit being so self centered all the time, it is at the root of this issue for sure.

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      carol stanley 5 years ago from Arizona

      thanks for this hub. I think all life that is to be good must start with good parenting. However, many kids don't get that benefit. I think parents need to get a license to have kids..we do drive or go fishing..but we know all that. I had a very good childhood and fortunately so did my kids. They are both productive people in our society bringing up their kids with values etc. Just think how much better our world would be..oh well. Great job here as always.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      Thanks @Dan Barfield, I'm happy you thought my hub here was useful, and thanks for sharing.

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      Dan Barfield 5 years ago from Gloucestershire, England, UK

      Superb hub - very insightful, full of useful advice. Voted up. Shared.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      @Louisa Rogers, We all can help to change this world collectively, and we can start by sending positive messages on Youtube for starters, and instead of always sharing the silly, entertaining funny stuff all the time, we can begin movements to share real peoples content, people who care for the likes of others, rather then just for themselves.

      I'll be damned if I'm going to just sit here and watch it all crumble, I was placed on this planet for a purpose, and that is to inspire others to try and bring real changes to our humanity, and I will not stop until my last days on this earth, because I was one of those kids, I grew up in the worst of environments on this planet, and I will not allow others to suffer any further as I have if I have this communicative power to make a difference.

      Thanks for the comment, but if we all thought that way then nothing would ever change for the better, and we all need to act to make it happen, do something right for the likes of others is another way, forget about just focusing on the negative things all the time, lets fix them one step, one person at a time. Whether its online or on the ground, we all need to chip in to put sufferage of the children to an end once and for all.

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      Louisa Rogers 5 years ago from Eureka, California and Guanajuato, Mexico

      Yes, I agree, but I also think parenting is enmeshed and inseparable from other societal problems that all need resolving. My sister teaches at-risk children, some of whom have never seen a fork. Why? Because they're being raised in poverty, perhaps by one parent (or often a grandparent), there was violence at home, alcohol, etc., etc. Yes the parents should not neglect the child, but when the parents were so emotionally needy that (in my opinion) they shouldn't have had the child in the first place, what do you do? It just goes on and on.

      It will be instructive and I think somewhat troubling watching the next couple of generations unfold.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      @always exploring, thanks Ruby for the wonderful insightful comment up there, I did my very best to point out all that I have experienced in life just hoping and praying for my parents to miraculously change for the better, and I know if all us adults decided to one by one give it a try, drop our selfishness, and adjust our loving care in the directions of all children, and as much as we could it would help a great deal.

      I know it works, because it is working here in my home with my younger cousins, and I owe it to my uncle because they are his children and he's helped all my life be the positive role model as well, so the cycle of failures in our family have been broken in regards to us.

      More people need to try to use education, and caring genuinely for others as a start to fixing our world today, it won't save humanity, but its worth a try to make things better for the future and all.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Your hub is powerful. The family unit is broken in many ways, i think mainly due to economics. The mother and father both must work, leaving the children alone too much, or many times there is only one parent. It is so very important to teach our children about God, no certain religion, just that God rules the universe and that he loves us. The main teaching is the Golden rule, " Love your neighbor as yourself. " Thank you for sharing..

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      Yes indeed RC, for real change to occur it must start at the very beginnings of life, and we the adult must see to it that our kids and their kids understand such a principle of caring, of sharing, of giving, of being fair, and loving to all walks of life, and not just to one specific group.

      Change must be a universal concept that can even bridge the gaps of cultural differences, and traditions that accept such a royal change can add their part to it all. The world isn't separate for no reason, and God came down once to try and bring such changes to humanity in the form a a man, Jesus Christ as was written in the Bible, so I think once he comes down again thy shall be done, thy kingdom cometh!

      As for those people who don't believe in such a religious story, well it may take more to change them, because many of them were born into this world to be rebellious to anything good in nature I do believe for the most part.

      Thanks for the comment and for being so kind to share with me today.

