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The most horrible mother in the world
If you want to be a good mom-enjoy your time with your kids
Motherhood is not easy
Ever have those days where you think to yourself, “Man, I am a horrible mother”? As a mother of two, very healthy, very hyper young children, this is a constant thought of mine. I think this every time I work late and am not there to tuck them into bed. I think this after I say, “I told you to hold on, give me a minute please”. I think and feel this whenever I don’t stop and listen to them when they want to tell or ask me something.
Truth is, as a woman, as a mother, as an employee and as a person, I am often overwhelmed by life in general and I sometimes feel as if I am failing as a parent, specially when my kids are throwing a massive fit over a toy or what Disney flick we are going to watch for the 100th time this week.
Parenthood is a learning curve
Am I a bad mom?
When it comes down to the question, and the doubt that I am a horribly bad mother, I already know that the answer is, “No, I am not a bad mom”. I love my children, even when they are misbehaving. Sure I wish for a break at times, and there are definitely moments when I look at my children and pray, “Please God, give me the strength to handle parenthood and give me the wisdom to do what is right so I don’t screw them up too badly”. But when push comes to shove, I am not a bad mom, because every moment of every day, I do my best with what I have to survive another day of motherhood.
I don’t always, hold on- let me rephrase that, I rarely feel that I have the right answer or know the best way to handle every new obstacle, but I haven’t given up and I don’t plan to. I have to work so I can provide, that is a given. So there are days when their wants and maybe their needs are put on hold so I can focus on a career that I am also passionate about, but there has never been a day that I am not thinking about them and their futures.
What if I mess up at motherhood?
I must be doing something right?
Motherhood has taught me so much about myself, and sometimes I think that they are actually teaching me more than I am teaching them, and this is the way that I think it should be. As hard as I try to be the best mother in the world, and as many nights as I lay awake worried about if what I am doing to raise them is what I should be doing, it only takes a second for me to realize and know for certain, that I am doing something right.
My kids love me, even if they sometimes say that they hate me. My kids depend on me, even if they wish they didn’t. And my children look at me every so often with a smile and then run up to me to give me a hug and tell me about their adventures from the day, and in that moment, motherhood is all that it is cracked up to be.
What your kids think of you
Raising kids in today’s world is hard, not that it has ever been easy. We all do the best that we can, and even when we think we are failing, we are not because we keep caring, and I guarantee that your children think of you, just as mine have told me they think of me, “That you are the best mommy in the whole wide world”.
I love motherhood-Truly, Honestly, I do!
How do you view yourself as a mother (or father)
Do you think you are a good parent?
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