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The most horrible mother in the world

Updated on January 4, 2015

If you want to be a good mom-enjoy your time with your kids

The best thing you can give to your kids is your time...They will thank you for it.
The best thing you can give to your kids is your time...They will thank you for it. | Source

Motherhood is not easy

Ever have those days where you think to yourself, “Man, I am a horrible mother”? As a mother of two, very healthy, very hyper young children, this is a constant thought of mine. I think this every time I work late and am not there to tuck them into bed. I think this after I say, “I told you to hold on, give me a minute please”. I think and feel this whenever I don’t stop and listen to them when they want to tell or ask me something.

Truth is, as a woman, as a mother, as an employee and as a person, I am often overwhelmed by life in general and I sometimes feel as if I am failing as a parent, specially when my kids are throwing a massive fit over a toy or what Disney flick we are going to watch for the 100th time this week.

Parenthood is a learning curve

My kids are always showing me more about who I am- the good and the bad. Now I know what needs to change.
My kids are always showing me more about who I am- the good and the bad. Now I know what needs to change. | Source

Am I a bad mom?

When it comes down to the question, and the doubt that I am a horribly bad mother, I already know that the answer is, “No, I am not a bad mom”. I love my children, even when they are misbehaving. Sure I wish for a break at times, and there are definitely moments when I look at my children and pray, “Please God, give me the strength to handle parenthood and give me the wisdom to do what is right so I don’t screw them up too badly”. But when push comes to shove, I am not a bad mom, because every moment of every day, I do my best with what I have to survive another day of motherhood.

I don’t always, hold on- let me rephrase that, I rarely feel that I have the right answer or know the best way to handle every new obstacle, but I haven’t given up and I don’t plan to. I have to work so I can provide, that is a given. So there are days when their wants and maybe their needs are put on hold so I can focus on a career that I am also passionate about, but there has never been a day that I am not thinking about them and their futures.

What if I mess up at motherhood?

Even when you are at your worst, they still think you are the best (even if you don't-and even if they won't admit it)
Even when you are at your worst, they still think you are the best (even if you don't-and even if they won't admit it) | Source

I must be doing something right?

Motherhood has taught me so much about myself, and sometimes I think that they are actually teaching me more than I am teaching them, and this is the way that I think it should be. As hard as I try to be the best mother in the world, and as many nights as I lay awake worried about if what I am doing to raise them is what I should be doing, it only takes a second for me to realize and know for certain, that I am doing something right.

My kids love me, even if they sometimes say that they hate me. My kids depend on me, even if they wish they didn’t. And my children look at me every so often with a smile and then run up to me to give me a hug and tell me about their adventures from the day, and in that moment, motherhood is all that it is cracked up to be.

What your kids think of you

Raising kids in today’s world is hard, not that it has ever been easy. We all do the best that we can, and even when we think we are failing, we are not because we keep caring, and I guarantee that your children think of you, just as mine have told me they think of me, “That you are the best mommy in the whole wide world”.

I love motherhood-Truly, Honestly, I do!

How do you view yourself as a mother (or father)

Do you think you are a good parent?

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    • H.C Porter profile imageAUTHOR


      3 years ago from Lone Star State


      Thanks for the comment, and I am so sorry I wasn't more proactive with responding to it. I appreciate the belief, and I know in my heart that I am not too bad of a mom, although there are days when I am sure I could be better. :) Thanks again for reading :)

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      Christy Kirwan 

      3 years ago from San Francisco

      Hi Holly, love the photos of your little ones. And It sounds like you are definitely NOT a terrible mother, by any stretch.

    • H.C Porter profile imageAUTHOR


      3 years ago from Lone Star State

      I know exactly what you mean. They always want to ask a question, tell a story and let me know something right at bedtime. I feel horrible when I don't pay attention- but by 9pm (sometimes earlier), Mommy needs quiet and alone time before my head starts spinning.

      Thanks for the comment! I appreciate you stopping by!

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      Karen A Szklany 

      3 years ago from New England

      Very lovely reflection for the beginning of a new year. Yes, sometimes I think that putting a limit on how many "Calvin and Hobbes" comics my daughter can delay her bedtime with makes me the most inattentive parent in the world...but then I know we can eventually work out when is and when is not a good time for her to "share" them with Mommy....and putting off playing when I really want to settle down to cocoa and Legos can be painful...but we usually manage to make it happen within a week or so of the idea being born. ~:0)

      Hope you and your family have a year full of happiness, health, and prosperity!

    • H.C Porter profile imageAUTHOR


      3 years ago from Lone Star State

      I agree totally. I keep reminding myself that no parent is perfect, and that is okay. I also realize that when I look back at my childhood, I never saw anything that my parents did as being a mistake or thought it made them a bad parent. As a child I viewed them as the Best Parents in the World. Thanks for the comment sir, I appreciate it immensely.

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      Bill Holland 

      3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      We are stumble along this path. It's called being human. Today I can live with that, and look back on my parenting mistakes as the natural order of things


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