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      Rich 5 years ago from Kentucky

      Mike - If I could count the times Bill and I have talked about the lack of family values in today's world. I believe that this is the primary reason for the political correctness we experience. If a child isn't taught basic manners, respect, and common sense at home, the laws have to be made to ensure these lines are still followed. As less and less of these are commonplace teachings, we have now had more government intervention into our daily lives and activities. The larger concept here is that the family of one becomes the family of many, or the family of "mankind" if you will. As you've brought out, the teachings in the home do affect society. You can see where it's at and the need for change. Now, all that has to be done is to get the millions without vision to see. Great job, my friend!

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      @MartieCoetser, yes indeed the dissolving factors exist when it comes to family values, and are in its most prevalent form for sure. I think its gods way of telling us we are headed straight for self destruction, if we don't correct it all in time, and time is surely running out for us all.

      I just hope more folks come to terms with their selfishness they've grown comfortable with, as you stated as in going with the flow and all.

      If such a personal revelation were to occur, it may be possible for human rights to not even have a purpose any longer, because when every human starts to effectively change their hearts and spirits, we are truly headed for some good times on earth.

      I will keep on dreaming and doing my part until such a time, because its all that I truly have today. Thanks for the quick response and all.

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Cloud, one wonder where this issue is going. Just using history as an example, we can clearly see an awkward development of the family-unit. I can't help but see total dissolving of family-units in the far future. In its place I see only institutions such as schools and (modern) orphanages raising children, and perhaps true mothers and fathers, able and eager to raise children, would be involved as guardians. Really, too many people in this world have no idea what parenthood is supposed to be. They just go with the flow practicing crisis management. Just my idea..... And maybe, hopefully, only the best human beings would be allowed to beget children.... (To hell with human rights. Unless humans with rights learn how to exercise the responsibilities going with the rights.)

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      @MartieCoetser, thank you for that cool comment and for sharing my hub, yup you got that right good parents can and will make all the difference for sure, the question is how do people change into good parents whom are truly concerned and know how to raise children so to reach their maximum potentials in life.

      The trouble I think is where the family breaks down due to so much busy body stuff going on all the time, and the artificial world of today has created social divides even within the closest of families, and those tightly knit ones, which tends to defy core family values we once had worldwide.

      Education is also a huge factor in it all, and time spent on things of no relevance to real life today is through the roof pretty much.

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Of course, we are formed by our parents, our most evident role models. Excellent parents produce excellent children that will become excellent parents. This hub goes well with mine, so I am adding the link. Thanks, cloudexplorer!

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      @Sarra Garrett, thank you so much for the rave review here.

      I wrote this hub for humanity and to try to bring some realization to the digital table here when it comes to true ways to bring effective change to the world.

      It doesn't take money to fix a thing here on this planet when you think about it, it takes us all to realize what we are doing to the youth of today and to simply correct it all, one person at a time and no matter what social class we fall under.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      @billybuc, thanks bro for the cool comment and for sharing with me.

      I have thought long and hard about what it is that people truly need to change in life, and ever since I were a child I always wished that my very own parents could have miraculously changed, because all of the selfishness that manifest itself throughout their so-called love life relationship caused our families own social ills we all had to experience in life, lets hope more folks can awaken and rethink their lives out as they are trying to live it day to day.

      This is how I chose to select and to subject the title of this very hub, and its out of pure and uncut experiences converted into a global perspective.

      Thanks to my own initiatives of making it to college and with the loving encouragement of my beautiful mother. I was able to break free of their ignorance and blissful ways they unfortunately got caught up in as parents do in these modern day times.

      Learning many things with research help heal my social issues, but I had to live life out on my own terms to make such an effective change, and so I have changed just as you have done Bill, and it is possible for others to do as well.

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      Sarra Garrett 5 years ago

      I'll sum this up in one word. WOW! A powerful and truthful hub that couldn't have been written better!!!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'll tell you what, buddy; if this was your only H.O.W. hub then it was a powerful one. You hit the nail on the head when you said that without proper parenting all bets are off. We are facing a very steep uphill climb trying to change things if parents don't do their damn job as parents.

      Great points my friend, and thank you for taking the time to write a hub for this movement. I will not forget your kindness in doing so.